My wife thinks she ovulated on the 25th of December as she had slight spotting and some twinge pains on her right ovary. But 17 days later she hasn't come on a period. She rarely has periods anyways which doctors think might be polycystic ovarian syndrome, but she was so sure she ovulated. Can a woman ovulate but not have a period? And can she still have a period even though it's been 17 days since?Periods... Advice for wife!!?
yes, ovulation is possible, without a period to follow.
have you thought she maybe pregnant?
may?
if she has POS, see links below for information %26amp; practical advice.Periods... Advice for wife!!?
My sister is on the mini pill and her periods are sporadic. She read on the internet two weeks ago that you could make a tea with cumin seeds (2 teaspoons of seeds in hot water but don't eat the seeds) and that will get it going. She did and came on the next day. Worth a try I think and its herbal so you are not taking pills. Good luck!
I have never felt myself ovulate...I don't think. But of course I've been on birth control for years. Ok--she could be pregnant. Or her period could be late. OR she could have just had a rather odd pain. Maybe she should see the doctor or take an EPT. She also shouldn't spot when she ovulates. If she has polycystic ovarian syndrome... well, the docs don;t think on this stuff. There are test. Make an appointment with the doctor--and good luck
you know it sounds to me like she might be pregnant..better get to doc..to find out for sure...
If your wife has a complicated GYN history, and it sounds like she does, then the members of an internet board are not going to be able to diagnose her. She really needs to call her health care provider if she is concerned.
maybe she's pregnant
Pretty hard to get pregnant with polycystic ovaries but not impossible. Have had patients with same symptoms as your wife coming into the clinic convinced they had an ectopic pregnancy. They had done home pregnancy tests which were negative. However after blood tests they were pregnant and not ectopic. The oldest of these baby's is now 6 and I recieve a card every year on the boys birthday. So good Luck every chance she could be pregnant get it checked out Monday.
Friday, April 30, 2010
Need advice about wife. PLEASE HELP?
I found out my wife had cheated on me. After that instance i tried to work it out with her however when she came home she never quit seeing this guy. she would lie to me about what happened, leave me, then came back two other times. The final time she came back i was able to find out that she was pregnate and did not know how the father is. She left again, with this other guy, and has been seeing him for two months. She wants to come back once again but now my trust in her is non existent. I do love her. Well, i did take her back but yesterday i found out she had talked to him. We talked last night and she says she wants me and her to be a familiy and that it is over with this other guy. What should i do file for divorce, try again, wait and see what happens. Im lostNeed advice about wife. PLEASE HELP?
she leaves, comes back, you take her back, she leaves, comes back, you take her back, she leaves, comes back, you take her back, she leaves, comes back, you take her back.......... how long are you willing to let this cycle last? she doesn't know if you are the father of her child?!?!
i hear some papers rustling.... oh wait that;s the sound of divorce paperwork.......
oh and when the kid is born get a paternity test and if it's yours be there for the kid, not herNeed advice about wife. PLEASE HELP?
File for divorce ASAP, otherwise your just wasting your life. And when the kid is born, have them tested to see if you are the father.
She has lied to you a million times now, people don't change, do you think she is going to? There is no magic in this world, just a bunch of smoke and mirrors.
Wow. Why would you be with this woman? She is an untrustworthy, manipulative and plotting witch! She wants her cake and to eat it too, and people dont change unless they want to. Chances are, she wont and she is trying to appease you. Have you considered that she is only saying this because she does not know who the father is or if he can support her and her child? She is USING YOU! Regardless, she is just using you! Please think long and hard about staying with this woman...Get a DNA test and go from there. But sweetheart, you can find a good woman who deserves you, and this one doesnt and has shown that time and time again by making you 2 inches tall and making you look like a fool. If you really want to be with her then you will have to take things slow and dont invest too much into a reconciliation, it will most likely end badly....Wait for a DNA test, but if you KNOW its not yours....Then...I have to say that trying this again is a bigger risk than you should take. Its not your fault if you ask for a divorce, this woman screwed you over time and time again so dont let her manipulate you anymore! Leave her. Or at least file for separation to test the waters further if you stay together.
Now she wants to be a family now that it is over with her other guy? What kinda sh*t is that? You as her husband should have been her first choice, but obviously she's been putting you on the back burner, and now that it didn't work out with her other man, she wants to come back. She is only doing this to you b/c you let her. She knows that she can go off and f*ck another man and you will be right there when she is finished. Think about that, this woman let some other man put his penis in what is suppose to be YOUR vagina. And then she would have the nerve to keep coming back to you and letting you hit it too. You need to leave her alone, get a DNA test on that baby, and move on. How can she be so sorry, so many times? She doesn't care, she is laughing at you behind your back because you are so easy to manipulate. Find a woman who isn't going to take advantage of your kindness.
She is going to continue playing you and cheating on you with this other man for as long as you allow it to happen. You've let her cheat and come back at least four times and she may be pregnant with this man's baby.
She doesn't have to take responsibility because you always forgive her and take her back. For her it's the perfect situation because she can have the best of both worlds. She's taking advantage of you.
Stand up for yourself. It's way past time. If you wait around to see what happens, then it's your own fault if she goes back to this man again.
dude i was there....how much longer do you have to go thu it till u realize she isn't worth it. Why wait look what you wrote. She is ****** up and u didnt need that. no one does. Ive moved on and it feels great. Do it and be sad for a little bit then go out and do the same.
It sounds like you are her safe place. You can not let her continue to take advantage of you. I know you care about her but its time to start caring about yourself more. She has no respect for you-don't you see that? Don' t let her continue to play you for a fool. Minimally file for a legal separation to protect you assets. When the baby is born DO NOT let her put your name on the birth certificate! Wait until after paternity tests because you would be responsible even if it wasn't yours. You are obviously the more stable of the 2 men so she is going to keep running back if you let her.
You are the hen with the golden eggs. She needs a father for her ';have no clue who the real father is'; baby.
Take her back, raise her child, put on an apron and get tested for aids each month
File for divorce. You will always be strung along as long as you keep taking her back. You deserve someone who knows FOR SURE they want to be with you and only you.
I would do a trial seperation and make her prove he's out of her life, if you love her. If the love is gone, dump her cheating a**.
Iam sorry but if she left you and came back then I would feel that I was not that important in her life. I would have a real problem with trust after all that!
from the bottom of my heart. i am soo sorry for what you are going through but you need to leave.
been there
good luckmakeup artist
she leaves, comes back, you take her back, she leaves, comes back, you take her back, she leaves, comes back, you take her back, she leaves, comes back, you take her back.......... how long are you willing to let this cycle last? she doesn't know if you are the father of her child?!?!
i hear some papers rustling.... oh wait that;s the sound of divorce paperwork.......
oh and when the kid is born get a paternity test and if it's yours be there for the kid, not herNeed advice about wife. PLEASE HELP?
File for divorce ASAP, otherwise your just wasting your life. And when the kid is born, have them tested to see if you are the father.
She has lied to you a million times now, people don't change, do you think she is going to? There is no magic in this world, just a bunch of smoke and mirrors.
Wow. Why would you be with this woman? She is an untrustworthy, manipulative and plotting witch! She wants her cake and to eat it too, and people dont change unless they want to. Chances are, she wont and she is trying to appease you. Have you considered that she is only saying this because she does not know who the father is or if he can support her and her child? She is USING YOU! Regardless, she is just using you! Please think long and hard about staying with this woman...Get a DNA test and go from there. But sweetheart, you can find a good woman who deserves you, and this one doesnt and has shown that time and time again by making you 2 inches tall and making you look like a fool. If you really want to be with her then you will have to take things slow and dont invest too much into a reconciliation, it will most likely end badly....Wait for a DNA test, but if you KNOW its not yours....Then...I have to say that trying this again is a bigger risk than you should take. Its not your fault if you ask for a divorce, this woman screwed you over time and time again so dont let her manipulate you anymore! Leave her. Or at least file for separation to test the waters further if you stay together.
Now she wants to be a family now that it is over with her other guy? What kinda sh*t is that? You as her husband should have been her first choice, but obviously she's been putting you on the back burner, and now that it didn't work out with her other man, she wants to come back. She is only doing this to you b/c you let her. She knows that she can go off and f*ck another man and you will be right there when she is finished. Think about that, this woman let some other man put his penis in what is suppose to be YOUR vagina. And then she would have the nerve to keep coming back to you and letting you hit it too. You need to leave her alone, get a DNA test on that baby, and move on. How can she be so sorry, so many times? She doesn't care, she is laughing at you behind your back because you are so easy to manipulate. Find a woman who isn't going to take advantage of your kindness.
She is going to continue playing you and cheating on you with this other man for as long as you allow it to happen. You've let her cheat and come back at least four times and she may be pregnant with this man's baby.
She doesn't have to take responsibility because you always forgive her and take her back. For her it's the perfect situation because she can have the best of both worlds. She's taking advantage of you.
Stand up for yourself. It's way past time. If you wait around to see what happens, then it's your own fault if she goes back to this man again.
dude i was there....how much longer do you have to go thu it till u realize she isn't worth it. Why wait look what you wrote. She is ****** up and u didnt need that. no one does. Ive moved on and it feels great. Do it and be sad for a little bit then go out and do the same.
It sounds like you are her safe place. You can not let her continue to take advantage of you. I know you care about her but its time to start caring about yourself more. She has no respect for you-don't you see that? Don' t let her continue to play you for a fool. Minimally file for a legal separation to protect you assets. When the baby is born DO NOT let her put your name on the birth certificate! Wait until after paternity tests because you would be responsible even if it wasn't yours. You are obviously the more stable of the 2 men so she is going to keep running back if you let her.
You are the hen with the golden eggs. She needs a father for her ';have no clue who the real father is'; baby.
Take her back, raise her child, put on an apron and get tested for aids each month
File for divorce. You will always be strung along as long as you keep taking her back. You deserve someone who knows FOR SURE they want to be with you and only you.
I would do a trial seperation and make her prove he's out of her life, if you love her. If the love is gone, dump her cheating a**.
Iam sorry but if she left you and came back then I would feel that I was not that important in her life. I would have a real problem with trust after all that!
from the bottom of my heart. i am soo sorry for what you are going through but you need to leave.
been there
good luck
Any advice on obtaining uk visa for my future philippino wife?
get plenty of evidence, be prepared make sure she knows you and your life very well because she is the one that has to face the ECO in Manila.
Search the web there are some really good sites with info about the typ of question and the answers they dont want to hear.
use 80% natural and real gushing love and 20% business organisation and you should be looked upon as genuine. Good luckAny advice on obtaining uk visa for my future philippino wife?
The interview will be longish more than an hour, and what they are trying to establish is:
That it's a genuine marriage, and that you have accomodation and can support your wife in the UK.
It is best that you go to the Embassy as well, some things might need clarifying and you will be asked separately the question that caused the problem. Usually something simple.
Your wife will be asked for copies of correspondence from you. If you phone as well keep your phone bills and e-mails printed out.
Photocopy your passport, and all pages relevant to entry and exit from Philippines.
Copies of your bank statements for six months - preferably a year.
Copies of your wage slips for six months - preferably a year. If you have your P60 as well all the better.
Details of your accomodation in UK.
Details of money you have sent your wife/fiancee for support.
Divorce papers for all previous marriages if any.
