The first thing that I have to ask you which you left out in question is how longdid they talk for? Does the number that is on the phone bill a local number if so how far from where you two live or from where she works and how long have y'all had these numbers? I would check her e-mails and also her texts on the cell phone which the phone company can get that for you, Also check your regular land line phone bill, does the numbers match up, then if everything lines up then get a private eye, so you will have edivence for the divorce so you can get the kids and your personal belongings.Need advice, wife might be cheating?
You sound very paranoid. Ever think it's something innocent? Just ask her.
But why do you go over her phone bills? Not trust her?
is your birthday coming up? maybe he's helping her plan something. (hey, it's possible i guess.... )
a few things to keep in mind. Unless your name is the only one on her phone bill, snooping in it is ILLEGAL. I doubt she'd prosecute, but it is illegal for you to get into it.
Call him. Maybe he doesn't know she's married. I was in that situation (his) at one time, didn't know the guy i was talking to was married, and suddenly out of the blue i got a call from his wife. She said my number was on her phone bill and who was i? lol it was a strange conversation at best, but i was honest with her, and never talked to him again.
I wouldn't contact him at all unless you call him. He doesn't deserve getting into a fight with you at his place of business and losing his job over it, or worrying that you have his home address and will stalk him. This is really between you and your wife. You should talk to her first. Go into it with an open head, and without anger. and, don't forget to trust her. I know it's hard, but she may surprise you and be completely honest and put it all out on the table. I can promise you if it's been going on for more than a couple of weeks, she's dying to not have to hide it anymore.
Good luck, honey. Hope everything works out. ;)
Follow her around for a while.....and find out. That's what I'd do.
Sweetly, I wouldn't accuse anyone.....JUST YET.
I would follow her around, and see what she's up to.
If she's up to something, make sure NOT to play dumb with her.
As soon as she gets home, you talk to her, and you straighten her out.
And if you want to leave, then leave her sorry ***.
If she's not cheating, apologize and tell her you are sorry for ever betraying her trust.
2 numbers same guy? Sorry to say, but some people (men and woman) are just born cheaters! My sister is one of these, who I know is carrying on a relationship on the side of her live-in bf. It's long distance in this case, so her cell bills are through the roof, but she hides it and hides it well.... although mostly emotionally cheating, I know she has physically as well. Atleast you are keeping an open eye on this stuff - her hubby has slipped big time.
I would casually bring it up with her in a non-confrontational way. If she seems shocked or un-suspecting, she'll stumble on an explanation, then you have to be worried. Next steps could be calling the guy directly, spy on her, etc. Don't be the fool, it could be possible!
Those are some signs, I usually use this checklist here and if more than 5 match, then yes%26gt;%26gt; http://ebooks.interkeys.com/howto/find_o鈥?/a>
my advice, that list is pretty accurate, the best way to find out for sure is to ask her and see the reaction. If she itches her nose or ear or some other nerve ending while answering, she is lying.
Put everything into your name.
Just sit with this guy or your wife and sort out this issue right here before its too late,
May it can disturb you unnecessary or it can kill your happy married life,
All the best
I agree with intelligent 1. Call the gut 1st, they may just be friends! If he admits to an affair or relationship, then confront your wife. If she lies about it the marriage is not worth trying to save.Don't take action against the guy. If it is an affair he may not even know you exist! Sorry to sound cruel, but if there's one thing I can't stand it's dishonesty/betrayal.
Good luck to you.
hi this very same thing has just happend to me 1 month ago my husband was having an affair, they now live together!! what does your gut feeling tell you? that's how i knew no matter what excuses my husband said (i did believe them at the time) the feeling kept coming back in the bottom of my stomach and it would'nt go away.
have you found any messages? tried calling the phone?
good luck i hope its not what your thinking
Ask your wife. After all communication is the key.
Ask her about it. Thats all u can do and hope she'll be honest. Don't assume anything unless u have the back up to prove it.
Don't do anything to the guy. Sounds like you're getting ready to stalk him down. He doesn't know you from Adam, and you need to remember that! The issue is with your wife---take it up with her only if you have solid evidence that there's something going on.
Confront her calmy. You never know and if she is cheating, going into it without a calm mind will only make the conversation harder.
I would not do anything yet. I would just wait. See, if she is doing something behind your back, she will get herself caught. Usually that's the way it happens. She will put the nooze around her own neck. The question is how are you going to handle this? I would be thinking about that if I were you. Maybe I would continue to be diligent, but keeping my distance. She will have to face it sooner or later. I hope is nothing. I hope this is all a big misunderstanding of some sort, but if is not, then you need to pick up the pieces and decide what you have to do. But don't try to cross that river yet.
Ask your wife what they are.
Then tail the guy.
get a private investigator to follow her and photograph her movements
ok you say you found strange numbers on her bill etc!!
you need to talk to her about it.
but has she been going out more? staying out late? staying late after work?
are you sure it isnt an old friend?
you neeed to talk to her and ask her these quest. good luck
Stop snooping at her phone bill.
it might be a friend from work or something from work that she is communicating with this guy for a reason. Don't flip out, just ask her calmly who he is, and if she has a rational explanation, LET IT GO. Unnecessary jealousy KILLS happy relationships.
source: Wife to a jealous husband
Ahh.. the mysterious numbers.. that is exactly how i caught my ex... You need to do a little more Investigation before you confront her.. Or she will be angry that you ';accused'; her of cheating.. Make sure it is not a coworker or her friend's boyfriend's phone.. Don't just assume that she is sleepin with the guy.. I hope she is not.. I can only imagine how angry and hurt you would be. It took me 6 mo. to get over all that
Talk to her. Do not, I repeat, do not spy on her. If she is having an affair that will only make things worse. Be honest with her about how you feel and ask her to do the same. It may not be too late to save your marriage. Communication is the key. It might also help to talk with a professional in order for the two of you to resolve these issues together.
Try to catch her.
If the phone is in your name, call your cell phone provider and tell them you need to reset the password. Then call her voice mail and see what kind of messages she's got waiting, but do so with a tape recorder in hand so you can use it in court.
Want me to call him and find out what's up? I'd be happy to!
PS. You must have already had a suspicion that she is cheating. Start watching her activities more closely. Usually, if you think your mate is cheating, they are. Sad but true.
Get an investigator or impartial party to follow her if that is your plan. Don't do it yourself!
You need to decide what you will do if she is cheating. But remember fighting with her or him never solves the problem it only makes it worse!
it is time to confront her. if there is nothing to it she will stop, but say nothing about the phone bill, keep that to yourself and use it to moniter her communication.
well if u went as far as to figure all that out, why dontcha call him and ask him how he knows your wife and whats the significance of all the phone calls.... just blow the whole thing up. and find out what u wanna know
thank god that im too young 2 get married , there is only 2 kinds of women %26gt; the bitchs and the bitchs
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