For the guys....advice when wife is in labour?

hi all, my best friend is close to full term and her hubby is fully stressed out. I have three kids and myself and my husband has tried to calm him down. All my kids were induced so i was always in a hospital setting.


Any advice from the dad's out there???For the guys....advice when wife is in labour?
She knows her body. Let her decide what is best(with advice from the doctor or midwife)Be her advocate when she can't talk. Water with a straw, always get it for her. Count slow, but not too slow. And whatever she says in labour that's bad about you, she doesn't really mean. Oh yeah, when you cut the cord, keep your mouth closed, blood does squirt out a bit.For the guys....advice when wife is in labour?
Sorry, I'm a woman, but...





He needs to know that the best thing he can do for her is just to be there. She will be able to make requests of him during labor (like back rubs, foot massage, getting her things or even just holding her hand).





My hubby is going through this too. We are having a home birth (first baby) and I am 6 days overdue, so he is getting really stressed. We have talked about it together and with the midwives and he admits that the root of his problem is that he feels helpless. He is afraid because he feels his role is undefined and he doesn't know exactly what to expect. He feels like he has no control (and he doesn't, lol). I am reassuring him that he just needs to be there and be supportive, that's it. He also admits that he is afraid of my pain and afraid that he won't be able to handle seeing the ';blood and guts'; involved. I assured him that he doesn't even need to be down there, but can sit by my head and not have to look. (though I think he will be missing out :) He is more fearful and apprehensive than I am and I am the one who will ultimately be doing the work!





I would recommend that your friends husband talk to his pregnant wife and the caregiver about what he is feeling. He will be fine and do what he needs to do, that is all he CAN do.





I think most of the time for men this is an issue of control and the fear of losing it. He needs to surrender to the process and just accept whatever comes. He really is incapable of doing anything else anyway.





Our poor men are so fragile, aren't they! :) Bless them.
Ask him why he's stressed out?


Fear of being a dad / losing wife etc? I'm sure you can answer any concerns if you explore what it is that has him so anxious.


End of the day, tell him millions have done it, it's fabulous, do what's natural and love his wife by caring for her with back rubs / getting drinks etc.
my babys daddy was the same, tell him just to talk to her, hold her hand and tell her how well she is doing. she'll thank him for it later.
sorry I'm a woman to but i got to answer this. my husband was wonderful during both my labors best thing he can do is just be there. tell her he loves her and when it over let her know she did a good job. and thank her for giving him a child.

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