Marriage certificate.
Your and her birth certificates.
Photographs of the wedding.
Other photographs of you together, even singly in the same place.
The questions are fair for genuine couples, believe me and either party should easily be able to answer them.
The visa lasts for a year, but must be used within six months of issue. After eleven months you can go to Lunar House, Wellesley Road, Croydon, and have it extended indefinitely, again I would go with your wife. Both the Embassy and the Home Office are first class for genuine couples, and I vote both the elite government service.
Oh as soon as your wife arrives in UK register her with a doctor, and write on the form from Philippines to UK.
Also obtain a National Insurance card for her from your local DSS office, she is allowed to work immediately if she so wishes.
I hope this helps.
Your wife must send the completed forms to the embassy with the money in payment. It takes around three months for a slot. Before then make sure she has a Filipino passport, I am afraid though that you will need a ';sworn affidavit of support'; to this end, you need to go to a Notary Public in UK for this. It will cost about 拢50 including cost of validation by Philippine Embassy in London.Any advice on obtaining uk visa for my future philippino wife?
www.filipinawives.com and the Embassy for UK in Manila... Get ready for a very long wait bcs of a the sheer volume of Visa applications.
Try Joining the Mag_Anak Yahoo Group! Full of all kinds of info on the subject
Search the web there are some really good sites with info about the typ of question and the answers they dont want to hear.
use 80% natural and real gushing love and 20% business organisation and you should be looked upon as genuine. Good luckAny advice on obtaining uk visa for my future philippino wife?
The interview will be longish more than an hour, and what they are trying to establish is:
That it's a genuine marriage, and that you have accomodation and can support your wife in the UK.
It is best that you go to the Embassy as well, some things might need clarifying and you will be asked separately the question that caused the problem. Usually something simple.
Your wife will be asked for copies of correspondence from you. If you phone as well keep your phone bills and e-mails printed out.
Photocopy your passport, and all pages relevant to entry and exit from Philippines.
Copies of your bank statements for six months - preferably a year.
Copies of your wage slips for six months - preferably a year. If you have your P60 as well all the better.
Details of your accomodation in UK.
Details of money you have sent your wife/fiancee for support.
Divorce papers for all previous marriages if any.
Marriage certificate.
Your and her birth certificates.
Photographs of the wedding.
Other photographs of you together, even singly in the same place.
The questions are fair for genuine couples, believe me and either party should easily be able to answer them.
The visa lasts for a year, but must be used within six months of issue. After eleven months you can go to Lunar House, Wellesley Road, Croydon, and have it extended indefinitely, again I would go with your wife. Both the Embassy and the Home Office are first class for genuine couples, and I vote both the elite government service.
Oh as soon as your wife arrives in UK register her with a doctor, and write on the form from Philippines to UK.
Also obtain a National Insurance card for her from your local DSS office, she is allowed to work immediately if she so wishes.
I hope this helps.
Your wife must send the completed forms to the embassy with the money in payment. It takes around three months for a slot. Before then make sure she has a Filipino passport, I am afraid though that you will need a ';sworn affidavit of support'; to this end, you need to go to a Notary Public in UK for this. It will cost about 拢50 including cost of validation by Philippine Embassy in London.Any advice on obtaining uk visa for my future philippino wife?
www.filipinawives.com and the Embassy for UK in Manila... Get ready for a very long wait bcs of a the sheer volume of Visa applications.
Try Joining the Mag_Anak Yahoo Group! Full of all kinds of info on the subject
Need Advice, my wife submitted incorrect information of uk visa. Should she appeal or reapply?
My wife recently had her visa application for a family visit turned down because she did not declare her previous passport which has been missing for some time now. The old passport had been used for a previous also for a visit to the uk about 3 years back which was turned down because her sponsor had been the sponsor of several other applications. Our country commenced issuing new types of passports in the period after the misplacement of the old one so she got a new one. We had not reported the loss of the old passport because we believe it was misplaced during her move from her previous work location, to lagos and we believe we may still find it. On her visa application which asked if she had a previous passport she indicated no and also indicated that she had not be declined a visa application before. Answering otherwise required providing details of the missing passport and the previous visa application which she could not provide because of the loss of the old passport, this was why she answered No to the questions.
The reason for her current visit is to attend her sisters wedding which comes up in March. Her other family members who applied for the same reason have been granted visas, so it looks like she is going to be the only one to miss the wedding which is quite devastating to her, wedding are a big thing here.
Should she appeal explaining the reason for her filling the application the way she did and apologise for the incorrect information she gave or should she reapply. If she appeals, what are her chances and whate are the chances of its being resolved before the wedding in March. Should she reapply immediately and take her chances on whether the new application will be granted when she fills the form correctly. I want to have this cleared up so this incident does not besmirch her immigration record.Need Advice, my wife submitted incorrect information of uk visa. Should she appeal or reapply?
she lied no excuse she would be fined in my opinion,break the rules pay the price stop whingeingNeed Advice, my wife submitted incorrect information of uk visa. Should she appeal or reapply?
she should contact the home office in person or through the phone and explain the reason for the incorrect information. they can change her details immediately.
i am concerned reapply might let them confused with the previous incorrect applications. they might still use the incorrect information for her application.
reapply with the correct information will be much quicker
She should re-apply, and answer all questions correctly, including the fact that the previous application was declined. An appeal will probably fail, because she put information, knowing it to be false, and there may be a minimum period before she can re-apply.
Also, in most countries, the law requires you to report lost or stolen passports, as soon as possible.
The reason for her current visit is to attend her sisters wedding which comes up in March. Her other family members who applied for the same reason have been granted visas, so it looks like she is going to be the only one to miss the wedding which is quite devastating to her, wedding are a big thing here.
Should she appeal explaining the reason for her filling the application the way she did and apologise for the incorrect information she gave or should she reapply. If she appeals, what are her chances and whate are the chances of its being resolved before the wedding in March. Should she reapply immediately and take her chances on whether the new application will be granted when she fills the form correctly. I want to have this cleared up so this incident does not besmirch her immigration record.Need Advice, my wife submitted incorrect information of uk visa. Should she appeal or reapply?
she lied no excuse she would be fined in my opinion,break the rules pay the price stop whingeingNeed Advice, my wife submitted incorrect information of uk visa. Should she appeal or reapply?
she should contact the home office in person or through the phone and explain the reason for the incorrect information. they can change her details immediately.
i am concerned reapply might let them confused with the previous incorrect applications. they might still use the incorrect information for her application.
reapply with the correct information will be much quicker
She should re-apply, and answer all questions correctly, including the fact that the previous application was declined. An appeal will probably fail, because she put information, knowing it to be false, and there may be a minimum period before she can re-apply.
Also, in most countries, the law requires you to report lost or stolen passports, as soon as possible.
Religious advice! My wife has only given birth to girls. Should I seek refuge in another woman for a male heir?
I'm really in agony right now.
My wife Mirela and I have been married for 5 years. It's been a great union, and she has helped me in my journey with Jesus Christ.
We have 3 children together. However, she has only given me girls.
I met a girl from South Korea who is willing to give me a son if I marry her. Obviously, I cannot do that. Marry her that is. I believe marriage is sacred.
However, is there any OTHER way I can help her get citizenship in return for giving birth to my son?
Also, is there any way I can make ';making the kid'; not be any fun? I will feel guilty beyond belief if I were to enjoy myself.
Thanks, and God Bless!Religious advice! My wife has only given birth to girls. Should I seek refuge in another woman for a male heir?
I'm unsure about getting around US immigration, but they're pretty useless though aren't they? Couldn't you pass her off as another daughter %26amp; move to Montana. (Montana knows anything goes) .If you don't want any pleasure let your wife watch %26amp; continuously criticise your performance and technique. It's so important to have a male heir and your wife is obviously xy defective so press on and do what you have to. Good luck!Religious advice! My wife has only given birth to girls. Should I seek refuge in another woman for a male heir?
2. There are no guarantees that your next child will be a male.
1. Your attitude is anachronistic. You had as much of a genetic role in your children being born male or female as your wife does. It is a genetic lottery, not a deterministic exercise. Whether your children are male or female does not really matter. Love them. They are *your* children.
Sorry to tell you buddy, but you are the reason you are only having girls. Women only have x chromosomes, the sperm carry either the x or y chromosome. If an x sperm fertlizes an egg you get a girl, if a y sperm fertilizes the egg you get a boy. Looks you're shooting y's. You'll have to find yourself a different poor excuse to cheat on your wife.
YOU HAVE THE TRAIT THAT DETERMINES THE SEX OF THE BABY!!!! IT IS NOT HER FAULT, YOU SEXIST PIG! YOU MAKE ME SICK! HOW COULD BELIEVE IN GOD IF YOU THINK THAT THE MALE RACE IS SUPERIOR! AND EITHER WAY, WHETHER YOU ENJOY IT OR NOT, IT IS STILL ADULTERY, WHICH IS A SIN BY THE WAY! and you don't need a MALE heir, money is money to anyone. im sure one of your daughters would appreciate the money or whatever will be left when you leave this earth. SEEK HELP YOU DISGUSTING THING!
No, you have given her three girls. The sex of the child lies with the man's sperm, not the eggs. You need to time your union according to her ovulation. Male sperm swim faster.
Either you are trolling or an ......
Adopt. You will help a child gain a home.
What is wrong with having girls? They are as good as boys. Stupid cultures place a value on boys which is totally unfounded.
Edit : WOW!!! I finally gave a thumbs up to Fireball. Woohoo!!!
Why do you need a male heir? Why can't you just be happy with what you have and not cheat just to get a boy. (*cough* henry xiii *cough*)
your sperms are not macho enough. it's you who determine the sex of your child. you have too many girly sperms. lulz
add: you should let your wife f*ck a real man if you want her to spew out a boy next time. lulz again.
You are a disgusting beast. Someone should tell your wife you are a sick **** for thinking of cheating on her. Then she should divorce you and take sole custody of your kids and take all your money. Get a life.
Assuming the question is serious, the male determines the gender of the child.
You cant be serious? If you ARE serious, you should be spaded to stop you from spreading your ******-up genes.
Reread your marriage vows. You will probably find a clue there.
Ok there Henry the 8th.
wow, nice sexist question there, i'm sure your girls will be proud.
no it was your sperm that determined the sex of those girls!!!!!!!!!!
no but she might seek another man as U deside on the gender not her
Please remember it is the male's sperm that are the great decision maker of whether the child is male or female. So, since you are at fault, what good would it do to go to another woman? It is your wife that needs to look for another man!
My wife Mirela and I have been married for 5 years. It's been a great union, and she has helped me in my journey with Jesus Christ.
We have 3 children together. However, she has only given me girls.
I met a girl from South Korea who is willing to give me a son if I marry her. Obviously, I cannot do that. Marry her that is. I believe marriage is sacred.
However, is there any OTHER way I can help her get citizenship in return for giving birth to my son?
Also, is there any way I can make ';making the kid'; not be any fun? I will feel guilty beyond belief if I were to enjoy myself.
Thanks, and God Bless!Religious advice! My wife has only given birth to girls. Should I seek refuge in another woman for a male heir?
