A)To end it now before his wife comes back (and this will traumatize his new girlfriend cos she has severe emotional problems due to a history of being abused) but he dosent want to hurt her cos he loves her.
B)He could ask her to be the other woman in his life which would mean he can be there to support her emotionally %26amp; continue the relationship without his wife knowing (I told him he wouldn't be living a double life, he'd be living 2 seperate truths).
C)He could just run away wif his new girlfriend but that would mean he would lose his house and kid.
these are the only options I could think of to tell him, has anyone here got any ideas on what he should do?Should my friend leave his wife? need advice?
Commit suicide?Should my friend leave his wife? need advice?
You are a MANSLUT!! and a terrible father to your kid!
Well, choice B doesn't sound like a very good option. So he's left with choice A or C, which ruins someone's life. I think he should choose A, leave the girlfriend and keep his family stable for this wife and kids sake. He might get hurt, kind of his own fault though. Then he needs to take important step 2, which is to go into counceling. He obviously has some issues he needs to deal with if he's cheating on his wife and messing up other people's lives. Step 2 is VERY important. Without it, he will probably end up with another choice A, B, or C.
well this is a big problem this means that he got a lot on his hands what he should do is dump his girlfreind and stay with his wife cause i mean is just terriblle especially for the wife let them be freinds cause relly he lied to the girl which means that once the girl finds out she will get more hurt than before what your freind should do is be freinds with her and support her in each everyway. as freinds now if the wife is a terrible wife then get a divorce and then he could go with his girlfreind leave her take his child and leave well thats my option but he has to be freinds if not your freind can to lose everything at that moment i know is a terrible thing to say but is the truth.
whah?????? what kind of options are those, hes going to be married forever, he invested too much of his life in that marriage, shes gonna have to be one hell of an amazing woman to leave all that behind for, i guess he knows what hes doing I'm sure hes known her long enough to make that decision, she might be psycho and end up killing your wife, you should put them in the ring together and let them fight for you, i think once your wife finds out the truth and so does your girlfriend they ll both start punching you hehehe. he knows all this and he aint goin nowhere, hes pretty much screwed.
this sure is tough too! we aren't perfect, that's why your friend came to this situation...
your friend, might pick the first option you gave: he must stand firm as he was already married... he might just be missing the presence of his wife, that's why he did things like this..
hope you could get more advices from the Bible, New international version
Romans 12:9-21(NIV): Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good. Be devoted to one another... Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer... Live in harmony with one another. Do not be proud... do not be conceited...Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everybody. If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. Do not take revenge, my friends...';
romans 13: 10: Love does no harm to its neighbor. therefore love is the fulfillment of the law';
when he will have some doubts: they must talk it over, with a light heart, must be open with each other! never leave a question unanswered till the next day comes... i hope you can get answers from the Bible... God bless!
c';,)
Option D) Stand up and be a man! Tell the truth and stop thinking with the head between your legs.
You are supposed to be in a committed relationship with your wife. She deserves to know the truth. She should have the option to stay or kick your cheating butt out.
If you really loved the other woman you wouldn't be lying to her. You have a relationship with someone you know is unstable what happens if she decides to do harm to the child?
Best of luck to your wife and child.
Your friend is a liar and a cheat. He needs to get out of his marriage BEFORE he does anything else. Then, he needs to tell his girlfriend the truth. You say he is afraid of hurting her? He already HAS hurt her by lying to her.
If they both leave him, tough. He gets what he deserves.
And, BTW-you need better friends! This guy is a loser-move on!
tell him to forget the chicks man, they're not worth it, ...just protect the kid, forget everyone else
You both have been watching too many soap operas. Nothing good will come of any of this. Poor child caught in the middle
You forgot option D. Leave both the girlfriend and come clean with his wife -- giving her the option of leaving. He's the one who made those decisions, now he has to deal with the consequences.
If he really wants to be fair to all involved, this is what he'll do.
Well I would think he should be honest with his wife some peopel are not in love with each other just casue of kids. He should be a man and tell the girl he was seeing the whole truth too and if she is dumb enought to stick it out let her have him . But he should still be a man and have a part of his childs life. But he might wind up alone but is caught in way to many lies and must not even know the truth. Should get a DR's help.
Well your friend should have faith in the power of prayer........ he can pray that his wife gets hit by a bus or a train or even falls off a cliff (accidently of course ;) )
If he isn't so lucky i guess he can use a strip of fishing line to strangle his wife to death!!!!!
This way he can keep his son and the skimpy sexy 21 year old and live happily ever after.........aaaaaah wat a life it would be ;)
';Your friend'; is a major ******. He has taken advantage of a vunerable young woman and betrayed his wife. He needs to learn to be a better person. That's the only advice I have.
I know because I was in his shoes.
Telling his wife and choosing the one he wants to be with is the only right option.
am i the only one in this world who still holds marriage vows sacred? dude, ur friend is not bein true to his wife. so unfair for her. i see 2 options: 1) he breaks it off w/ the 21 year old and act like a real husband or 2) break it off w/ his wife and be w/ the 21 year old. either way, the only guilty party is ur best friend. his wife and girl he's dating, are treated very unfair. wish him the best. but he should have never cheated on the 1st place.
