Please help! I just lost my wife and I want to have her back can you please advice good strategy?

I been a jerk and now I have to prove her that this time I really want to love her and make her happy.Please help! I just lost my wife and I want to have her back can you please advice good strategy?
Good Luck with that!Please help! I just lost my wife and I want to have her back can you please advice good strategy?
Try to look for her friends. Maybe they know where your wife is.


If you can't find her either go to the police station and report missing person.
that really depends on what you did........how many times you have been a jerk and how many times she has left......hate to say it but if you want a good answer your gonna have to say what you did........if you don't want to do that..........then be the man you want to be for her and show her you can change.........but first you have to want it for yourself. Focus on becomeing what you want to be and maybe if you can see the change she will too.........good luck to you.
You say that ';this time'; you really want to love her and make her happy ...does that imply that this is not the first time this has happened?





Maybe it's more the case of not realising how much you had to lose until it was gone?
I just kicked my husband out tonight.. So I can relate with your wife.. You have to keep in mind that she is hurting just as much as you... It's not like we planned on things going bad with you guys. ';we didn't get married just to be taken off the market'; by somone that's not going to treat us the way we ';NEED'; If you don;t meet her emotional needs she may be hoping for her knight in shining armour and sweep her off her feet, like I am. You've probablty had chance after chance but never could or didn't want to get it right... You would do the same
Buy her flowers, send her candy and other gifts and tell her how much you really love her and how much she means to you. Tell her your feelings and let it go from there. If she doesn't understand that, then let it go. She's not for you.
Try to do something romantic and kind for her. Try to talk her into going out on a date with you. Beg her if you have to. Try to go some where private and maybe try to recreate the first time you met. If you guys have a song try to have it playing in the back ground. Have a candle light dinner made. Tell her how beautiful she is and tell her how much she means to you. Maybe write a list of all the things you love about her and give it to her. Just be very romantic and treat her how she should be treated. Cry if you have to. Just give her the best night of her life and make her feel like a princess. Show her that you are truly sincere. Just be creative and do the best that you can do. Thats the best advice I can give to you. Good Luck!
i think we all do this, don't know what we have until its gone, if you mean what you say then write her a heart felt letter and mail it to her if you know where she is, send her flowers, ask her for a date ( and i mean date nothing more) what did you do the first time you woed her, if it worked the first time then spice it up and it just might work the second time, but even thou you didn't give a lot of detail , it sounds like you have ALOT of sucking up to do buddy so you better make it good
As painful as this sounds...you are going to have to do it step by step..as the time and energy you were consumed in being a jerk to her is the time and energy you will have to put in proving your love to her.





Just know this is not going to happen over night in wanting her back and getting her back. So i say - Start proving it slowly and all will pan out well with you. Good things come when it is done slowly and steady..don't rush love. Prove your love step by step.
Without knowing the situation, it is almost impossible to give specific advice.





However, one thing that may help is to think about the way you worded your question. It says, ';...I want to have her back...'; Is is possible that you have been focused on what you would like and trying to make those things happen? Though out the marriage, have you been equally focused on what she would like and trying to make that happen?





Think about whether there is any change in your thinking or actions that you would need to make before you can think, ';I just lost my wife, and I want her to realize her full potential and be happy in life. How can I make that happen?'; There is a solid chance that when you are focused that way on her, she will be very ready to talk about the relationship and how to make positive steps together for the future.





Good luck.
The first thing she would want to know if she is even open is how are you going to show this? How do you prove to someone that you've changed especially if you haven't had any help for it? It does come from deep down that these things happen.
This time? How many times has it been? What have you done to really change? You need to get professional help to deal with whatever issues you have. Once you do that and really show her that you have changed she may change her mind. You should do it no matter what though because you will be a better person. If you do not get help you will not change it will go back exactly the way it was before and even if you don't stay with your wife the same thing will happen in any relationship you might get into.
its going to take time and patience to gain someone's trust back after you have lost it. trust is a very fragile thing and once lost is very hard to regain. and if you have broken it more than once it will be even harder to win again.





first you need to find out the reason you keep repeating this pattern. solve your problem first then try to win her trust back. show her you are willing to work on the issue first. seek counseling for it if you need help.
Romantic gestures always does the trick, especially if it involves a fond memory that she thinks you've forgotten.
try counseling and prove to her you changed.
If she left you for another man, let her go. If not, give it a day or two and then apologize to her. Her emotions will probably keep flip flopping during this period so try to catch her in her weakest moment.
If you build it, they will come.
1. Act nice to her;


2. Make no demands on her whatsoever;


3. Listen to her;


4. Do what she wants;


5. Accept what she wants;


6. Be very respectful;


7. Do the above, and she'll eventually change her mind- give it 1-3 months.