Bi& a Wife Needs advice?

We are married 14 yrs we have 6(extremely bright,happy well adjusted kids)...I was raised by 2 lesbian moms


DH was an only child. I love him immensly. I was with more girls b4 marriage then men. He knew of my orientation since day 1. I feel like I am dying on the inside with out female sexual companionship. He is open to me having a gf but ideally would like to participate which I am not so interested in,(the him participating part.


I wish I could cut myself in 2.


Is it fair to have a gf with his good grace discreetly, but not include him?Bi%26amp; a Wife Needs advice?
i feel your pain, you long for a one on one intimate relationship with a woman, then your husband wants to join in and live the guy with two women fantasy and that just ruins it, you can,t have intimacy in a three way, i think its perfectly OK for you to have sex with a woman and not have to include him after all he did know you were bi before you married him, he should respect that!Bi%26amp; a Wife Needs advice?
No its not fair at all. Why do you need a lesbian for? Females are meant to be with Males not other females. I guess I will get lots of thumbs down but sorry that is my thoughts on it.
I don't know what's acceptable for your relationship. You need to ask him this question, and see how you can change your marriage relationship agreement to reflect what you wish to introduce.





My only advice is check with yourself and make sure you really want this because of it's own merit and not because you wish to escape the life you're living. 14 years and 6 kids can be draining, even if they are all great people. If you're seeking this as an escape to a more interesting life, it may not fulfill you in the end.





That said, polyamory can work, it just takes an awful lot of time.
14 years! Girlie, I don't get it. You were happy for a very long time, what happened? I am Bi but I believe in monogamous relationships. Commit or share.
if he's ok with it, with his participation, then it's ok. if you wish him not to participate then you're cheating i guess.