I've been married for 2 years... i'm no longer attracted physically to my wife. Advice?

I dated my wife for 4 years before me got married. There were things that I knew could be issues, that might bother me down the road, but i'm a passive person, I just didn't say anything. Then we finally hit a crossroads, and I had to let her go or propose... i felt like I was making the right decision by proposing. A mistake, yes. So what do I do now? It's time to have kids... will they help?? Don't get me wrong, my wife and I are best friends,, there are attraction issues. She's still a pretty girl, just with a couple very distrubaing flaws to me... things that I thought I could deal with, and am now saying there's just no way. I do love her... the problem is really at it's worst when we're around other people... I feel that they're judging me by her looks... do people do that? or is that something thats all in my head? If I can make this work and get over my hangups, great. my question to you is, would you divorce early, (2 yr marraige) or try having kids.I've been married for 2 years... i'm no longer attracted physically to my wife. Advice?
No, don't bring kids into this if you're having issues with your marriage. Who cares about her looks! Do you love her for who she is inside? Work on your marriage, don't throw in the towel like so many couples. Why would you even consider divorce as an option? Did she let herself go or something? If you expected her looks to change for the better, or expected her to suddenly get hotter after marriage, then you did this to yourself. What attracted you to her in the first place?I've been married for 2 years... i'm no longer attracted physically to my wife. Advice?
its normal--ive been married almost two years and was thinking of divorce also..but divorcing someone just because your not physically attracted is not a good idea...its shabby and shallow, ask yourself what you can do to make her look better..if shes gotton fat try to get her to do more active stuff with you..maybe shes fat because shes taking birth control-FOR YOU.





I have news for you...everyone has flaws..so no, you may have some issues with her but your gonna have issues with anyone else your with only next time around you'll already know that your a quitter because the lust part doesnt last that long..





everyone makes marriage seem like its easy but its not, but if you stick it out and work on things you'll be happier than giving up on a promise you made.
Please don't have kids, they are not bandaids that will fix the problem. The problem will still be there. Why do you worry about what other people think of your wife, it's only your opinion that should count. I think you should go and see a counsellor and try to resolve these issues. She deserves to have someone who still finds her sexy not someone who only sees flaws.
You're too immature to have children.





Work things out with your wife, or don't and get divorced. Get some counseling to see what's wrong with YOU.





Then, assuming you stay together, everything is solid, you've thrown away even a little bit of your vanity and matured a whole lot, THEN think about kids.
get a divorce dont live that way its not fair for her or you .i spent a lifetime with someone like you and regret it.. so divorce her move on and you will find the same thing happens again and again..its not her is you. we arent meant to be with the same person its not in our nature so let her go and do her a favor and yourself ..
I don't know a lot of things but I do know this: Kids have NEVER fixed a relationship. Do not have kids if your marriage is not healthy and happy.
you should love your wife no matter what people jabber about if you don't want her divorce her don't have kid's one might look like her then would you hate your kid because it looked like mama
People judge you for what you got. If you feel bad beeing seen with her then why did you last that long? You should focus more on her positive side . Evaluate the romance and ask yourself if you still love her no matter what. I don't think having kids would make it better. Unless you fix your relationhip with her it would be best not to have kids yet. Maybe you just bored and feel that having kids will be a new phase in your life. Are you?be honest with your partner .
It seems you think you are better looking than her. Let me point out one fact. If you are so much better looking than why is it you got stuck with the gernade??? Its hard to believe that if she is so far below you on the looks scale than the two of you should have never hooked up in the first place.


Stop thinking your so hot and realize your not going to get anything better and pray your kids dont look like sasquatch.
Having kids? That would be the WORST thing you could do at this point! You don't have kids to make your marriage better! What are you smoking over there?! It sounds like your marriage is over. End it and DON'T involve innocent children. That will only make things worse at this point. Admit you may have made a mistake and get on with your life and let her get on with hers.
i know this is hard but your marriage is probably over. having kids doesnt make your wife more desireable and you will only be hurting the kids later on when the divorce would be inevitable. your both young move on and find someone that will make you both very happy. it happens everyday in this world and someday you'll look back on this and be glad you made the right choices
Hell no don't have kids, If you feel you still love


her ask for help. tell her what bugs you .and if


your frinds are judging by looks ya need new one
Most people don't get this miserable until at least 15 years together. Admit you f*cked up and move forward. Life is short.
Divorce now. NO kids.