I'm unsure about getting around US immigration, but they're pretty useless though aren't they? Couldn't you pass her off as another daughter %26amp; move to Montana. (Montana knows anything goes) .If you don't want any pleasure let your wife watch %26amp; continuously criticise your performance and technique. It's so important to have a male heir and your wife is obviously xy defective so press on and do what you have to. Good luck!Religious advice! My wife has only given birth to girls. Should I seek refuge in another woman for a male heir?
2. There are no guarantees that your next child will be a male.
1. Your attitude is anachronistic. You had as much of a genetic role in your children being born male or female as your wife does. It is a genetic lottery, not a deterministic exercise. Whether your children are male or female does not really matter. Love them. They are *your* children.
Sorry to tell you buddy, but you are the reason you are only having girls. Women only have x chromosomes, the sperm carry either the x or y chromosome. If an x sperm fertlizes an egg you get a girl, if a y sperm fertilizes the egg you get a boy. Looks you're shooting y's. You'll have to find yourself a different poor excuse to cheat on your wife.
YOU HAVE THE TRAIT THAT DETERMINES THE SEX OF THE BABY!!!! IT IS NOT HER FAULT, YOU SEXIST PIG! YOU MAKE ME SICK! HOW COULD BELIEVE IN GOD IF YOU THINK THAT THE MALE RACE IS SUPERIOR! AND EITHER WAY, WHETHER YOU ENJOY IT OR NOT, IT IS STILL ADULTERY, WHICH IS A SIN BY THE WAY! and you don't need a MALE heir, money is money to anyone. im sure one of your daughters would appreciate the money or whatever will be left when you leave this earth. SEEK HELP YOU DISGUSTING THING!
No, you have given her three girls. The sex of the child lies with the man's sperm, not the eggs. You need to time your union according to her ovulation. Male sperm swim faster.
Either you are trolling or an ......
Adopt. You will help a child gain a home.
What is wrong with having girls? They are as good as boys. Stupid cultures place a value on boys which is totally unfounded.
Edit : WOW!!! I finally gave a thumbs up to Fireball. Woohoo!!!
Why do you need a male heir? Why can't you just be happy with what you have and not cheat just to get a boy. (*cough* henry xiii *cough*)
your sperms are not macho enough. it's you who determine the sex of your child. you have too many girly sperms. lulz
add: you should let your wife f*ck a real man if you want her to spew out a boy next time. lulz again.
You are a disgusting beast. Someone should tell your wife you are a sick **** for thinking of cheating on her. Then she should divorce you and take sole custody of your kids and take all your money. Get a life.
Assuming the question is serious, the male determines the gender of the child.
You cant be serious? If you ARE serious, you should be spaded to stop you from spreading your ******-up genes.
Reread your marriage vows. You will probably find a clue there.
Ok there Henry the 8th.
wow, nice sexist question there, i'm sure your girls will be proud.
no it was your sperm that determined the sex of those girls!!!!!!!!!!
no but she might seek another man as U deside on the gender not her
Please remember it is the male's sperm that are the great decision maker of whether the child is male or female. So, since you are at fault, what good would it do to go to another woman? It is your wife that needs to look for another man!
Relationship advice 4 wife?
I have been married for less than 2months. (together 3yrs)
We have a baby together who is 5months.
I am a full time student in nursing program, which I love.
My husband is a waiter. He used to be obsessed with xbox/friends. I got him to realize it, and he gave it up. . .
Now he hangs out with ppl from work. He has done coke 2x. I let it go, I only asked for him to stop hanging out with those ppl. And he refuses.
We got married b/c he was supposed to be going into air force. He changed his mind, now I don't have health insurance and will not have insurance till I graduate.
I'm lost. I love him, but he won't be responsible. I pay for everything when it comes to our baby. She is the most important thing to me and I would do anything for her. . .
He won't stop his bad habits, he blames all our fights on me, I just am trying to get him going in a direction
what should i do? Relationship advice 4 wife?
With all the confusion your husband is causing you cannot be a good mother. Your attention and focus is not where it should be and you know that's on yourself and your child. Drug addicts, even casual ones can drag you through the mud and not care about the consequences they cause. If he's showing you inconsistencies, and irresponsibility it's time to go, leave before your child gets neglected. You can not raise him and a new born. You can do bad by yourself. and you are doing just that; You just got some guy hanging around watching you do bad. ';Father of the child'; is not a title that should keep you in this relationship with him. Your already doing life by yourself, be by yourself, you'd be surprised how much help you can will get.Relationship advice 4 wife?
I recognize you have a relationship problem that is bigger than the lack of health insurance, but if that is something that concerns you, try joining the National Student Nurses Association. You may research them at www.nsna.org or call 718-210-0705. They have lots of member benefits, including student health insurance. Their membership fee is affordable.Once you are a member you may apply for their health plan through UnitedHealthcare StudentResources.
As hard as it may seem, saying goodbye is sometimes the best option. He is not part of your future because he is not actively working to improve the lives of the people that he is responsible for. It may take you leaving for him to be shocked into change, but it may be too late. But waiting for change that is not going to happen is futile. File for divorce and get all of the child support that is legal. That is the only way he will ever take the financial obligation of his child.
hate to be the bearer of bad news but you married him for the wrong reason in the first place. Never marry someone just because you think they are going somewhere. Make sure their already there before you commit to something like marriage. Secondly, many people who use coke find it absolutely exhilarating. And, will continue to use if its right in front of them. I can see why yall are fighting true enough. So I guess that decisions up to you.
i know a woman who is still married to a guy who does that and he always says that he will quit---they have 3 kids together and for years i have watched them struggle with everything --i mean it is ti the point that she doesn't even go by his last name-----
sometimes you just have him let him run his course...
you can''t get him going anywhere. he controls him, you control you.
decide what you are willing to put up with. let him know. he has a choice. use empathy and communicate by empathizing with his feelings and needs. that will cause him to be more empathetic with your feelings and needs. try to understand what he gets from hanging out with those people and why he enjoys it. there is your key, finding out what he needs. if you meet his needs he will gravitate to you. if you don't he will gravitate to those who do.
he needs to stop unless he wants to loose his baby. he can't be having that kind of crap around the house. maybe you should give him a lesson and leave so he can realize that you are being serious about that crap. that really sucks to know that you have that crap around your child. it makes me believe that your husband doesn't care for her or you.
You answered it...your baby is the most important thing to you, he won't change his ways......leave and don't look back. It's better to do it sooner rather than later. Who knows that may be the wake up call he needs.
who you love and who you 'should' love are a matter of choice. In this case it's a bad choice.
The only answer is to correct that choice. You can't change anyone.
It is a Common situation many people have met,calm down,and check the resource i found useful.http://www.healthinsurance-onlinetips.in鈥?/a>
He must contribute financially for his child or I would just tell him to get out. If you are doing it all by yourself, what do you need him around for? Just to drag you down? Who needs that?
Get out while you can your baby is your priorty maybe seperate for a while and see if he can be responsible at all
He needs help, or get out and make a life for yourself, it will not get any better, he is not going to change.
Sounds as if you two need to trying counseling...maybe your husband is going through something that he doesn't know how to tell you.
He has to be willing to change all by himself. He did it in the past with his x-box...so you know he is capable of it..give him some good advice...and he will come around
Leslie :) has the right answer. I have nothing else to add.
other than your hubby needs to grow up.
You made a mistake if you thought marrying him was going to change him or somehow make him more responsible. He is the same jerk he was three months ago. He never changed. He just did what he had to do to shut you up for a while/that includes the marriage. He's a boy in a man's suit. You need to concentrate on you and your baby. He is dead weight. If you left him today, he will be in the same place five years from now. We can't be right 100% of the time. Face the fact that your judgement was a little cloudy , finish school, and move on (not necessarily in that order). You already have one child to take care of...you really do not need two.
ps He switches the blame so you will feel guilty and have sympathy for him because of your ';evil'; ways:)...Move on, girl!
I will never understand why people commit to another based on what they think the other may become rather than what they truly are. Why on Earth would anybody be so high on themselves that they would be convinced that they could change somebody when nothing else ever has? You committed to a person who was/is clearly irresponsible, at the very least, and the only thing he has done has traded one vice for another. Furthermore, why would you subject a precious child to this lunacy? Take some responsibility for your own actions and the consequences thereof.
We have a baby together who is 5months.
I am a full time student in nursing program, which I love.
My husband is a waiter. He used to be obsessed with xbox/friends. I got him to realize it, and he gave it up. . .
Now he hangs out with ppl from work. He has done coke 2x. I let it go, I only asked for him to stop hanging out with those ppl. And he refuses.
We got married b/c he was supposed to be going into air force. He changed his mind, now I don't have health insurance and will not have insurance till I graduate.
I'm lost. I love him, but he won't be responsible. I pay for everything when it comes to our baby. She is the most important thing to me and I would do anything for her. . .
He won't stop his bad habits, he blames all our fights on me, I just am trying to get him going in a direction
what should i do? Relationship advice 4 wife?
With all the confusion your husband is causing you cannot be a good mother. Your attention and focus is not where it should be and you know that's on yourself and your child. Drug addicts, even casual ones can drag you through the mud and not care about the consequences they cause. If he's showing you inconsistencies, and irresponsibility it's time to go, leave before your child gets neglected. You can not raise him and a new born. You can do bad by yourself. and you are doing just that; You just got some guy hanging around watching you do bad. ';Father of the child'; is not a title that should keep you in this relationship with him. Your already doing life by yourself, be by yourself, you'd be surprised how much help you can will get.Relationship advice 4 wife?
I recognize you have a relationship problem that is bigger than the lack of health insurance, but if that is something that concerns you, try joining the National Student Nurses Association. You may research them at www.nsna.org or call 718-210-0705. They have lots of member benefits, including student health insurance. Their membership fee is affordable.Once you are a member you may apply for their health plan through UnitedHealthcare StudentResources.
As hard as it may seem, saying goodbye is sometimes the best option. He is not part of your future because he is not actively working to improve the lives of the people that he is responsible for. It may take you leaving for him to be shocked into change, but it may be too late. But waiting for change that is not going to happen is futile. File for divorce and get all of the child support that is legal. That is the only way he will ever take the financial obligation of his child.
hate to be the bearer of bad news but you married him for the wrong reason in the first place. Never marry someone just because you think they are going somewhere. Make sure their already there before you commit to something like marriage. Secondly, many people who use coke find it absolutely exhilarating. And, will continue to use if its right in front of them. I can see why yall are fighting true enough. So I guess that decisions up to you.
i know a woman who is still married to a guy who does that and he always says that he will quit---they have 3 kids together and for years i have watched them struggle with everything --i mean it is ti the point that she doesn't even go by his last name-----
sometimes you just have him let him run his course...
you can''t get him going anywhere. he controls him, you control you.
decide what you are willing to put up with. let him know. he has a choice. use empathy and communicate by empathizing with his feelings and needs. that will cause him to be more empathetic with your feelings and needs. try to understand what he gets from hanging out with those people and why he enjoys it. there is your key, finding out what he needs. if you meet his needs he will gravitate to you. if you don't he will gravitate to those who do.
he needs to stop unless he wants to loose his baby. he can't be having that kind of crap around the house. maybe you should give him a lesson and leave so he can realize that you are being serious about that crap. that really sucks to know that you have that crap around your child. it makes me believe that your husband doesn't care for her or you.
