Cheated on wife - advice needed?

I cheated on my wife while she was pregnant. Yeah, it was not a good thing to do but I was under a lot of pressure at work and quite frankly my sexual appetite is simply too strong to resist at times. I do not want to cheat again, but my wife is almost like punishing me by not giving it up. This is not right, and yes I made a mistake, and I have paid a big price with no sex lately. For better or for worse was our wedding vows. I can't stay faithful under these guidelines my sexual motor is too strong. Advice on what to say to my wife to fix this issue.Cheated on wife - advice needed?
wow! If this is not the most selfish thing I have heard all day! First off there is nothing you can say so don't bother. I think you should get familiar with a little self love bc a - if your wife is preggy with YOUR child you should understand why she may lose her sexual urge. b - dude no excuse in the world you cheated! and consider yourself lucky bc nowadays most women dont' take that and you would've been out the door c - You seem like you have no remorse for what you did and you need to deal with the consequences.





Seriously take a min to think about how you feel and what you want . You have a wife and are about to be a dad, grow up.Cheated on wife - advice needed?
you had better repent to God for this sin of adultery and turn to Jesus,


life isn't about you.
Wow you are a pig. Have you ever thought that your wife is extremely uncomfortable if not in pain. All I hear in this post is wa wa wa. You will cheat again because you are not taking ownership of how horrible you were. This is not your wife's fault. You try dealing with the extra weight and strain on your body while being pregnant. It doesn't exactly make you feel romantic. Not to mention your poor wife is married to a guy that thinks it acceptable to cheat if he isn't getting what he wants.
I suggest you both read the proper care and feeding and husbands by dr Laura.





Quit whining though about your lack of sex. You made your bed lay in it for a while.
Talk to about her and let her know if she's not filling your desires your scared that it may make you want to get it from some one esle.
You do not say how long ago this all was, or how long its been going on that she's abstaining because of it. That matters...but I will say this: you really have only yourself to blame and understand the degree of betrayal is SERIOUS and marriages crumble for LESS than what you did. Right now? I suspect it is about time and re-building that trust, not JUST saying ';sorry babe';. Afterall, the woman was pregnant carrying YOUR child...you think it's fun being hugely pregnant and watching your body's shape go to the dogs? Then the breast feeding and all the parameters of new parenting we women truly seem to take care of more than our men? Hm.





-And now you're stating you simply cannot tolerate the punishment, that once again, your sexual libido is potentially threatened and may take precedence.





Well let me say to you guy, you have a longggggggg way to go to prove yourself, maybe 6 months, I don't know - but a long way to do in rebuilding that trust you torn apart for a fling. Sexual urges don't always = adultery ya know...there are, other ways of releasing sexual tension.





I would suspect all you can do is continue to SHOW your wife attention and if it takes 6 months? So be it. You made your bed, be man enough to lie in it IF, you love this woman and want your marriage to have another chance.





Sincerely,





Grace
I am The Other Woman in my situation and you were probably told this would blow up in your face when you least expect it. What is it that you want her to do? Go by the vows when it's convenient for you? I don't think you love this woman because your motor is so strong. You and I both know there has been many times your motor didn't even start. If you want your marriage to work out, then do whatever it is you have to do. If she makes you wait months, so what! She waited to meet her husband for years and look what he did to her. I believe in forgiveness but it is earned and not freely given. I wish I could say the same for your so called ';motor';! Good Luck.
I doubt she is trying to punish you. She is probably having a very difficult time being intimate with you after you cheated on her. After my husband cheated on me I still visualize his with her (and we have been divorced for a year, it happens with my new bf). It's traumatizing. Get therapy.
Have you ever heard of masterbation???





That helps to satisfy sexual urges.
It sounds like you need to go to counseling about your problem.


Can you even imagine how much you have hurt your wife? Also, what does ';pressure from work'; have to do with any of this? You sound like a stupid little boy with all this BS about ';my sexual appetite is to strong'; If you really loved and cared about this woman you would have been able to keep it in your pants. You need some SERIOUS counseling.





I hope your wife leaves you for this.Your child deserves a father who isn't a piece of crap like you.
This will take a lot of hard work on your part. It will take a lot of hard work on her part.





You will have to earn her trust again, that may take a long, long time.





I suggest contacting the organization below, they can help you both.





It will be a long haul, but so worth it.





Do it for you, do it for her, do it for the kids. You won't regret it.
Print this posting out and read it to her.
You suck, if no sex is all you think you have to ';suffer'; and that is enough, then you are a pig and an idiot and your problems will NEVER be resolved. I'm sure you're wife's problems (caused by YOU and no one else) are not so easily solved that she can come on yahoo answers and ask for advice.
she's the kind of woman that will hold it over your head forever -





tell her divorce is on the table and make good if things don't change -





no reason for either of y'all to stay in a vindictive non-communicating relationship, it will screw the kid up -
That's nonsense that your sexual appetite is too strong to resist. Are you a monkey at the zoo or a human? You have free will. Only a lack of morals and character would make you flirt, go to a secluded place alone with someone, and take your clothes off. And your wife could have satisfied some of your sexual needs during her pregnancy.