Kids will make things worse.
If your marriage is not rock solid, do not have children. It is hard enough to raise children in a stable environment. No, children will not make it better, many people make this mistake when things get sideways in the marriage. If you have children and then see that it cannot work, then you will either resent them for keeping you where you do not want to be, or you will tear them apart if you decide to split up. Both will bring emotional upheaval for everyone involved. If you do not want to stay with her, tell her, cut your losses and move on. It is the only fair thing to do for either one of you. My ex and I stayed together for over 6 years. But we split and moved on, both of us found someone else and had families. Now everyone is happy. Good Luck
Please, please, please do not bring kids into a rocky relationship. You need to try some things first...if they are physical issues- maybe talk with her and try to help her fix them. Go talk with someone and try to work out your issues. KIDS WILL NOT HELP. God no....how horrible. You need to work your thoughts out of your mind since it is just physical issues or let her be with someone who will appreciate every aspect (not to be mean to you or anything- but she has a soul mate out there, and I doubt he would care about her flaws...). If anything- try and work it out first...but no kids.
don't have kids, bringing kids into a marriage that has problems never helps just adds to the trouble. u married her conditionally and to u she has some issues with her looks, your a shallow man, who cares more what people think of u. i think u need to get a divorce and let this poor women find true love, where someone is not basing his love on someones physical appearance. all that's happened is the honeymoon stage is over with, it always ends, and u don't seem to be able to move on to the next step in the relationship. u truly don't love this woman.
the lusts you had for her are all gone now
Divorce when there still is time
Is it just her looks? Are you that shallow? You married this woman. Dear God, you've been stringing her along 6 years? And you think having kids is going to ';fix'; it? How is dragging innocent kids into this going to fix it?





Man, what is it you want? A ';beautiful'; woman? Go get one... with few other positive qualities... that will cheat on you and break your heart.
Do not have kids. when you came to a crossroads where you had to either let her go or propose, you proposed and got married, even though you werent really ready or into it.... now, when your at another crossroads, its either letting her go or having kids. Dont try to save your marraige by having kids because then its not only you and her that get hurt, but its also your children (people you are suppose to be protecting and thanksful for - not people who you decide to have to save a marraige) getting hurt.





And.. people do not judge you because of your wifes looks. More than likely, your wife is very confident and satisfied with her looks and is thinking nothing of it.... and i think its kinda sad that you are thinking of ending a relationship and marraige based on how your wife looks.. It sound kinda superficial and shallow. Have you ever seen past her looks? How is her heart? How does she treat you? Is she affectionate? If her looks were better, would you stay with her? Does she share her life with you? Would she do anything for you? Do you have things in common that you both enjoy? Do you have fun with her? Can you picture yourself sharing your life with anybody else?





It sounds that while you are worried about other people judging you because of her looks, you are judging herself based on her looks and hows her looks are negatively impacting your social life... Not a very good husband in my opinion... Think to yourself - do you like feeling judged by others? If not, then why are you judging her? Shes your wife. Think about your vows...





Nobody stays beautiful forever. Looks fade. Its whats on the inside that counts.
Please don;t bring kids in to this mix. Because kids don't fix a relationship...they really compound things. And if you need to break the relationship the kids would keep you there and that is wrong. Innocent kids





Please figure out how to deal with your issues before you have kids. Get some counseling.





This isn't fair to your wife for you to be so unsure about the relationship. You guys need to either be fully committed or end it soon.
Kids are not the answer for this relationship.
What happined to you? You get married for only 2yrs and no longer attractive physically to your wife...Maybe you didnt really love her so much. Kids is important for 1 family or married. But not means if your wife cant give you a kids you didnt feel same before...Your dating your wife for almost 4 yrs before you got married...Maybe one of you had a problem now...Married is important..