You answered it...your baby is the most important thing to you, he won't change his ways......leave and don't look back. It's better to do it sooner rather than later. Who knows that may be the wake up call he needs.
who you love and who you 'should' love are a matter of choice. In this case it's a bad choice.
The only answer is to correct that choice. You can't change anyone.
It is a Common situation many people have met,calm down,and check the resource i found useful.http://www.healthinsurance-onlinetips.in鈥?/a>
He must contribute financially for his child or I would just tell him to get out. If you are doing it all by yourself, what do you need him around for? Just to drag you down? Who needs that?
Get out while you can your baby is your priorty maybe seperate for a while and see if he can be responsible at all
He needs help, or get out and make a life for yourself, it will not get any better, he is not going to change.
Sounds as if you two need to trying counseling...maybe your husband is going through something that he doesn't know how to tell you.
He has to be willing to change all by himself. He did it in the past with his x-box...so you know he is capable of it..give him some good advice...and he will come around
Leslie :) has the right answer. I have nothing else to add.
other than your hubby needs to grow up.
You made a mistake if you thought marrying him was going to change him or somehow make him more responsible. He is the same jerk he was three months ago. He never changed. He just did what he had to do to shut you up for a while/that includes the marriage. He's a boy in a man's suit. You need to concentrate on you and your baby. He is dead weight. If you left him today, he will be in the same place five years from now. We can't be right 100% of the time. Face the fact that your judgement was a little cloudy , finish school, and move on (not necessarily in that order). You already have one child to take care of...you really do not need two.
ps He switches the blame so you will feel guilty and have sympathy for him because of your ';evil'; ways:)...Move on, girl!
I will never understand why people commit to another based on what they think the other may become rather than what they truly are. Why on Earth would anybody be so high on themselves that they would be convinced that they could change somebody when nothing else ever has? You committed to a person who was/is clearly irresponsible, at the very least, and the only thing he has done has traded one vice for another. Furthermore, why would you subject a precious child to this lunacy? Take some responsibility for your own actions and the consequences thereof.
Any advice for my super tired wife? She's on estradiol and prometrium.?
My wife and I are trying to get pregnant after 2 miscarriages and our doctor has put her on estradiol and prometrium. But now she's so tired, she can barely stay awake and cannot work! Any advice? Thank you!Any advice for my super tired wife? She's on estradiol and prometrium.?
Sleep Sleep Sleep . when you are on those drugs nothing makes you less tired, no ammount of coffe could ever work. Let her sleep and do anything you can to help her relaxAny advice for my super tired wife? She's on estradiol and prometrium.?
she needs to talk to her doctor she could be having post partum depression, and yes you can get that after miscarriages I have had 6 miscarriages and i got really depressed. Talk to her doctor and let him know what is going on .
She is on two different types of hormone medications. I know from personal experience prometrium makes you very tired as it is. The other may be excelerating the effects of the prometrium. This has NOTHING to do with depression.
Sleep Sleep Sleep . when you are on those drugs nothing makes you less tired, no ammount of coffe could ever work. Let her sleep and do anything you can to help her relaxAny advice for my super tired wife? She's on estradiol and prometrium.?
she needs to talk to her doctor she could be having post partum depression, and yes you can get that after miscarriages I have had 6 miscarriages and i got really depressed. Talk to her doctor and let him know what is going on .
She is on two different types of hormone medications. I know from personal experience prometrium makes you very tired as it is. The other may be excelerating the effects of the prometrium. This has NOTHING to do with depression.
Wife probs need advice?
Her indoors left me because i got her a new blade for the mower for her birthday, but the new girlfriend wants me to take her on holiday to Tabago. Should i drop the new girl and get the wife a whole new mower?Wife probs need advice?
i was going to answer this to give you advice in an unbiased way. i answer so many questions from women who are being abused by their partner %26amp; when i saw your question i thought it was time a man's problems were answered! i don't know who's the biggest prat; you for being so immature, or me for thinking you might have a genuine problem. if ';her indoors'; has left you, good for her! let's hope the girlfriend quickly follows suit! don't get your wife a new mower, let her have a divorce instead. diane.Wife probs need advice?
Take the wife to Tabago and give the girlfriend a permanent rain check -
';Wanted: good wowan who owns bass boat. Send picture of boat.';
Hey Vern! Grab a beer and c'mover here an read this...!
No ,just get your new girl to eat the grass.
no, she left because the romance was gone. Now you've got it, a whole new ';ride around'; lawnmore, see how romantic you can be if you try. A little more effort and your marriage should last forever.
I say buy the mower .., its cheaper and will last longer! LOL! ...
After buying the new blade for her birthday Im surprised she is still married to you!
women are just soooo demanding oooh i feel for you!!lol
I suggest you speak to a divorce attny..........
Lol!!!!!!!!!!! Love your question. Yeah, your wife has no cause for complaint i don't think. Have a nice holiday with your fancypiece, lol!
She doesn't deserve you. Take the girlfriend on holiday I say.
ha ha ha!!!
and you call her your wife
You sound like a pure redneck to me.lol
could be worse my pops bought my mum an ironing board and he was almost wearing it. You have to ask yourself if you love and want your wife and if the answers yes then you kneed some humble pie and take her on the holiday
LOL WHAT A LAUGH EH I WOULD MOWER SOMTHING AND IT WOULDNT BE THE GRASS LOL
lol if my fella got me a blade hed get more than a divorce! buy the wife a ticket to tabago if you still love her
Go with the girlfriend she actually loves and makes you happy.
Get a goat and let it eat the grass.
Tell the wife your going on holiday and take the girlfriend along. Lot's of alcohol and you will be in threesome heaven.makeup artist
i was going to answer this to give you advice in an unbiased way. i answer so many questions from women who are being abused by their partner %26amp; when i saw your question i thought it was time a man's problems were answered! i don't know who's the biggest prat; you for being so immature, or me for thinking you might have a genuine problem. if ';her indoors'; has left you, good for her! let's hope the girlfriend quickly follows suit! don't get your wife a new mower, let her have a divorce instead. diane.Wife probs need advice?
Take the wife to Tabago and give the girlfriend a permanent rain check -
';Wanted: good wowan who owns bass boat. Send picture of boat.';
Hey Vern! Grab a beer and c'mover here an read this...!
No ,just get your new girl to eat the grass.
no, she left because the romance was gone. Now you've got it, a whole new ';ride around'; lawnmore, see how romantic you can be if you try. A little more effort and your marriage should last forever.
I say buy the mower .., its cheaper and will last longer! LOL! ...
After buying the new blade for her birthday Im surprised she is still married to you!
women are just soooo demanding oooh i feel for you!!lol
I suggest you speak to a divorce attny..........
Lol!!!!!!!!!!! Love your question. Yeah, your wife has no cause for complaint i don't think. Have a nice holiday with your fancypiece, lol!
She doesn't deserve you. Take the girlfriend on holiday I say.
ha ha ha!!!
and you call her your wife
You sound like a pure redneck to me.lol
could be worse my pops bought my mum an ironing board and he was almost wearing it. You have to ask yourself if you love and want your wife and if the answers yes then you kneed some humble pie and take her on the holiday
LOL WHAT A LAUGH EH I WOULD MOWER SOMTHING AND IT WOULDNT BE THE GRASS LOL
lol if my fella got me a blade hed get more than a divorce! buy the wife a ticket to tabago if you still love her
Go with the girlfriend she actually loves and makes you happy.
Get a goat and let it eat the grass.
Tell the wife your going on holiday and take the girlfriend along. Lot's of alcohol and you will be in threesome heaven.
Wife, mother & lesbian - ADVICE WANTED?
Hi as the question suggests I am a woman, married to a man with a young baby girl to think of. I love my husband and we are very happy in all aspects of are relationship, but I am a closeted lesbian, I really want to know where I can meet other lesbians married to men, so that I can strike up friendships with people I can talk to openly.... nothing more than a friendship, just someone to talk to ....Wife, mother %26amp; lesbian - ADVICE WANTED?
You will be able to sympathise with the fact that lesbians like me will come across as deeply suspicious about your motives.
You see, I am not saying that coming to terms with a different sexuality is not stressful, scary and difficult, but lesbianism is not a tacky little hobby to have when sitting neatly in a 'picture postcard hetero' marriage! Before you hurtle headlong into screwing lots of people's life up...yours, your child's, your husband and any potential girlfriend you may end up with try being honest with yourself, and others first.
However, if this is simply an elaborate bi curious fest go for it, but equally be honest, and do not expect the lesbians you play with to be too bothered about the 'sanctity' of your marriage!Wife, mother %26amp; lesbian - ADVICE WANTED?
Girlfriend, it sounds like you really aren鈥檛 too sure and may be just experiencing a little burn out with your present partner. As the other answerers have alluded, there鈥檚 a lot more to being a lesbian than just some occasional girl on girl action. If I were you I鈥檇 do some deep soul searching because the damage this could do to your marriage is irreversible. If you still love your husband tell him you鈥檇 like to try some new things in the bedroom. If he鈥檚 got an open mind maybe you can enjoy watching some girl on girl porn together - - have him take notes so he can work on his technique!
If you just want to talk to some lesbians you can email any of us anytime you like!
Good luck!
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Love,
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Most LESBIANS could not be happy in ALL aspects of a heterosexual relationship... if you know what I mean.
If youre bisexual and looking for some girl on girl on the side, that's different... but your question misrepresents you.
You'll have to find a local place if you want to find a married woman who likes women on the side.
They are not that common and your area would be too specific for us to know anything.
.
First of all, if you were a lesbian, why did you get married to a man?
Know matter if you were in the closet, you should have come out of the closet a long time ago.
You can't love a man romantically and be a lesbian at the same time ... you'd have to be bisexual. unless you only love him at a friend or a brother.
Although this book is about lesbian relationships you may find something of interest.
http://www.booksurge.com/And-Then-I-Met-鈥?/a>
Rose P
u should come out to your husband as a bisexual and then maybe go to some local lesbian gay clubs and hook up. the women u meet probllyarent all married to men, but women are women.
I think this is a good start.And I support you in your endeavors.Good Luck.I am hetro if your wondering.
Join a bi chat group , most big towns have such meetings -
You will be able to sympathise with the fact that lesbians like me will come across as deeply suspicious about your motives.
You see, I am not saying that coming to terms with a different sexuality is not stressful, scary and difficult, but lesbianism is not a tacky little hobby to have when sitting neatly in a 'picture postcard hetero' marriage! Before you hurtle headlong into screwing lots of people's life up...yours, your child's, your husband and any potential girlfriend you may end up with try being honest with yourself, and others first.
However, if this is simply an elaborate bi curious fest go for it, but equally be honest, and do not expect the lesbians you play with to be too bothered about the 'sanctity' of your marriage!Wife, mother %26amp; lesbian - ADVICE WANTED?
Girlfriend, it sounds like you really aren鈥檛 too sure and may be just experiencing a little burn out with your present partner. As the other answerers have alluded, there鈥檚 a lot more to being a lesbian than just some occasional girl on girl action. If I were you I鈥檇 do some deep soul searching because the damage this could do to your marriage is irreversible. If you still love your husband tell him you鈥檇 like to try some new things in the bedroom. If he鈥檚 got an open mind maybe you can enjoy watching some girl on girl porn together - - have him take notes so he can work on his technique!
If you just want to talk to some lesbians you can email any of us anytime you like!
