Newly married navy wife... seeking advice?

My husband and I have been married for not quite a year.. and in this past year, we have moved, had to make friends , had to re-do our schedules, and had to become comfortable with our married life and choices we have made FIVE TIMES... I'm really trying to emphasize the five times..


so here's my question.. I always hear that the first year of marriage is always the hardest.. and especially for military spouses who's husbands and wives are gone majority of the time.. but we seem to be doing quite well. Only problem is that I can tell that all this stress from th past year has been taking a toll on my husband, he doesn't sleep well, we argue about things that don't even have anything to do with me and him (mostly bout his work) and the personal life is staring to drag.. any suggestions on how I can make him feel more comortable, less stressed and/or happier with the way things are turning out for us? I want him to be as happy as I am..Newly married navy wife... seeking advice?
Yea, more info needed...


5 times what?


What is his Rate?


What is his sea shore rotation?


What specifically does he get upset about?


What part of the country is his home port in, ie east coast, west coast, gulf coast, land locked NAS somewhere, D.C. Indianhead etc...?Newly married navy wife... seeking advice?
Suprise him bake him a cake and write sweet things on top of it, make his fav! also, dress in some s*xy outfits that will make his jaw drop. show him how much you appericate him even when everyone else doesnt! he will be so happy to have you as his wife!
Make time to do things together. Walk or run, bicycle together. Be sure to plan things for the weekends so you have something to look forward to.
Keep him sexually satisfied and you will not have to worry about his happiness.
Five times of what?





I don't see what you are trying to get at. Sorry
No matter what, take time out for yourselves. (Lunch, dinner, sexy time, ect.) The more you argue the further apart you will be. I am a military wife as well and knows how hard it is, especially if he is unhappy with his career field. The smallest things you do will make a world if difference for him. I make it a point to pack his lunches daily. For you, get involved with the family support group (or what ever the navy calls it). They have tons of information on what is going on at work and could give you a little insight of how his days are going. About the sex, your husband could be like mine. When the animals are waking up from hibernation, so is his sex drive. He may have a season where he is real interested in sex, and some season where he wants very little.
I was a military brat and wife, pretty much a product of moving my whole life. I can give you two different perspectives of this, from a child's stand point and as a wife but I want to focus on the wife perspective because of your question. When you are a military wife, it tends to be more work and stressful than a typical marriage. There has to be almost a double dosage of everything, from love to patience. When you chose to marry your husband, you also chose his career and by doing this, his pressures and stress is yours as well. Communication is the key and understanding. I know at times you probably want to give up and flip out but those moments are the moments where he needs you the most. Sometimes he may just need a hug like yourself. Simple things can make them happy, because their jobs are so strenuous and they take orders all day by people who pretty much treat them like crap, they want to feel some self worth, so their insecurities may come out at home due to this. Just remind him what a great job he is doing and encourage him in every good thing that he is doing for you and your family. Marriage works both ways and I've learned that when you do your part in love that it will eventually come back to you so much more. You may not see the benefits now but great things come to those who wait and I believe the love that you are investing in not only your husband but a solider who is sacrificing his life for others is a true servant. Hang in there and whether it's a hot meal on the table or a foot massage, it will be well worth it because you will be a true queen to him and when he realizes that you were there for him in his time of need, that will be an amazing reward for you.
Is your husband new in the navy as well as a marriage? It does not sound like he has been in the Navy long, since he has not adjusted to the way of life in the military..





Most learn to deal with the stress and you must be flexible and ready to move at a moments notice.. Changing duty stations quite frequently and the many changes that take place for everyone...





What I have tried with my soldier who is now deployed is this, when he comes home from the base I do not speak to him for a least an hour, this gives him time to unwind and do whatever it is he wants to do for an hour..


After wards I pamper him as much as I can, and am there for him should he want to talk which he normally does and you will realize that they really do appreciate that hour for themself before needing to deal with any issues at home..





Reassure him that you support and love him and will always be there for him when he is ready to talk to you..


NEVER REPEAT anything that your husband talks to you about......





I have offered my husband advise to deal with the stressful days and it seems to work for him, as I am certain that you will do the same and your husband will know just by your being there for him after he is giving the time alone each day that he can rely upon you and will put his total trust in you....





Do not be a clingy wife, assure him that you are more than capable of handling things should he receive order to ship out, the last thing he needs to be worried about is a wife who is not capable of handling things on the home front while he is away.....





Welcome to the military wifes club, I know you will be great and be a wonderful military wife.....





Thank your husband for his service to our country and thanks to you for the support you show to your husband...





Best of Luck
I don't think you can ';make'; him happy. He'll have to find happiness in his own way.





You can help him to find happiness, by emphasizing the good times that you have had together, by talking about how great the future will be together, by making plans for the future and sharing dreams for the future.





Don't make too many demands on him. Give him space. Let him know you love him. Do nice things for him when you can. Give him passion.





When he argues with you, remind him that you realize that he's under stress and don't engage in the arguing. Redirect the conversation to something more neutral.





Try to have as much fun together as you can and don't sweat any small stuff...it's not worth it.





The first year of marriage can be an adjustment period, it's true. Mine certainly was. Now we've been married for 13 years, but at first...it was rough!





Hang in there!
I am married to a Army man, and they treat him like he is in prison. My husband is the same way, but worse..he comes home...and sleeps! I just leave him alone. When you try t6o talk to him he will just get madder...Maybe..i dont know him. But I would just bite your tongue and let him be upset, there is nothing you can do, he is in the military he cant just quit. Just support no matter what.....and work at your marriage. Nobody does that anymore. I stayed with my husband through all the times he just came home and fell asleep. It sucked for me, I was alone all the time. But I am still married...and I plan to be for many more years