New military wife-- any advice?

I'm 19, my husband is 21. We've been married 10 months, together for 5 years. He was reserves for 3 years, and just went active this past year. I moved to Ft Hood to be w/ him after Xmas. Since then I have been so lonely. I nanny for 3 kids in my home, so I get no adult interaction there. I've tried FRG-- but we have a crappy one here. I've also tried getting to know the wives of my husbands friends. But theyre all but non existent! Most of his buddies have contract marriages and don't even live w/ the girls! The others I've met have all had children. And I get the impression that I don't fit in because I don't have kids, and we don't want kids until I at least finish college *online classes only because of my work hours*. Where can I go to meet people? I don't want more ';couple friends'; I want GIRLFRIENDS. THe go out and have drinks and dinner friday night, go out dancing, go to the gym, just hang out and watch chick flick kinda gfs. Any advice-- GREATLY appreciated. :DNew military wife-- any advice?
I'd suggest you stop being a nanny and get another job.





Your job is keeping you home all day.





If you held a regular job, you would be out of the house and meeting people all day.





If your husband plans on making a career out of the military, now is the time for you to get a civil service job.





The pay might not be great now, but the civil service promotes from within. And in a couple of years, especially if you get a degree, you could be making alot more money.





Plus meeting people from work and people you deal with all day.New military wife-- any advice?
Single soldiers are involved in BOSS. Your husband will know what this is. Maybe you could go to one of their events and meet some single soldiers that are women. Yes, I know you are married...blah blah blah....but there are women out there that are in the military and are bored!





You could also just start doing things...go to the gym, go out dancing and I bet you will meet start to meet people and then make friends.





Be aware that most FRGs are crap everywhere you go...just a place for military spouses to get into everyone else's business and they have too much time on their hands!





Just remember that being a military spouse really is the hardest job in the military and it takes work. Good luck!
well, it sounds like you're busy enough, so it'll be hard to go out and make some new friends, but if you really want some girlfriends, then i would do one or some of the following:





--ditch the daycare and get a job where you'll meet people...like a restaurant, retail store, call center, bank, etc...


--volunteer somewhere on the weekends where you can meet people.


--go out to the places you'd like go with friends and make some there. like go to a club and make some friends there or go to the gym and make a gym friend. strike up conversation and if you mesh, then ask her if she wants to get a smoothie after your workout.





also, as a sidenote....don't judge your husband's friends too harshly at first.


i have a great group of girlfriends, but one of them is just dating her marine and has no kids, but that doesn't stop her from hanging out with us and us making her feel part of our group. she is, however, more mature for her age...so that helps.





anyway....


instead of getting upset about it, just do something about it!!! start with adjusting your daycare hours. only watch the kids from 6am to 5pm. most people that have to be at work by 6or 7 will be off in plenty of time to pick kids up by 5.


then, you will gain 2 hours at night and feel better.





i really think you've gotten yourself into a pickle of a position and something has to give. so, iwish you luck and take care.
i mean no offense, but it seems to me that you are rejecting any suggestions that require you to make the effort to make friends. i too am a military wife and 6 months after i got married, uncle sam sent us halfway around the world to japan. i first i enjoyed staying at home, but when i started to get lonely, i went out and got a job dealing with people. try the bx/px/nex/affes....whatever store they have there on base. to be honest, there are days that i hate my job, but the friends that i have made make up for all of the sucky days that came with it. it all comes down to what you want and are willing to do to be happy.
Stay away from the NCO club.





Sorry tosay it but youare fast on your way to thelife of many a soldier's wife. Depressed, lonely and horny and being 19 on an armybase in Texas is not what I would subscribe as an ideal situation for what you've described.
it's a difficult situation coz your husband isnt around with you all the time to talk to you and fix things out.


I understand that sometimes you get bored and being with these married folks is kinda sickening to you too.


It's alright tha once in a while you go meet otehr people and you want the unmarried people. It's alright as long as you won't forget that you are married and maybe they aren't.


just don't go beyond the limit okay.


I know that youre still young so you give time for yourself to enjoy and hang out with other friends. Call you old friends, or go around your neighborhood, maybe some of them are still young like at your age but just be careful as to who to trust.


You can't tell after all. At the gym, you can find friends, ive tried it. Anyhow just try, and just wear a smile in your face so people wont have a hard time to approach you.


Good luck!
first of all,please dont feel that ';you dont fit in';because you dont have kids.you nanny for 3 so that as if you had 3!now if these girls are giving you that impression,then maybe you dont fit in with them for other reasons and not because you dont have any of your own.do you have relative or friend from home that can stay with you for a while?maybe the two of you can get out and meet new people together.have you also considered getting a job out of your house?i am sorry i hope i have been of some help.i am 30 yrs old and i wouldnt mind having another friend(one that is actually around for her man).im so sorry to say that ,but as a army wife.........you know what i mean.good luck and you can add me if youd like and maybe we can be friends online if youd like.
My advice is to satay away from the wives club in your base because they'll corrupt your mind and sooner or later you'll be doing stuff that later on you're going to regret so i recommend going to a local college and find friends there or find another job and becarfull who u choose as a friend.
Consider taking a class at a local college. You might make some new friends there. Being a military wife is very difficult as it's as hard on the wife as the husband being deployed. Try to be supportive and understanding and believe in your marriage.