Good luck!
http://ww.myspace.com/lezbnrocker
http://www.youtube.com/user/LezBnRocker
Hugs %26amp; Kisses!
Love,
Leslie
LezBnRocker Chicks
(Now on iTunes, Amazon, CDBaby %26amp; EMUSIC)
Most LESBIANS could not be happy in ALL aspects of a heterosexual relationship... if you know what I mean.
If youre bisexual and looking for some girl on girl on the side, that's different... but your question misrepresents you.
You'll have to find a local place if you want to find a married woman who likes women on the side.
They are not that common and your area would be too specific for us to know anything.
.
First of all, if you were a lesbian, why did you get married to a man?
Know matter if you were in the closet, you should have come out of the closet a long time ago.
You can't love a man romantically and be a lesbian at the same time ... you'd have to be bisexual. unless you only love him at a friend or a brother.
Although this book is about lesbian relationships you may find something of interest.
http://www.booksurge.com/And-Then-I-Met-鈥?/a>
Rose P
u should come out to your husband as a bisexual and then maybe go to some local lesbian gay clubs and hook up. the women u meet probllyarent all married to men, but women are women.
I think this is a good start.And I support you in your endeavors.Good Luck.I am hetro if your wondering.
Join a bi chat group , most big towns have such meetings -
Men only please. I need some good advice, My wife is pregnant and I could use some help.?
The problem is that we just found out the baby is a girl. I am shocked. I wanted a boy so bad. When we were told the sex this morning I could not hold back my horror. My eyes welled up with tears, then I started to dry heave, I became faint, and ran out of the room and could not even make it to the toilet before I started to vomit like you have never seen in your life. Now my wife is upset with me- Not that I care, I have to admit that I am questioning my choice of taking her as my wife. I should have listened to my Pop who warned me about her...and now she can't even produce a boy. I know she will fight me regarding abortion, but how can I convince her that we should let it go to adoption, or try to sell it...legally of course. I hear you can drop a baby off at any fire department and it is not a crime. Each fire station must need a whole section for the poor little girl babies dropped off. Do you know if they find them good homes? I mean they won't euthanize, or sell them for the stem cell would they? I somehow need to convince Shelly that we just can't keep this kid. We can't afford it anyway. I'm crushed and could use some good advice please.Men only please. I need some good advice, My wife is pregnant and I could use some help.?
First of all the sex of the baby is determined by the man, not the woman. Its because of you shes a girl, not your wife. This question is so lame. You shouldn't reproduce if you are asking this. Your wife should get you fixed!!! Loser!!Men only please. I need some good advice, My wife is pregnant and I could use some help.?
I cannot believe that ';people'; like you even exist. I feel so sad for that poor baby. You are seriously scum.
I guess you dont know the value of life.
are you serious? you complete basta**!! i hope she sees this and leaves you and makes sure you pay child support!
First of all the sex of the baby is determined by the man, not the woman. Its because of you shes a girl, not your wife. This question is so lame. You shouldn't reproduce if you are asking this. Your wife should get you fixed!!! Loser!!Men only please. I need some good advice, My wife is pregnant and I could use some help.?
I cannot believe that ';people'; like you even exist. I feel so sad for that poor baby. You are seriously scum.
I guess you dont know the value of life.
are you serious? you complete basta**!! i hope she sees this and leaves you and makes sure you pay child support!
My wife and I are looking for advice on our trip to Amsterdam, Brussels, and Dusseldorf.?
We will be there in October 18th - 28th. We are in our mid-twenties, and would like to do a variety of things. I am into the breweries, festivals, and the ';coffee shops'; in Amsterdam... and my wife would like to visit some historical museums during the day. Do you have any suggestions on how we can divide our 9 nights there? Since we are younger we both would like be active, drink lots of beer, and enjoy the nightlife a little. I know of lots of fun things to do in Amsterdam (Heinekin brewery!!!), but am more looking for advice for Dusseldorf and Brussels. I would like to know if there is enough to do there for 3 days/nights a piece or if we should do four to five in Amsterdam and only do two in Dusseldorf and Brussels. Are there any festivals going on anywhere during our visit???My wife and I are looking for advice on our trip to Amsterdam, Brussels, and Dusseldorf.?
I'd recommend 4 nights in AMS, 3 in Brussels, (visit Antwerpen, Brugge, and Ghent from BRU), and Dusseldorf is not really enough for 2 nights I don't think . It's pretty and chic and it's fun to go barhopping in the old town, but Koln is nearby and bigger, with more to see and do. I'd say spend the 2 nights in koln, and do a day or evening trip to Dusseldorf, unless you're visiting friends or family.
In Amsterdam you won't need much to do. All will just float before you and it's just being there that's the trip. Time will go fast and if you don'tdecide in advance that you're definitely going to the other places, you might do like i did and stay the whole time in AMS. Make yourself get out, thought because it's all interesting.My wife and I are looking for advice on our trip to Amsterdam, Brussels, and Dusseldorf.?
In Amsterdam you could visit the Anne Frank museum. It's a little sobering but worth it. Then for fun head to the Sex Museum and see sex thru the ages. Take a canal boat ride to get a view of the city. In Brussels you can go to the Grand Place and see lots of historic buildings and take some tours there.Brussels is famous for its beer. Most taverns sell about 100 different kinds in bottles and on tap. Take a walk to see the Mannekin Pis!. A famous statue that they dress in different outfits and he pees!!!! Silly but a big attraction. Have a good time.There are many Medieval cities a short distance from these 2 places. Sorry but I haven't been to Dusseldorf.
Ok my advice to you is that Germany is just like any other cosmopolitan city in Europe. It has its charm, its bar-life but its nothing different. The Dam is another world. Especially if you intend to enjoy the coffeeshop circuit. Go here for the absolutely ultimate guide to coffeeshopping :) www.coffeeshop.freeuk.com . If you go to A.Dam dont miss the following shops ';The Grey Area';, ';Dutch Flowers'; and ';Coffeeshop 36'; :) For the lady I reccomend the Van Gogh Museum, you might want to take her out in paddleboats in the canal, also go to a square very famous there with 1000 to 1500 year old pubs still the same way they were back then (I forgot the name of that place). Time stops at the Dam, my friend, its a lilliputian world. quite funny :) Surreal actually......Dont leave it is my advice to you, why waste time in Germany? Spend 1.5 day in Brussels (its more than enough trust me), show the lady all the castles and monuments, have tons of fresh choclate, then usher her to A.Dam :) She will love it too I assure you. Brussels is small, why linger there. But when there do make sure you check out the UN building and the mainsquare.
Hi,
I have been just only Amsterdam and Dusseldorf (many times)
My advice, you do not forget to visit Dusseldorf ...
Dusseldorf is the Heart of Germany, and I liked very much especially Aquazoo is wonderfull.
Something about ;
The Aquazoo is home to more than 400 animal species, mainly reptiles, amphibious animals, fish and insects. Visitors can view or walk through habitats such as a coral reef, a rain forest and a desert. At the same time, you find out about the evolution and history of the earth. If you would like to have an expert answer questions on what you are seeing, and are a group of at least 15, you can book a guided tour. Guided tours can also be arranged for children's birthdays and holiday activities.
After visiting the zoo, if the weather is nice, don't miss a walk in the Nordpark, right were the Aquazoo is actually located..
Regards
Ref: http://www.duesseldorf.de/eng/tourism/di…
I had 3 nights in Amsterdam and thought it was WAY overrated and regretted wasting my time there....so I would recommend less time there.
As pointed out Anne Frank's House is very good and the Van Gogh museum is good for 20mins!!!
Apart from that I found very little to do or interest me....I felt wierd going into the sex museum by myself and I went around the red light district in the day as I was a bit dubious going by myself at night!!
Brussels is lovely and I liked it so much more than Amsterdam.....I went to Bruges which is an hour or so from Brussels by train....its very sweet and quaint and very pretty.
Lots of Chocolates everywhere too!! mmmmmm
The main square in Brussels proably rates in my top 3 of squares ....amazing!! I understand there are lots of breweries all aorund Belgium...I suspect you could do some organised trips to see them if you wanted.
I never went to Germany so can;t help you there.
I love Amsterdam and Brussels..i went there with my family it was sooo fun!!!! We went on a tour and it was great!!! :)
I'd recommend 4 nights in AMS, 3 in Brussels, (visit Antwerpen, Brugge, and Ghent from BRU), and Dusseldorf is not really enough for 2 nights I don't think . It's pretty and chic and it's fun to go barhopping in the old town, but Koln is nearby and bigger, with more to see and do. I'd say spend the 2 nights in koln, and do a day or evening trip to Dusseldorf, unless you're visiting friends or family.
In Amsterdam you won't need much to do. All will just float before you and it's just being there that's the trip. Time will go fast and if you don'tdecide in advance that you're definitely going to the other places, you might do like i did and stay the whole time in AMS. Make yourself get out, thought because it's all interesting.My wife and I are looking for advice on our trip to Amsterdam, Brussels, and Dusseldorf.?
In Amsterdam you could visit the Anne Frank museum. It's a little sobering but worth it. Then for fun head to the Sex Museum and see sex thru the ages. Take a canal boat ride to get a view of the city. In Brussels you can go to the Grand Place and see lots of historic buildings and take some tours there.Brussels is famous for its beer. Most taverns sell about 100 different kinds in bottles and on tap. Take a walk to see the Mannekin Pis!. A famous statue that they dress in different outfits and he pees!!!! Silly but a big attraction. Have a good time.There are many Medieval cities a short distance from these 2 places. Sorry but I haven't been to Dusseldorf.
Ok my advice to you is that Germany is just like any other cosmopolitan city in Europe. It has its charm, its bar-life but its nothing different. The Dam is another world. Especially if you intend to enjoy the coffeeshop circuit. Go here for the absolutely ultimate guide to coffeeshopping :) www.coffeeshop.freeuk.com . If you go to A.Dam dont miss the following shops ';The Grey Area';, ';Dutch Flowers'; and ';Coffeeshop 36'; :) For the lady I reccomend the Van Gogh Museum, you might want to take her out in paddleboats in the canal, also go to a square very famous there with 1000 to 1500 year old pubs still the same way they were back then (I forgot the name of that place). Time stops at the Dam, my friend, its a lilliputian world. quite funny :) Surreal actually......Dont leave it is my advice to you, why waste time in Germany? Spend 1.5 day in Brussels (its more than enough trust me), show the lady all the castles and monuments, have tons of fresh choclate, then usher her to A.Dam :) She will love it too I assure you. Brussels is small, why linger there. But when there do make sure you check out the UN building and the mainsquare.
Hi,
I have been just only Amsterdam and Dusseldorf (many times)
My advice, you do not forget to visit Dusseldorf ...
Dusseldorf is the Heart of Germany, and I liked very much especially Aquazoo is wonderfull.
Something about ;
The Aquazoo is home to more than 400 animal species, mainly reptiles, amphibious animals, fish and insects. Visitors can view or walk through habitats such as a coral reef, a rain forest and a desert. At the same time, you find out about the evolution and history of the earth. If you would like to have an expert answer questions on what you are seeing, and are a group of at least 15, you can book a guided tour. Guided tours can also be arranged for children's birthdays and holiday activities.
