I have been married for 2 years and with my husband almost 8 years. He went to Iraq about a year ago. While he was there, rumor has it he couldn't stay faithful. He cheated on my with a marine girl who I knew. Although I supported him for the 8 months of his deployment, sending cards, gift packages, late nights on the web cam, this bomb shell was dropped on me when he came back.
If anyone is familiar with the military, he can get in a lot of trouble for cheating. Therefore, he hasn't flly admitted it. I know it from his friends and family members. But from him they are just ';friends';... and she now lives with him. He filed for divorce when he came home but pulled it back because as he says he knows I need the medical benefits. I know that he pulled it because of money and housing that he would lose once he is a single marine.
Right now, our marriage is contractual. I live in Ohio and he lives in California. We are keeping it this way until I finish school in a year and a half. I want to know what I should ask him for spousal support. When he was deployed, we saved about 20,000. He spent about 12,000 on racing parts for his car and took the other 8,000 and moved it to new bank account he opened.
He makes 4,000 per month. 2016 is BAH and his rent is only 1300. I want to know what is a fair amount to ask for spousal support. I work hard full time too and go to school full time. I no longer get financial aid because of how much money he makes so I'm paying for school all on my own. I need some advice!Marine wife needs advice while going through divorce...?
You're right, he can get in trouble for cheating. However, he would get in so much more trouble if anyone found out about your contract marriage. Since it didn't start as contractual, I doubt there is an actual contract to it, but rather just a decision to stay married for his money and your benefits. You really have no ground to stand on, I hate to say. It's not as if you can take this to base legal because your contractual husband isn't being fair. You don't want to draw more attention to yourself than you have to at this point. The best you can do is tell him if he doesn't start paying you to keep your mouth shut, then you'll sing like a canary.
Oh and let him know that most likely they will get back all his ill-gotten BAH.Marine wife needs advice while going through divorce...?
Some advice would be to divorce him, report him for cheating and don't concern yourself with spousal. Spousal is not a character punishment for him being a bad husband, he shouldn't have to pay anything.
Yes, he is a jerk, and yes you can report him for cheating if she is living with him it will be obvious. Once you divorce his income won't affect your financial aid.
Forgive him...
I would imagine it gets pretty stressful over there....still no reason to cheat, but considering the circumstances...is he sorry?
No one is perfect...in my opinion, lustful thoughts are cheating...%26amp; we all do that.
i don't know.
Hun divorce is an ugly thing, I'm a daughter of a divorce and I wish everyday that my mom and dad can make up and get back to together, I love them both and I don't like bouncing from house to House every week, it's tiring. If you have any kids just think about them, they don't want to see you guys split up, and I don't know you but I wouldn't want to see it either. when you get married when you say your wedding vows, you say for better or for worse, but most people just mean for the better, and then you say until death do us part, you guys are committed, and I would just ask him if it's true, and if it is then ask him if he still loves you...and if he does then I would go and renew your wedding vows, I mean marriage is forever, what I want you to do, I want you to watch the movie Fireproof, it's the best movie to watch in this kind of situation, it helped a lot of marriages come back together, it's a kenndrick brothers film. And have your husband watch it with you. and would you please email me and tell me how it's going. I wish you the best of luck.
Don't forgive him. That's crap. I'm glad he was serving our country over there but that by no means gave him an excuse to do such a disservice to you. You divorce him. You get be glad you don't have kids with him (I hope) and you move on in life.
Since there are no kids and you sound like an able bodied women, I don't agree with spousal support. Sorry. Figure out whether it's worth more to you to get the free military benefits or if it's worth more to be single and save on tuition and then divorce him accordingly.
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