I'm so frustrated, I don't know what to do or say. She'll snap at me over nothing, and if I've reached the end of my limit for the day and happen to snip back, she accuses me of being cranky and storms off. I'm so sad right now because I don't know where my wife went to. We haven't even kissed in 5 weeks now; obviously we haven't had sex in 16 weeks and to be honest, I'm feeling neglected and hurt.
Is this the pregnancy doing this or is there something more going on ? I tried to talk to her but she dismisses me saying I'm being foolish and get over it. Anyone else ever go through this ?I need some 'pregnant wife' advice?
Wow- sounds like a communication problem; however trust me, pregnancy can make a woman do and say things they don't mean. I'm not excusing bad behavior on their part, but it's just a fact of life- a pregnant woman can be meaner than a junk yard dog and it's just something that'll have to be taken without reading too much into it.
I'd suggest that since it's been a few days since this outburst, have a non-confrontational talk with her and ask her if she really feels this way or if it was an emotional reaction to something. My wife said some pretty harsh things to me while pregnant and I asked her about it a few days later and she didn't even remember saying them! So, it's possible it was totally hormonal and she won't even remember saying it.
I'd suggest that you keep the lines of communication open at all costs...don't shut down or pull away from her, it will only make matters worse.
One last thing about your sex comment- it's normal. She probably is sore all over and tired from the moment she wakes up. She still loves you, she's just in no mood to be messed with and begging, pressuring or even hinting will further distance her. Take it one day at a time and don't take it personally...
Best wishes to you and you have my sympathy (I'm going through it myself right now so I can totally relate! ).
Have a blessed evening :-)I need some 'pregnant wife' advice?
The best thing youi can do is be nice when a woman is pregnant. Think about it like this she is going thru everything and all you are having to do is be tolerate. If youlove her its worth it.
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I dunno man, my old lady got psycho when she got pregnant. Still hasn't recovered. Scary times, man. Realizing there is nothing you can do is the first step to the problem.
It's her hormones, it's normal. Remind her to keep taking her vitamins daily.. thinks will get better as her pregnancy progresses. Believe me it's nothing that you've done.
I'm honestly sorry for what you're going through because it isn't good in the least. From my mountain top....your wife is letting her true feelings out towards your daughter %26amp; she's really p.o'd about being preggo. She's p.o'd at the world %26amp; you are the most vulnerable (if not your daughter) to feel her wrath.
awww :( good luck
its normal
SHE S PROBABLY HAVING AGIRL BUT I DONT THINK SUCH BEHAVIOR IS NORMAL MAYBE SHE DOESNT LOVES YOU ENOUGH CAUSE WHEN YOU LOVE SOMEONE YOU TRY TO MAKE THE PERSSON HAPPY EVEN THOUGH PREGNENT
During pregnancy, their hormones go a bit haywire. She may have these mood swings and things will fix afterwards.
Only 5 more months, remember that! Hang in there! Then you can have ammo in future arguments.
I think there's probably something else going on. A lot of woman use pregnancy as a chance to do or say what ever they want. I've been pregnant. There weren't any major mood swings or anything like that. In my opinion it's just an excuse to be mean to others and not have to pay the consequences.
its most likely he pregnancy.try to sit her down and ask her what bothering her.if she snaps at u just take it.just remeber she does love u,shes just pregnant n her hormones are all over the place right now.it should get better after awhile.the number one thing u have 2 remember is its only for 9months n she'll be back 2 normal...hopefully
I was that wife! Id leave my house at 2 in the morning just because he wasnt a mindreader who knew everything i wanted done! Cops were called to my home SEVERAL times because of my yelling......but the good news is this too shall pass. Pregnancy hormones, especially those first three months are wicked to us. We dont even know how we feel half the time so please dont take it personal. Try to just listen and not be patronizing and soon things will start to get better.
The problem I have is she is telling you she doesn't love your daughter and never has!!! This should be a BIG RED FLAG for you.
I know the hormones go crazy but I think she has gone over the deep end here.
My husband says get a lawyer!
I just about agree with him. Maybe you should go with her to the Doctor and see what the Doc says. Put a call into the doctor.
It's just pregnancy, but don't suggest that to her anymore though. Just try to be patient with her as much as you can. Her hormones should level out before the end of the pregnancy and your wife will come back to you.
Hang in there.
First of all put that feeling of neglect and hurt on the back burner. The moods are caused by dramatic change in hormone levels. The first trimester is by far the worst. However this DOES NOT give her a free pass to be rude!
What she said about your daughter is UNACCEPTABLE. I am afraid that somethings have surface that need to be addressed right now. The statement about your daughter being first. Her dismissal of your attempt at communication being second. Third her storming off.
Seek professional help. If you can't afford it a lot of churches offer free help.