After visiting the zoo, if the weather is nice, don't miss a walk in the Nordpark, right were the Aquazoo is actually located..
Regards
Ref: http://www.duesseldorf.de/eng/tourism/di…
I had 3 nights in Amsterdam and thought it was WAY overrated and regretted wasting my time there....so I would recommend less time there.
As pointed out Anne Frank's House is very good and the Van Gogh museum is good for 20mins!!!
Apart from that I found very little to do or interest me....I felt wierd going into the sex museum by myself and I went around the red light district in the day as I was a bit dubious going by myself at night!!
Brussels is lovely and I liked it so much more than Amsterdam.....I went to Bruges which is an hour or so from Brussels by train....its very sweet and quaint and very pretty.
Lots of Chocolates everywhere too!! mmmmmm
The main square in Brussels proably rates in my top 3 of squares ....amazing!! I understand there are lots of breweries all aorund Belgium...I suspect you could do some organised trips to see them if you wanted.
I never went to Germany so can;t help you there.
I love Amsterdam and Brussels..i went there with my family it was sooo fun!!!! We went on a tour and it was great!!! :)
Military wife registering for online classes... any advice?
I'm a Navy wife and I just recently relocated overseas with my husband. I'm trying to register for online classes here, but I am slightly confused. I spent 2 years at a university in the States, and now I'm trying to finish a degree while on the move with the military. Any advice would be much appreciated!Military wife registering for online classes... any advice?
Do you have a school/program picked out? University of Maryland, University College (www.umuc.edu) has a lot of programs and is very good with military people and people caters to adult learners (lots of senior enlisted and senion officers, even General/Flag officers received their degrees from UMUC). The Navy will have a list of a number of programs that particularly market themselves to people associated with the military, they make sure they are good programs, any of them should be great.
Once you start, here is something you need to know. On-line courses are actually a bit more work than traditional courses. The performance measures are such that they want to see that you are doing the work each week, so it's a bit harder to slack off a week or two, here or there. I think it turns out to be the amount of work that they would ideally expect from a face-to-face course, and when you factor in the convenience it probably turns out that they are about the same amount of work but harder to slack off.
The other big factor is staying motivated, you need to keep yourself motivated, so start out with a course that you are very interested in (the first course I took on-line was International Law/Law of the Sea, it was something I was interested in so it was fun, think fun for your first course).
Good luck!Military wife registering for online classes... any advice?
Ask your husbands or the navy's recruiter. Normally they know a lot about things for people on the move. Also be careful which online colleges you look at. Some aren't real degrees, and won't really matter in the workforce.
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Do you have a school/program picked out? University of Maryland, University College (www.umuc.edu) has a lot of programs and is very good with military people and people caters to adult learners (lots of senior enlisted and senion officers, even General/Flag officers received their degrees from UMUC). The Navy will have a list of a number of programs that particularly market themselves to people associated with the military, they make sure they are good programs, any of them should be great.
Once you start, here is something you need to know. On-line courses are actually a bit more work than traditional courses. The performance measures are such that they want to see that you are doing the work each week, so it's a bit harder to slack off a week or two, here or there. I think it turns out to be the amount of work that they would ideally expect from a face-to-face course, and when you factor in the convenience it probably turns out that they are about the same amount of work but harder to slack off.
The other big factor is staying motivated, you need to keep yourself motivated, so start out with a course that you are very interested in (the first course I took on-line was International Law/Law of the Sea, it was something I was interested in so it was fun, think fun for your first course).
Good luck!Military wife registering for online classes... any advice?
Ask your husbands or the navy's recruiter. Normally they know a lot about things for people on the move. Also be careful which online colleges you look at. Some aren't real degrees, and won't really matter in the workforce.
http://www.armytimes.com/careers/college鈥?/a>
http://militaryguides.acenet.edu/index.h鈥?/a>
I am a man and my wife just miscarried after 3 months. Hurts like hell and feel real angry. Any advice?
this is normal. I suggest you think positive... dont think about the bad stuff. Maybe this happened for a good reason. God knows what he is doing. The baby that your wife was carrying might have had a better plan with god. Just comfort your wife and in time things will be better. Remember, you can always try again. Be happy that you know that little angel of yours and your wife's is with god looking after you both.I am a man and my wife just miscarried after 3 months. Hurts like hell and feel real angry. Any advice?
You are grieving. This is completely normal. Grief is a process of stages - denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance.
You and your wife have lost a child - you may be thinking about what could have been, what could you have done differently, why me....that is all normal. The best thing to do is to talk to each other. Keep the communication going. Losing a baby can put a huge strain on your relationship, especially if you are each grieving differently.
I would suggest you find a support group that deals with miscarriage and infant loss. Talking with other families who are going through the same thing will help you deal with your emotions and learn how to go on.
I'm very sorry for your loss. I, too, know how much it hurts. God bless you both.I am a man and my wife just miscarried after 3 months. Hurts like hell and feel real angry. Any advice?
Really sorry to hear that dude. Be strong not only for your self but for your wife. Your next child born will be your miracle baby. Embrace that thought. Sorry dude.
First, I'm very sorry to hear about your loss. Unfortunately, miscarriage is more common during the first trimester than at any other time during pregnancy. Many doctors believe that every woman will have a miscarriage at some point in her reproductive life, whether she know it or not (some happen so early that they may go undetected). It's a horrible, trying experience, especially when the baby is wanted.
I know it's not what you'd like to hear at the moment, but your wife's miscarriage does not mean that she cannot have a healty, normal, uneventful pregnancy in the future. For the vast majority of women, a miscarriage has nothing to do with their ability to carry and support a fetus within her womb. It is more likely that something was wrong with the fetus itself that would have prevented it from developing properly or surviving outside the womb. It is, in effect, nature's way of promoting survival of the species. But I understand that offers no consolation.
My best advice is to first talk to your doctor to see if you can find any definite explanation for the miscarriage. Sometimes a diagnosis - or probable diagnosis - can be given, but a lot of times there's just no good answer. However, if the doctor knows what caused the miscarriage, future ones may be much more preventable. Secondly, join a support group in an environment you feel comfortable in, whether it's just online or involves going to meetings with other couples who have been through the same thing. There are many others out there who have been through this and will offer great advice and words of support.
And finally, please remember that it is NOT your fault, or your wife's fault. Peace be with you during this difficult time.
Nature saw fit to terminate the pregnancy. It's not anybody's fault. Know that nature knows what is best for us, even if we don't agree.
ps - I'm sorry for your loss.
Don't be angry at yourself or your wife. It isn't either of your fault, just take some time to move on and think about the future.
Everybody handles it in different ways. After my miscarriage, my fiance did not want to talk about it. It has been about 6 months and he is just now ready. He says he thinks about the baby everyday but he knows there is a reason for what happened.
I just had a miscarriage a couple of months ago and understand what you are going through. Be supportive of your wife as I am sure she is an emotional wreck. I understand t he anger...I was too at all the people who have abortions when their child was perfectly healthy...or at how quickly and easily some people get pregnant. Don't let your anger get to you, because you are going to need to be positive to try again. You might want to talk to a professional, I didn't but only because they all had really long waits. Hang in there and focus on the future!
You are grieving. This is completely normal. Grief is a process of stages - denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance.
You and your wife have lost a child - you may be thinking about what could have been, what could you have done differently, why me....that is all normal. The best thing to do is to talk to each other. Keep the communication going. Losing a baby can put a huge strain on your relationship, especially if you are each grieving differently.
I would suggest you find a support group that deals with miscarriage and infant loss. Talking with other families who are going through the same thing will help you deal with your emotions and learn how to go on.
I'm very sorry for your loss. I, too, know how much it hurts. God bless you both.I am a man and my wife just miscarried after 3 months. Hurts like hell and feel real angry. Any advice?
Really sorry to hear that dude. Be strong not only for your self but for your wife. Your next child born will be your miracle baby. Embrace that thought. Sorry dude.
First, I'm very sorry to hear about your loss. Unfortunately, miscarriage is more common during the first trimester than at any other time during pregnancy. Many doctors believe that every woman will have a miscarriage at some point in her reproductive life, whether she know it or not (some happen so early that they may go undetected). It's a horrible, trying experience, especially when the baby is wanted.
I know it's not what you'd like to hear at the moment, but your wife's miscarriage does not mean that she cannot have a healty, normal, uneventful pregnancy in the future. For the vast majority of women, a miscarriage has nothing to do with their ability to carry and support a fetus within her womb. It is more likely that something was wrong with the fetus itself that would have prevented it from developing properly or surviving outside the womb. It is, in effect, nature's way of promoting survival of the species. But I understand that offers no consolation.
My best advice is to first talk to your doctor to see if you can find any definite explanation for the miscarriage. Sometimes a diagnosis - or probable diagnosis - can be given, but a lot of times there's just no good answer. However, if the doctor knows what caused the miscarriage, future ones may be much more preventable. Secondly, join a support group in an environment you feel comfortable in, whether it's just online or involves going to meetings with other couples who have been through the same thing. There are many others out there who have been through this and will offer great advice and words of support.
And finally, please remember that it is NOT your fault, or your wife's fault. Peace be with you during this difficult time.
Nature saw fit to terminate the pregnancy. It's not anybody's fault. Know that nature knows what is best for us, even if we don't agree.
ps - I'm sorry for your loss.
Don't be angry at yourself or your wife. It isn't either of your fault, just take some time to move on and think about the future.
Everybody handles it in different ways. After my miscarriage, my fiance did not want to talk about it. It has been about 6 months and he is just now ready. He says he thinks about the baby everyday but he knows there is a reason for what happened.
I just had a miscarriage a couple of months ago and understand what you are going through. Be supportive of your wife as I am sure she is an emotional wreck. I understand t he anger...I was too at all the people who have abortions when their child was perfectly healthy...or at how quickly and easily some people get pregnant. Don't let your anger get to you, because you are going to need to be positive to try again. You might want to talk to a professional, I didn't but only because they all had really long waits. Hang in there and focus on the future!
Where can I find advice for wife in preparing for a divorce other than an attorney...cannot afford.?
husband announced decision to split .... 2 children involved, 13 yr.old daughter (ours) and 16 year old son ,(mine by first marriage)... mortgage Payments beyond my income, and terrified of making bad decision ....13 years married. Need guidance to make some advance plans for kids and myself
before he hits me with an attorney..... and I have no way to pay for legal advice . My income has gone to care for kids and
pay for all the utilities, and living expenses. He paid the home
mortgage, played with rebuilding autos, and hunting.....guess
who has the bank account...Where can I find advice for wife in preparing for a divorce other than an attorney...cannot afford.?
Most divorce lawyers will take cases on contigency, and since you are considered low income, you can have it stated, that your hubby will pay the lawyer fees.
Most likely, sell the house and split 50/50
or you keep the house and he must pay
you child support for 1, and alimony for half the years you were married, to help you get on your feet.
Go today and discuss your options.Where can I find advice for wife in preparing for a divorce other than an attorney...cannot afford.?
He can't do that - sorry. HE can't take everything and leave you guys with no way to survive.
He is going to have to help you and pay child support. You HAVE to get an attorney - many will set up a payment plan and since he walked out and left you with no way to survive, you attorney will probably fight to have him pay all court fees.
Don't wait until you lose your home - get an attorney now. He's responsible for child support from the minute he walks out the door.
Good Luck.
