My 9 month old son gets progressively hysterical if out of sight of my wife or I. Any advice?

He suffers from separation anxiety. This is VERY common and has to be addressed or it will cause problems later in life. Read some books on the matter there is plenty of literature on the subject.





I believe the best thing to do is to leave him alone for a small interval of time even though he may throw a fit. As long as he isn't hurting himself he will be ok. After a certain amount of time you may reintroduce yourself so that the child will understand you have not abandoned him. The main idea is to increase these intervals waiting each time until he stops throwing a fit (he can't go nuts forever) and then reentering the room.





He will learn eventually, classical conditioning has been proven time and time again.My 9 month old son gets progressively hysterical if out of sight of my wife or I. Any advice?
its just the attachment theory, and its really a good thing


he is growing up and realizes you and your wife are his main caregivers....he will calm down, and the most important thing is to not sneak out. give him a kiss and say good bye, that you will be back to see him soon.My 9 month old son gets progressively hysterical if out of sight of my wife or I. Any advice?
I know, it's hard to deal with





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Get a life size picture of her on the wall, then when he gets fussy just take him to the picture. It might reassure him she's coming back. Also it will help him to recognize photographs, which later helps with reading.
Try to call out him name to let him know your still there even though he can't see you.
I think it's somewhat normal to have stranger/separation anxiety around that age.
Congratulations, you're the proud parent of a smart baby!





This is called Separation Anxiety, it's a developmental step that babies reach in their brain development. At that age babies are grasping the concept of object permanence. You and I know that if we leave the room the TV, the baby, the couch will still be there, baby doesn't understand that yet. When you leave the baby's sight, they think you are gone forever, you no longer exist, that's why it's so traumatic for the baby.





The first thing to do is to make it so that baby can see you as much as possible. When you leave the baby in a room, make sure you're talking to him, or singing to him. Don't try to slip out of a room, tell the baby you're leaving, communicate, and then return to their sight.





Within a couple weeks, sometimes a couple months depending on the baby, they grasp the concept that you still exist outside of their sight line. Just be patient with the baby and know that most babies go through Separation Anxiety at one time or another.
9 months is classic separation anxiety time. While his behavior is normal, there are some ways to make it less traumatic.





If you can ride it out, and just let baby be with you or your wife as much as he can, it starts to fade away by the end of the month, usually. (though it can ebb and flow, for sure)





If baby HAS to be away from you (you both work, or you both need some time away from baby for your own sanity) ease him into it. Whoever will be caring for baby in your absence, have them over for a play time with baby for an hour or more. Let baby really get used to them. No leaving, just a playdate, so to speak. Then, when they come over for the real babysitting, have them come a half hour early so that baby has a chance to warm up to them again. What we did was have the sitter (baby's grandmother) distract her and we slipped out. People used to say not to do that, but I'd rather be out of sight, out of mind than leave grandma with a frantic baby, kwim? She never really grasped that we were gone because she was being cared for and entertained. (This is different that the appearing/reappearing thing that maegs is talking about. does that make sense?)





Another thing to keep in mind, often if you push them to ';get over it'; too quickly at this stage, it can backfire and create a needier, clingier baby for a longer period of time. You'll need to read your baby's cues and make sure you're letting him get past this in his own time.





Good luck...and this, too, shall pass!