After some time of separation, I would like to get together with my wife. Any advice?

It's been 10 months.


Anyone who have been seperated like me and found ways to keep marriage alive, please input.





I've realized during our separation that no one is all good and no one is all bad.


We humans make mistakes sometimes and that's ok. That's how we learn. Instead of dwelling on the mistakes of the past, I want to use it as an education in life to do better in the future.





How can I explain to my wife who has sought out divorce to realize that greater good can come from our experiences if we apply the lessons learned?





HELP.After some time of separation, I would like to get together with my wife. Any advice?
Yes you are right,separation is a lesson and learn for all of us. and we all can't dwell on things that we can't never control, the mistakes, the betrayal is part of our life that we all must look back when we need to. Tell your wife how you feel, let your heart do the talking, and assure her that this time things will be different, and for the sake of your love to her,you can do all that you want. You are a strong person and you know now what you wanted in life, so show your affection and passion that you have for her,.....and I wish the two of you luck..After some time of separation, I would like to get together with my wife. Any advice?
Recourt her afresh. Send cards, gifts, letters. Ask her out (humbly) for dates (ostensibly to discuss your situation), but never discuss those. Speak of great times you have had. Dont take her for granted--She is new--after 10 months.
Have you had an open discussion with your wife about this? I wonder what has made her hammer the nail on the coffin when you sound open to change and to learning from the past.
Well, for one..therapy might help...





The experience that cause your seperation may have taken a harsh toll and has lead to where you are right now.





Whatever she did or you did has cause emotional issues with her and she may not be able to get passed them as easy as you have. You might want to understand that yourself. Sometimes something happens that is so destructive that it feels impossible for the other to heal. Although it can be done with help.





I would talk to her about it and whatever it was that cause it in the first place do whatever it takes to fix it. If it is an apology then do it. If it is a trust and respect issue, then start doing things to earn it back..whatever she needs to help...





Yes, I understand you have been hurt too....but it seems to me you have gone passed the issues and have put it in perspective...she has not yet..you need to help her if you are serious about repairing the marriage.
typically people that are separated go to counseling or talk and '; date'; to try to understand and work out the issues.





if your wife sought divorce, she may have found someone else or isn't interested in continuing the relationship, either way,, open communication with her is key
take her out to dinner and tell her all that you just typed; good luck!
Go and tell her how you feel, some women need to hear it. Talk to your wife from your heart,mean what you say. It's


always best to talk things through. Never leave them unresolved. If you really want her back then you have a lot of work to do. Prove yourself to her. Step up to the plate and be the man you say you want to be. Let your guard down and tell her how we all make mistakes, and how sometimes it takes a serious crisis to help you realize what truly matters in life. Show her you have changed and you want to make it work. The marriage means a lot to you. Good luck.....
Seek counseling and help for your marriage if need be before getting back together with her again. Take her out on a date here and there and start all over from scratch like you are just meeting and dating her for the first time. basically fall in love over again. Hold hands and have fun and do fun things together. Just tell her what you are telling us and tell her that you love her and want to start all over again. Good luck to the both of you and here comes lots of hugs your way.
Invite her out...do things together. You have to approach it as a new relationship and let it take off on its own, of course with plenty of attention from both parts.
Depends who did the cheating by the sounds of it was you ..........
Say the same you said here to her!
Depends on why you separated in the first place. If it was something major, that would be tough.





Tell her how you feeling and you are willing to do whatever it takes but make sure you follow through. Counseling?





Given the chance, be romantic, show her that you really appreciate her. It does not have to be shown on material things but make an effort by being romantic! That is the way to a womans heart!





Best of luck to you! Second time around may be the one for you both. Never know, she may feel the same!
I always recommend reading the book 'The 5 Love Languages'.





Each person responds to love in different ways. After a couple of evenings reading after work, you will have your answer.
Open your heart to her. Sit down somewhere neutral and talk to her. See if she feels the same. Don't be demanding, don't dwell on who did what to whom. All you can do is talk to her and ask if she is willing to try again. Maybe dating some would be a good start.
Tell her what you just told us! Just make sure your actions back up your words. If you really are interested in making your marriage work you need to SHOW her. Make an effort to spend time with her, even if you get rejected at first. Keep trying, that will show her how serious you are about this.