Saturday, December 19, 2009

What should i do,every time i give my wife a genuine advice she stops talking to me for one week.?

She is always nugging and when I say my thoughts she withdraws and stops talking to me.I don't use abusive language or violence.I have always being loving and gentle.But why?What should i do,every time i give my wife a genuine advice she stops talking to me for one week.?
Did you ever ask her the question you posted here? If she will not respond your marriage is bound to fail. That's just it: there got to be back and forth for a marriage to succeed. Maybe you need to be more insistent. Even risk a bigger argument. You have to know how she feels. Otherwise the relationship will die because of a lack of communication. Check out my source for more info on how to prod a partner into responding.What should i do,every time i give my wife a genuine advice she stops talking to me for one week.?
I think you married a *****. A ***** never stops nagging and will never take anything that does not jive with her thoughts. This is already a culture thing. Your wife's family culture is ';authoritarianism';, or follow me without question. You cannot change this easily. It may take a lifetime. You cannot argue with this kinds of people. My suggestion is just do everything possible to the best of your knowledge in keeping the family intact. You need not tell anything to your wife if anything worth doing is for the good of the family because she might not agree. Some things are better left unsaid.
Did your wife ask for your opinions or advice? If not keep quiet. If she did she needs to grow up. It's that old saying, be careful what you ask for you just might get it, but you really won't like it. Sit down and talk to your wife and ask her why she stops talking to you. Explain that you are being honest and not trying to hurt her feelings. Apologize if you do. Communication is one of the most important things in a marriage. Sounds like you need help in that area.
As a woman, I would say she is emotional and no matter how you say something...the point of what you are saying might hurt her feelings. I would talk to her about it though. You seem like a sensible guy, just tell her calmly that you want to help her but she never seems to like what you have to say...she might also take that the wrong way but at least you'll have it out in the open.
She is a spoiled self centered brat and if she doesn't get her way or gets her feelings hurt she pouts like a child. Very immature. At least you can look at the bright side, if you want to shut her up just give your opinion. Apparently your not a man in her eyes and your opinion doesn't matter so use it to your advantage and shut her big mouth.
OH .no do not give advice ...NEVER ...where it sounds like you are telling her what to do ..


she does not want advice .she wants you to listen to her ..and tell her she is doing a good job at solving it ..


she does not want to be rescued ..offer more then one choice ..


never tell her ....with one choice ...what she should do ..





that is a insult its telling us we can not take care of ourselves
You may need to tailor how you talk to her. Maybe she is wanting you to be nicer about the way you offer the advice. You can catch more flies with honey than with vinegar.
she thinks your wrong and hates the fact that you might be right. nobody like to be wrong and you probably proved her wrong on something.
Give her advice once a week.

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