Since your wife knows, she now has this image of you doing the nasty with some trollop.





The only way your wife is going to trust you enough is if you take responsibility and show remorse for your actions. In your topic you show no remorse for your actions and are blaming everything except yourself. And you even have the audacity to suggest that you would cheat again. Is your hand broken that you can't alleviate your own sex needs?





In the meanwhile. be attentive to your wife and her needs. Allow her to yell at you. You are not going to be inside of her body until you rebuild the trust first.
Your marriage is over. She will never trust you again.
It sounds like you have a problem. Please don't take offense, but if these urges are stronger than your feelings for your wife, then maybe you should seek help, counseling. You see, if you can't stay faithful, you are going to lose your wife sooner or later and under these sad circumstances. Now there's a baby on the way or already here. There's too much at stake. If you truly love her and your baby, help yourself through counseling. Good Luck!
You can masturbate if you need a sexual release. All you are doing is making lame excuses for your immoral behavior.
Your sex drive is just like your other bodily functions, if you are old enough to not pee all over yourself you are old enough to go with out sleeping with another women. You didn't just make a little mistake you blew it big time and your lucky she even let you back in the house.
who ever put the kid, it has nothing to do with how he feels so save him from all that crap. You obviously feel confused. i would simply tell her to talk about it. DO NOT MENTION ANYTHING ABOUT CHEATING. Its one thing to tell the truth. But right before the baby is being born is not what she wants to hear. Save it for later if you want to come out and tell the truth. And i guess i feel you on women and marriage. A lot of them seemed to become lazy after marriage, even when not pregnant. And who says she cant have sex while shes pregnant? Id say talk to her, ask her upfront if she going to have sex while she pregnant. Tell her you have needs to. She doesnt have to flop down on the bed with you everyday. But im sure she would think you are acting funny if you refused to have sex. its a crazy ddouble standardin the world today, women can refuse to have sex, but its not okay to refuse them. In marriage there is compromise. She not your slave, she your wife. But she should be willing to compromise.
First of all there are no acceptable excuses for cheating. If you can't handle the lack of sex, take matters into your own hand if you know what I mean. I mean for god's sake, the woman just had a baby and you already using sex as a leverage to excuse your cheating. You/re lucky she even took you back, now don't start threatening to cheat again. If that's the first thought you turn to, then you need some help and I mean the type of professional help that comes with a PHD. Be a man and be a husband and a father. You're not a kid anymore.


Red
my advice is keep that stuff to your self she is very emotional at that point. But my answer to your sexual needs choke the chicken your self if you know what i mean.LOL then you not cheating on her but pleasing yourself in the mean time.hope this help alitte.
You made your point in your question. There is such a thing as time. Time heals. Yes, I would assume that after she feels that she has punished you enough, she'll relent. Ask her about it. She might be willing to relent sooner than you think.





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wow u r a horny muth$%%%26amp;%26amp;fu%%26amp;rrrr men like u should exist


just know that karma will hit u somehow sweetie


by the way u think she dosnt feel under pressure??? u are just something else
In this situation the both of you should sit down with each other and have a meeting of the minds, to try and resolve this problem because everyone is entitled to make a mistake. If she loves you then i believe she will give you another chance. And if you have anymore desires to once again repeat this kind of behavior, then as a gentlemen i would suggest to you in getting help for your sexual flights before losing your wife that you may regret later on. It's not worth it in the long run.
Get an even younger girlfriend... you have money and she'll be hott so next time you won't feel so bad.





That's how I roll.
Ok let me ask you this, how fast would you be willing to hop in the sack with your wife if she cheated on you? How fast could you get it up


after finding out her libdo had to go elsewhere?





You have no idea what you have done, you have destroyed her trust in you. You showed her that she can not count on you when she needs you. If your sex metor is so strong that you do not care how devestaed and compeletly crushed your wife is then I would strongly suggest you leave. That you are ready to rip your family apart for a booty call does not speak much of you as a father or husband.





Good luck to your wife .................
Obviously YOU and YOUR feelings are still your number 1 priority, do her favor and divorce her cause you'll never be any good to any woman.
FU*K THAT!! you're sex drive is too high!! BS!! Jack it off everyday!! She gave you the most precious blessing in the world - A child!!! And you repay her by cheating!!! You CAN help yourself, and you CAN keep it in your pants!! You just DONT' WANT TO!!! Don't be a liar as well as a cheater!!! SCUMBAG!!!!!!!