Possibly try other people who have gone through the same situation.
Sometimes when you talk to those that have ';walked in those shoes'; it can really turnout to be truly helpful.
Hope it helps
You can't afford NOT to have an attorney.
Go to the library and get some books on divorvce, child support, etc. in your state. Call legal aid
Is the relationship in such a bad place that you guys cant talk nicely about how to go your seperate ways without hurting each other finaicaillymakeup artist
before he hits me with an attorney..... and I have no way to pay for legal advice . My income has gone to care for kids and
pay for all the utilities, and living expenses. He paid the home
mortgage, played with rebuilding autos, and hunting.....guess
who has the bank account...Where can I find advice for wife in preparing for a divorce other than an attorney...cannot afford.?
Most divorce lawyers will take cases on contigency, and since you are considered low income, you can have it stated, that your hubby will pay the lawyer fees.
Most likely, sell the house and split 50/50
or you keep the house and he must pay
you child support for 1, and alimony for half the years you were married, to help you get on your feet.
Go today and discuss your options.Where can I find advice for wife in preparing for a divorce other than an attorney...cannot afford.?
He can't do that - sorry. HE can't take everything and leave you guys with no way to survive.
He is going to have to help you and pay child support. You HAVE to get an attorney - many will set up a payment plan and since he walked out and left you with no way to survive, you attorney will probably fight to have him pay all court fees.
Don't wait until you lose your home - get an attorney now. He's responsible for child support from the minute he walks out the door.
Good Luck.
Possibly try other people who have gone through the same situation.
Sometimes when you talk to those that have ';walked in those shoes'; it can really turnout to be truly helpful.
Hope it helps
You can't afford NOT to have an attorney.
Go to the library and get some books on divorvce, child support, etc. in your state. Call legal aid
Is the relationship in such a bad place that you guys cant talk nicely about how to go your seperate ways without hurting each other finaicailly
I need some advice. My wife of 10 years is leaving me for another man...?
We have 3 daughters together ages 4, 7 and 8. She has decided to move in with her new boyfriend and things are progressing extremely fast in my opinion with him. She tells me they are in love etc.. She wants me to have primary customer of the children. All of this happened in the past month and no divorce has been filed yet. I am extremely worried about my kids going to see her and meet a new man making the already tough divorce more awkward for them. Am I wrong in thinking she's making a terrible decision for the children's interests by moving in with someone else immediately or is it just my hurt feelings? I feel terrible about the whole situation. My main question however is when is it appropriate for the kids to meet him?I need some advice. My wife of 10 years is leaving me for another man...?
Realize you can't control another person, no matter how stupid they are.
Your wife is making a huge mistake bringing the children into the new relationship this early. At their age, they will be confused and get a ton of mixed signals from everyone.
You can't however stop her any way except legally. Start with a psychoilogist, get depositions, family counselors etc. Have your lawyer present it to the court. Chances are it will be a coin toss.
She's stupid, and there is nothing you can really do about it.I need some advice. My wife of 10 years is leaving me for another man...?
The kids meeting their mother is not up to you.
File for a divorce and get full custody of your children. Ask your lawyer what he would advise you to do about the children going to visit their mother in her home, while she is living with a man they don't even know.
What ever you do, don't try to prevent your children from seeing their mother. They need to have their mother in their lives.
If she's only known him for a few months then i think she's jumping the gun by moving in with him, but you can't stop that happening. She may be looking at a broken heart in a few months time.
Your worry is the children isn't it. Well i don't know how she she can just up and leave them for another man! They will be confused and hurt. She may not be thinking straight but those kids could suffer long term anxiety issues because of her behaviour.
I would suggest that she moves out on her own, not into his place, let the kids deal with that first. Then slowly, in a few months time, not straight away, introduce the kids to this man. He may no longer be around by then. I'd explain to her that you want to protect them from gettinh hurt. Plus she may drive a wedge between herself and the kids by moving in with him, as they'll feel protective towards you.
Good Luck, i do hope i've been some help to you, my husband's first wife behaved in a similar uncaring fashion, and their son now lives with us and has done for 9 years, he rarely sees his mum, and it's a shame.
Move on with your life now and leave her to screw up her life it won,t last long so don,t worry about her, just get on with yours and take good care of your little girls.
My opinion of visiting rights for the girls is not to let her have them when the boyfriend is around, let your girls settle down get over the loss of their mother before you let her introduce them to another man and for gods sake don,t take her back when this relationship fails.It was her choice to leave such young children so keep her out of their life as long as you can. Good luck with your girls mate.
thats really personal its really between u and her but i wish u all the luck to u god bless
It is too bad for the children's sake that she is acting so quickly. You have every right to be hurt and upset about her actions. She is acting extremely selfish. As far as you obtaining custody,do it. You do not know this man and you have daughters to look after. She is acting out of lust at this point, not love.
Keep your head up for those daughters of yours!!!
I think yr wife may be more 'in lust' with this guy, there's a huge difference between love %26amp; lust. Not too many women would ask their ex's to be the primary care-giver of their children? It seems a very selfish %26amp; callous act on her behalf.
IDK what yr situation is as you are the only one that can truly answer the 'real' question. I wouldn't let this guy meet yr girls for an overly long period of time %26amp; then it should be after yr ex %26amp; him have been together for between 4-6 mths %26amp; only during the day time in an open/public space.
You don't know this guy fr Adam how can you trust yr daughters physical %26amp; emotional well-being in his presence? Yr daughters may require some form of counselling as a coping mechanism. Take care it is a very delicate situation, perhaps some counselling for yourself may assist in yr decision making too?
Honestly, Just the fact that your marriage has gone south is tragic in it's self. No matter what, Your kids are going to feel the effects of their parents breaking up. There is not much you can do to sugar coat it but to be honest with them. Don't give them any false hopes, But at the same time, Try to give them all the support and love they need at this horrible moment. Do positive things together.
As for you, Take things one step at a time. Don't argue, Fuss or fight in front of the kids. Try to surround yourself in a positive environment like a church or something like that. If you believe in God, Pray! Not trying to get religious on ya.
Hey man, I feel for ya. Unfortunately, There is not much you can do about what your wife does or how she'll behave. It seems that there will never be an appropriate time for your kids to meet this new figure in their lives. But, Be strong for your self and your kids.
God Bless.
Wow, my wife married me after only like a year or so of divorce being finalized and she kept saying how badly she hated divorce and that she loved me and now she's planning on the same thing with us now that we have a baby on the way. she was married 14 years b4 she met me and now she tells me she doesn't love me and never did and that she still loves her ex but that she wouldn't go back to him because of his abuse and manipulative and controlling and filthy life style, she has two kids by him and doesn't have any custody. Woman are crazy, they love ***-holes, and I'm a sucker for hott woman. But one thing I'll tell ya is ya just never know what kind of guy this guy is.. her ex was worried I'd rape there daughter and I never touched her.. and now they miss me because my wife asked me to leave her, kinda hard when the baby isn't even born yet.. I had to move to my parents house again! yippy!! I think you should wait like atleast 6 months.. it might not last that long.. my marriage hasn't.. she got prego on our honeymoon and brought up divorce after only like a month or so..
Obviously your wife doesn't care what you or the kids think. I would not allow them to go there at all. Talk about screwing up kids lives, what a selfish pig........She wants you to have them and she just up and leaves. I would do everything I could to keep them away from her.
After i separated/divorced my children's father and i started dating again, i did it very privately, and they didn't meet anyone until i knew it was a relationship that had some meeting or i felt was going to last some time.... she probably is rushing it,but we are all different, take the primary custody of the kids,there's nothing you can do about what she is doing, but just be a great dad to you kids, don't bag her to them ever, and just be the bigger person.
Wishing you luck.
Surely your wife will not introduce your children to a new guy during such a painful time. The thing to do now is to talk to her about your concerns in a way that will not cause her to become defensive.
Realize you can't control another person, no matter how stupid they are.
Your wife is making a huge mistake bringing the children into the new relationship this early. At their age, they will be confused and get a ton of mixed signals from everyone.
You can't however stop her any way except legally. Start with a psychoilogist, get depositions, family counselors etc. Have your lawyer present it to the court. Chances are it will be a coin toss.
She's stupid, and there is nothing you can really do about it.I need some advice. My wife of 10 years is leaving me for another man...?
The kids meeting their mother is not up to you.
File for a divorce and get full custody of your children. Ask your lawyer what he would advise you to do about the children going to visit their mother in her home, while she is living with a man they don't even know.
What ever you do, don't try to prevent your children from seeing their mother. They need to have their mother in their lives.
If she's only known him for a few months then i think she's jumping the gun by moving in with him, but you can't stop that happening. She may be looking at a broken heart in a few months time.
Your worry is the children isn't it. Well i don't know how she she can just up and leave them for another man! They will be confused and hurt. She may not be thinking straight but those kids could suffer long term anxiety issues because of her behaviour.
I would suggest that she moves out on her own, not into his place, let the kids deal with that first. Then slowly, in a few months time, not straight away, introduce the kids to this man. He may no longer be around by then. I'd explain to her that you want to protect them from gettinh hurt. Plus she may drive a wedge between herself and the kids by moving in with him, as they'll feel protective towards you.
Good Luck, i do hope i've been some help to you, my husband's first wife behaved in a similar uncaring fashion, and their son now lives with us and has done for 9 years, he rarely sees his mum, and it's a shame.
Move on with your life now and leave her to screw up her life it won,t last long so don,t worry about her, just get on with yours and take good care of your little girls.
My opinion of visiting rights for the girls is not to let her have them when the boyfriend is around, let your girls settle down get over the loss of their mother before you let her introduce them to another man and for gods sake don,t take her back when this relationship fails.It was her choice to leave such young children so keep her out of their life as long as you can. Good luck with your girls mate.
thats really personal its really between u and her but i wish u all the luck to u god bless
It is too bad for the children's sake that she is acting so quickly. You have every right to be hurt and upset about her actions. She is acting extremely selfish. As far as you obtaining custody,do it. You do not know this man and you have daughters to look after. She is acting out of lust at this point, not love.
Keep your head up for those daughters of yours!!!
I think yr wife may be more 'in lust' with this guy, there's a huge difference between love %26amp; lust. Not too many women would ask their ex's to be the primary care-giver of their children? It seems a very selfish %26amp; callous act on her behalf.
IDK what yr situation is as you are the only one that can truly answer the 'real' question. I wouldn't let this guy meet yr girls for an overly long period of time %26amp; then it should be after yr ex %26amp; him have been together for between 4-6 mths %26amp; only during the day time in an open/public space.
You don't know this guy fr Adam how can you trust yr daughters physical %26amp; emotional well-being in his presence? Yr daughters may require some form of counselling as a coping mechanism. Take care it is a very delicate situation, perhaps some counselling for yourself may assist in yr decision making too?
Honestly, Just the fact that your marriage has gone south is tragic in it's self. No matter what, Your kids are going to feel the effects of their parents breaking up. There is not much you can do to sugar coat it but to be honest with them. Don't give them any false hopes, But at the same time, Try to give them all the support and love they need at this horrible moment. Do positive things together.
As for you, Take things one step at a time. Don't argue, Fuss or fight in front of the kids. Try to surround yourself in a positive environment like a church or something like that. If you believe in God, Pray! Not trying to get religious on ya.