He needs to make up his mind one way or the other I'm afraid. His first obligation is to his wife and family.
You aren't very careful who you choose for a friend. He's 32 years old and still this immature? This guy is cheating on his wife. He is lying to his girlfriend. He is not being the father of the year to his child. And why are you getting involved in this mess? There is one clear choice. He needs to grow up; stop seeing the other woman; and start being faithful to his wife if he's lucky enough to get another chance!. However, if his wife learns what a scumbag she is married to, she may very well make the choice for him!!
I think he needs to decide what is really important. You would think his wife and children would be more important than a fling. I'd hate to be in his shoes.
keep doing both of them and hope neither finds out.
it's what he wants to do, so let him.
Your friend is a jerk for being involved with another woman in the first place. I'll tell you what his wife should do, divorce your friend when she comes back to the states.
come clean with his wife and the two of them talk about what to do next
obviously, he can't leave his family but he's TORN BETWEEN. so, as a man,he should have been honest !but don't ask the girl to be his other woman. he will traumatize the girl. he'll be the reason that someday, the girl will lose her self-esteem. you guys are really nasty people. i don't know why my friends' guy friends, even some n webdate are liars!all you think about is yourself. there's no love at all.
He needs to say goodbye to the g/f. Then he needs to get checked for STD's. Then he needs to be a good husband and father from this point forward - or get divorced if he can't be faithful. Really sad situation.
there's a fine line between pleasure and pain, and in his case the pain will be coming soon, why doesn't he give his wife some options too, tell her the truth, or does he want to keep her around so everybody thinks hes a clean family man, maybe he feels obligated to be with his son, i think his son would be better off without him i mean what kind of values would that kid grow up with, i think if he put as much attention into his marriage as he puts into this other woman he might find out things about his wife that could amaze him, shes still a woman, someones sister someones daughter, someones mother(his son) she deserves respect because you choose to marry her and ruin her life, if he hates her so much why doesn't he divorce her, he never will divorce her hell just keep winging and whining all his pathetic life boo hoo look at me I'm unhappily married, he never even gave that marriage a chance to begin with, just divorce the poor girl I'm sure she can do a hell of alot better, the only thing he can get is stupid whore, im guessing he didnt meet his girlfriend somewhere respectable it was probably at a bar or over the net, what a looser, thats as good as he can get im guessing no decent woman would ever want him.
Your friend is a FILTHY PIG and a L+O+S+E+R!!!
Your friend should break off with both women and join a monastery if he can find one that would take him. What he'll actually do, is whatever he decides is good for him and it won't have anything to do with being the right thing for wife or girlfriend. You see, he is selfish and untrustworthy. Do the math --- he's taking advantage of an emotionally troubled 21-year-old to cheat on his wife at the risk of destroying his family. This is the kind of friends you hang around with?
What you should really worry about is having a friend like your friend. Wake up and smell the roses. Anybody that would be so despicable is not going to be much of a friend for anybody. He's probably only your friend because he can take advantage of you or use you in some way. When he's finds a better deal someplace else (read: meets a bigger sucker), he'll dump on you just like he's doing to the little woman.
Do yourself a favor. Get this problem off your conscience by calling the wife and the girlfriend and telling each of them what's going on. Then call your ';friend'; and tell him to get lost because you don't need friends like him.
He should stay with his wife.Sooner he tells the other girl what has happened(and he will have to tell her sooner or later).She is gonna get mad because he lied to her about who he really is.It makes us feel like you don't trust us or really do love us when you have to lie.Your kid shouldn't have to grow up without a father.It will haunt him for the rest of life.Don't leave your wife she needs you there to support her and love her.
he needs 2 break up from girlfriend and stay wit wife n kid cuz having a girlfriend is stupid cuz he has a nice wife, 1 child, good job, nice looking house and car and he wants 2 loose all that 4 his girlfriend? and he not faithful cuz he lied 2 his wife, child, bout his name and age what kind of man does that 2 his wife and kid? i don't one besides him. so u can tell him what i told u or u can tell him something different. i told what i think, but if u tell him my oppinion then he might take it da wrong way so make sure u let it out slow and calm, and don't 4 get what i told u k. and if u like my answer the best vote 4 it k- dis is the pretty baby gurl speaking!
I've been there bro...tell him he must look at this situation seriously, no options, no nothing, forget telling the wife because she will leave him, just worry about keeping his kid, as for the girlfriend, I dont see anything wrong with keeping a bit on the side, just make sure the wife never finds out
trust me the 21 yr old will find out his true age, his true name , probably she will have a melt down. true , also she could make like hard for he %26amp; his wife when she comes from holiday, he will be really stupid if he runs away with this girl , she will be the cause of there breakup , its really cheaper to keep his wife, trst me we women always get you men where it counts , your wallet
yes this is true, also I would probably guess that the wife will open up a can of whoop *** on this girl . it would be a sight to see let me know what happends ........
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