I have been cheating on my wife... Need advice BAD?

My wife, whom i will not name for privacy purposes, and I have been going through a rough patch recently. Although we have been happily married for 12 years and had 4 children we have begun to fight constantly. So after these fights I need to unwind and oft find myself at a certain gentlemen's club where I ';take a load off'; anyways after one particular fight I was a little tipsy and payed for ';satisfaction'; now the lady that I was involved with on this night I have become involved with... What should I do. As a deacon for my church I need to know if I should step down? Should I divorce my wife and repent to god? Should I just suppress my urges to diddle my doodle in her soft spot?I have been cheating on my wife... Need advice BAD?
I am impressed by your witty ';problem';. I understand that those who frequent more academic areas of yahoo answers might find the problems posted on this area to be a bit laughable. I myself find it hard to believe that some of these people really can't figure things out for themselves and post some of the questions I read.


What I find even more amusing is that someone might take your issue seriously and answer with a heartfelt response.


Good job - we all need a reality check now and then.I have been cheating on my wife... Need advice BAD?
you first have to come clean with your wife then step down at church and then call it off with this one person you've been seeing and then go and REPENT for what you have done





or you can be like most men I know and just have a cold beer while pondering this thought and do none of the above and live life


GOD knows we are not perfect and I thik he understands and accepts this as well
I hope you're a troll but it wouldn't surprise me if you're not. If you ARE a deacon, step down because there are already enough hypocrites in the church. How can you cheat and then feel as though it's ok because you have 'repented'? Geez, most of us have rough patches in our marriages and most of us are tempted but since you followed through, you broke the vows you made in front of your God. Hope you're proud.
You're having sex with a whore??? Therefore you are a unclean, adulterous filthy vessel and definitely, need to step down as the deacon of the church, you damned hypocrite!





You know...I don't believe that you were ever a Christian man by the way you sound, you lying savage!
Get rid of Hooker. Step down from your position. Tell Wife.





You committed adultery. Repent now! Oh, and don't do it again.
WTF? diddle my doodle...


You're a CHEATER! What makes you special? Learn to deal with and communicate with your wife instead of run and ';take a load off'; like bringing the garbage to the dump! DEACONESS....SHAME ON YOU!
You married for 12 years and a deacon and ask strangers for help, See a marriage councilor.
You have ';embarrassed yourself';


your family!


your church!


confess to all, and hope for forgiveness!
Seriously, you might could try paying your wife, that might make her alittle more available to you..... maybe your fighting alot with your wife cause your Doodle is limp like a noodle and she is not pleased?....I dont know.....:)


Silly question...:)
You admit it to all and then find out wear that road leads
tell your wife you're in love with a hooker already





oh god how do you sleep at night
You need counseling
you have quite an imagination for asking questions.


you are so not serious and none of this shocks me.
your nasty! i hope she comes in and cuts your ';who-ha'; off!
You are a ******' retard!
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What is going to be gained by telling her? Nothing - but you stand to lose a 12-year marriage and 4 kids, if you do. If you're going through a rough patch, then you need to go to couples' or marriage counseling; they'll help you work through things and get to the root cause.





You're feeling understandably guilty are trying to punish yourself. Don't step down as deacon, don't divorce your wife, DO repent only if you feel you really must, and break things off with this other woman. How are you involved, and what kind of woman do you usually find a ';gentleman's club? From now on, instead of unwinding at a gentleman's club, put on some running shoes and go for a walk or a jog. That will unwind you better than sitting around in a club and drinking, and it'll make you fitter and healthier in the bargain, both you and your marriage.
you are no deacon of any church. but you are a lying cheating lowlife excuse for a what ever you might refer to yourself as. what you need to do is tell your wife so she can make her own decision with which path she would like to take.


I bet you are the type of man who makes his wife put on a smile and continue the day as if her husband isn't an embarassment to her which internally you know that is the way she feels about you.


Watch out hero your wife might have beat you to the punchline better said by you as the sack.. SHe was probably boerd with your little doodle.. god bless from someone who knows the meaning..
This question is so egregious that I'm tempted to think it's a joke. BUT, assuming that you're 100% serious, you have a lot of ';repenting'; to do.





First of all, it is never acceptable to cheat on your wife.





Secondly, you are the worst kind of religious hypocrite. Drinking, going to strip clubs and acting as deacon on Sunday. What the hell, man?





Thirdly, you're involved with a HOOKER? You can say she's a stripper or whatever, but if you paid for sex then she's crossed the line into prostitution. I hope you used protection.





What you do depends on how badly you want to save your marriage. If you truly love your wife, stop cheating on her. Period. There's no need to tell her what happened, not unless you want to wound her beyond belief. Put your energy into making your marriage work, not chasing strange tail.





As for your relationship with God, only you know what to do about that. But I believe the bible says something about ';repent and sin no more';. I'd take that to heart if I was you.
Oh Poor You!!! How hard it must be to be married and go through a rough spot together just to go find comfort in a another woman's Vagina! Come On!! Are you kidding me!?


For you to even suggest that you could continue to doodle in her soft spot only goes to show you have no remorse for what you have done by not only betraying the laws of god but to deceive and discredit the woman that married you and had your children.


So I would suggest you take a long look at yourself and see what it is you want because it doesn't sound as if you want your wife and kids!~!


As far as you r doodle girl .....Hey don't you think shes doodling other men as well!? So she want be yah holla back girl! Sorry!:(
just keep banging the other chic when the need urges. i don't see what the problem is.