Wow, that's tough. I'm married, but haven't ever been pregnant. I know women can be pretty hormonal, but the way your wife is acting seems pretty extreme. The only advice I can give is to try to get her at a time when she seems okay, maybe do something really nice for her and in that moment see if you two can talk without yelling. It sounds to me like there may be something else going on with her. Is it possible that she's really scared about having a baby? Was the pregnancy planned? Unfortunately, as hard as it may be, talking this through with your wife may be the only way to get through this. Good luck!
The 1st trimester is a horrible time, the second is completely different. Her moods should even out.
However, your wife doesn't sound like she is experiencing just the normal mood swings. The thing about not loving your daughter set off all kinds of alarms. Is it possible that your wife does not want to be pregnant? Regardless, you both need to see her OB, right now, don't wait. Write down everything you can about her mood swings, and in particular the thing about your daughter, and tell the doctor. This isn't foolishness.
a lot of hormones go though you when you are pregnant - i was not very nice when i was pregnant - i worried a lot about the baby - i think the only thing is she said she doesn't like your daughter that has to be discussed - try to talk to her by saying you want to talk about it but if now is not a good time it needs to be soon. good luck to both of you
I believe you are not the only man to have experienced this. Horomone will make her act out. You will notice in the 2nd trimester she will be feeling much better about things. Be prepared that towards the end of the 3rd trimester and after giving birth, these same horomones will be rapidly leaving her body, and again she will feel moody and probably act the same way.
I am really sorry that you are having such a tough time right now. Pregnancy can sometimes bring things like that out i a person. I am 10 weeks pregnant and someitmes the sound of my husbands voice drives me crazy, but i keep it to myself. I think in your case it is most likely just her hormones, but the whole thing about your daughter makes be think that there is something more there. maybe she is harboring feelings of jealousy and they are now being released. i hope it gets better for you. just try being supportive. maybe take some time for yourself too. good luck.
Well give her a break do have any idea what happens to a woman's body and mind when she's preg. She has so many new hormones of her own and the baby is putting off as well. I'm sorry you feel this way tell her that you love her and miss her and do nice things like foot rubs run her a bubble bath. Make her want you, tell her that she is just glowing and turning you on so much. Say I need you badly. Rub her belly and talk to the baby.
Pregnancy can be a difficult time for a woman.Especially the first one.I was the same way as your wife when I was pregnant.Her hormones are raging right now.Pregnancy hormones can make you a whole different person.They mess up your moods.She hasn't experienced this before.It's all new to her.She most likely doesn't know how to deal with the new feelings she has.Sometimes pregnancy symptons can be bad.Morning sickness,fatigue,leg cramps,mood swings,depression,etc.They can make a woman very uncomfortable.Most likely she's just at a loss for what to do about things she's feeling right now and she takes it out on you because you're the only one handy.It happens.It's most likely nothing personal.Why don't you read up on pregnancy?Maybe if you understand what it does to a woman you'll know how to deal with her better.Please don't let her get to you.She probably feels just as strange as you do about why she's acting this way.Once her body adjusts to the hormones she'll more than likely calm down.She probably didn't mean what she said about your daughter.It was just anger and she struck out at you in a way she knew would hurt you.I'll bet she feels horrible about it now.Don't give up on her or your marriage.The first pregnancy can be a difficult time.Things will smooth over.You'll all be happy again and even happier when you see your new child.Just give it a little time and patience.
Here's some sites on pregnancy that might help you
http://www.babycenter.com/pregnancy?intc鈥?/a>
http://www.uihealthcare.com/depts/matern鈥?/a>
I hope things work out for you and wish you luck.
Oh those crazy hormones!!! Try to ride it out. Some women are affected by pregnancy more so and in different ways than others. My best friend threw a 10 pound piggy bank at her husband's face when she was pregnant. YIKES. Imagine PMS x 10. That's pregnancy for some women.
But I completely understand why you are upset. I honestly don't know what to tell you other than to try and stay on her good side until the 2nd trimester which I know is going to be really difficult.
But I will say that hormones can't be blamed for EVERYTHING. I do believe that there may be a sliver of truth to her comments about your daughter. She may not actually dislike her but she may be getting on her nerves since kids tend to do that sometimes. Good luck friend.
it most likely due to her hormones being all out of wack. but talk to her when she's in a good mood.
Women get cranky when they are pregnant. trust me, i've heard that over and over and over and over and over again by health pros. it's just that your hormone's go haywire. you get really pissed, really easy. it'll be over after pregnancy, you'll get over it.
welcome to a woman being pregnant :) the hormones really get to you, so don't worry, she will calm down but don't expect it to last long....lol pregnancy has its ups and downs but once she has given birth it will all be better again
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