Hey man, I feel for ya. Unfortunately, There is not much you can do about what your wife does or how she'll behave. It seems that there will never be an appropriate time for your kids to meet this new figure in their lives. But, Be strong for your self and your kids.
God Bless.
Wow, my wife married me after only like a year or so of divorce being finalized and she kept saying how badly she hated divorce and that she loved me and now she's planning on the same thing with us now that we have a baby on the way. she was married 14 years b4 she met me and now she tells me she doesn't love me and never did and that she still loves her ex but that she wouldn't go back to him because of his abuse and manipulative and controlling and filthy life style, she has two kids by him and doesn't have any custody. Woman are crazy, they love ***-holes, and I'm a sucker for hott woman. But one thing I'll tell ya is ya just never know what kind of guy this guy is.. her ex was worried I'd rape there daughter and I never touched her.. and now they miss me because my wife asked me to leave her, kinda hard when the baby isn't even born yet.. I had to move to my parents house again! yippy!! I think you should wait like atleast 6 months.. it might not last that long.. my marriage hasn't.. she got prego on our honeymoon and brought up divorce after only like a month or so..
Obviously your wife doesn't care what you or the kids think. I would not allow them to go there at all. Talk about screwing up kids lives, what a selfish pig........She wants you to have them and she just up and leaves. I would do everything I could to keep them away from her.
After i separated/divorced my children's father and i started dating again, i did it very privately, and they didn't meet anyone until i knew it was a relationship that had some meeting or i felt was going to last some time.... she probably is rushing it,but we are all different, take the primary custody of the kids,there's nothing you can do about what she is doing, but just be a great dad to you kids, don't bag her to them ever, and just be the bigger person.
Wishing you luck.
Surely your wife will not introduce your children to a new guy during such a painful time. The thing to do now is to talk to her about your concerns in a way that will not cause her to become defensive.
Following the councilors advice, my wife and I opened up about somethings we both wanted in the bedroom?
I was happy at first with getting my requests fulfilled, but I'm having some trouble with hers. Apparently, she has a very sensitive part of her that she wants more attention given to. Let's just say that it's a little lower than were I already knew was a sensitive area.
It was a little fun at first, just because I had always associated it with being naughty, but she is really insisting that I pay attention every time now. And it's starting to disgust me. I really don't think that's a place my tongue and fingers need to be every time I want sex with my wife, and I'm starting to want it less.
We were already having trouble exciting each other, and now I think the councilors advice is going more harm than good. I'm glad my wife is now having sex with me more than once every two months, but this new 'spot' of hers is getting gross fast.
How should I handle this? Does anyone have any similar experiences?Following the councilors advice, my wife and I opened up about somethings we both wanted in the bedroom?
Hmmm, and here I thought at first you were hinting that her feet were ticklish...
I would suggest getting a special toy for use on the area in question - that way, you can make sure it's well-cleaned between uses and not have to place your tongue and fingers into orifices you'd just as soon they not go.Following the councilors advice, my wife and I opened up about somethings we both wanted in the bedroom?
Honesty is the best policy in any marriage. You should probably tell your wife that you prefer tossing your girlfriend's salad and that's why this is so hard for you. Not that you have anything against her but you know you have to leave some things separate (sacred) and special in both relationships.
Haha!
I'm guessing its the anus?
Well, different strokes for different folks...if you're not comfortable with it, you need to tell her but then again, she may say its unfair she's fulfilling your wants and you're not reciprocating. Just do it...I don't think she's liking ALL of yours.
Sometimes we have to compromise...hehe
Golly! I never woulda thought that a puppet's heinous would be so objectionable. Maybe you should get a seamstress to sew her a new one out of some fresh plush material and you can open up her zipper and stuff an air freshener in her if she has room for it.
my husband likes that same spot on me....i dont care for it but i let him do his thing and he lets me do mine....make a compromise....maybe you could do that every other time .....
As the Brits used to tell their daughters on their wedding nights: Just close your eyes and think of Mother England.
So let me get this straight, you want your bread, but you don't want to butter her up to get it? Sounds selfish to me.
Reading your question just made me happy that I am single!
This 'talk' should be with your wife....not the YA board. Do you want someone on here to tell your wife how you feel?
if you dont do it she will find someone else who will
It is not sex but the love making and in love making two loving partners take care of each other's wants and satisfy the same for mutual pleasure. It appears she is interested in oral stimulation for better orgasm. Nothing wrong in doing so for giving and getting the pleasure of love making. A woman loves it when a man pleases her orally. It is often the best way for her to reach orgasm. Perhaps you may find it intimidating, but with the right technique and attitude, you will be a pro in no time. Start by kissing her abdomen and inner thighs and then tease her a bit. Alternate the stimulation between her genitals and other parts of her body to really turn her on. Take in her scent and taste, and let her know that you're enjoying yourself. Use your tongue and lips to stimulate the outer and inner parts which will arouse her fully.Begin with long, slow kisses and licking and gradually increase the speed and intensity as her arousal builds. Don't just lick up and down, since concentrating on only one spot can lead to overstimulation. Move your tongue in different directions. Experiment with speed and pressure, but try to keep a rhythm or steady pattern of movement since short spurts of erratic stimulation are likely to throw her focus off. And don't just use your tongue and lips as well as your fingers, teeth, nose, and breath can also be employed as oral pleasers and teasers. Anus is another sensitive area. You can stimulate it with either your tongue or your fingers, but don't use the same fingers around her vagina without washing first, because bacteria from the anus can be harmful to the vagina. Manual stimulation can be just as much of an art form as oral stimulation. For women who prefer less direct contact, try moving your fingers in a small figure eight around the clitoris, then try making a larger figure eight over the entire length of her vagina. You can also hold her labia open while you use your middle finger to stroke up and down. Many women enjoy having the vaginal opening massaged. If your partner prefers direct pressure on her clitoris, you can tap or rub it constantly with one or two of your fingers. Stay aware of the telltale signs of her enjoyment, such as moaning and heavy breathing. She may squeeze your hand, grip the sheet, or push her pelvis up toward your face. Other physical signs, such as increased vaginal lubrication and swelling of her vulva, will also clue you in to her pleasure. When she is fully aroused, start using your tongue to stimulate her clitoris which is the most sensitive part of a woman's anatomy. While working the clitoris with your mouth, insert one or two fingers into her vagina with a gentle thrusting motion. If you tilt them upward just slightly, you can also massage the G-spot. You will know you have hit it when you feel a spongy bump about one to two inches inside the vagina toward her navel. Done right, clitoral stimulation is the best way to bring a woman to the edge of orgasm and then take her over the edge. This will be the right time for you to enter and artistically finish the beautiful act of love making reaching to the orgasm simultaneously or after hers. But both will be on the cloud 9 thereafter......You love your wife and she loves you so I am sure now you will not be feeling reluctant, and you will enjoy as per the advice of the counselor. Good luck for the good experience between the sheets every night...
after several years of marriage i decided i was ready to start dating again...i soon realized however that i was going to need to offer something extra special in order to compete with all those hot 18 year old girls out there on the market.
after watching several porn videos, i realized i had a lot to learn. i figured i better practice. it sounds like your wife is doing the same thing. take my advice and help her out.
after practicing with my hubby for a few months and watching some excellent instructional videos (i still have them if you would like to borrow them) i was able to perfect the back door technique and hook up with a hot young thing who was so dazzled by my techniques that he would have licked the floor for me afterward if i had asked him to. fortunately, i already have a good carpet cleaner, but we did need a good pool cleaner, and raul was eager to step in (well, move in, actually) and take over...at a very reasonable rate too.
hubby is so pleased that he is paying far below the regular rate for a live-in pool boy.
ah, sweet raul. good help is so hard to find you know? i suggest you do whatever it takes to help your wife as she works to broaden her horizons...she's really only thinking of you. well, sort of.
Getting a sexual equation is always tough, and taking advice from a counselor is always a gamble. The truth is there are probably things that she does for you that she finds gross, and you are now discovering the same. (Personally I hate rimming and cunnilingus although it turns a lot of women on,)
You could discuss this a little more openly with her and pleasure her the way she likes it on some days, and she could do the same for you on others? The novelty of wild sex normally lasts 4-5 months, so I don't know where you are in the course of rediscovering each other, but you can wait it out.
If it's been over 6 months then an honest discussion is in order (and I know, men hate to discuss things!). Just be nice about it and honest and if you love each other it can be worked out.
As the old saying goes. You have to give a little to get a little. If you both shower and are clean, and it does not cause pain any thing should go. Just do it and pretend you do not mind doing it if it get you the sex that you want. I asume you are talking about rimming. That can be hard at first but you can get used to it. The important thing is she must be very clean and also with oral sex. A lot of women do not realy like giving oral to a guy but they do it just to please the guy. Do not think about the act it's self but the pleasure you are giving her. Think about how good it is going to be when you do get around to the actual sex act its self. Think about other thing whild doing what you do not like doing, it will help some. I hope this is of some help. Good Luck.
It was a little fun at first, just because I had always associated it with being naughty, but she is really insisting that I pay attention every time now. And it's starting to disgust me. I really don't think that's a place my tongue and fingers need to be every time I want sex with my wife, and I'm starting to want it less.
We were already having trouble exciting each other, and now I think the councilors advice is going more harm than good. I'm glad my wife is now having sex with me more than once every two months, but this new 'spot' of hers is getting gross fast.
How should I handle this? Does anyone have any similar experiences?Following the councilors advice, my wife and I opened up about somethings we both wanted in the bedroom?
Hmmm, and here I thought at first you were hinting that her feet were ticklish...
I would suggest getting a special toy for use on the area in question - that way, you can make sure it's well-cleaned between uses and not have to place your tongue and fingers into orifices you'd just as soon they not go.Following the councilors advice, my wife and I opened up about somethings we both wanted in the bedroom?
Honesty is the best policy in any marriage. You should probably tell your wife that you prefer tossing your girlfriend's salad and that's why this is so hard for you. Not that you have anything against her but you know you have to leave some things separate (sacred) and special in both relationships.
Haha!
I'm guessing its the anus?
Well, different strokes for different folks...if you're not comfortable with it, you need to tell her but then again, she may say its unfair she's fulfilling your wants and you're not reciprocating. Just do it...I don't think she's liking ALL of yours.
Sometimes we have to compromise...hehe
Golly! I never woulda thought that a puppet's heinous would be so objectionable. Maybe you should get a seamstress to sew her a new one out of some fresh plush material and you can open up her zipper and stuff an air freshener in her if she has room for it.
my husband likes that same spot on me....i dont care for it but i let him do his thing and he lets me do mine....make a compromise....maybe you could do that every other time .....
As the Brits used to tell their daughters on their wedding nights: Just close your eyes and think of Mother England.
So let me get this straight, you want your bread, but you don't want to butter her up to get it? Sounds selfish to me.
Reading your question just made me happy that I am single!
This 'talk' should be with your wife....not the YA board. Do you want someone on here to tell your wife how you feel?
if you dont do it she will find someone else who will
It is not sex but the love making and in love making two loving partners take care of each other's wants and satisfy the same for mutual pleasure. It appears she is interested in oral stimulation for better orgasm. Nothing wrong in doing so for giving and getting the pleasure of love making. A woman loves it when a man pleases her orally. It is often the best way for her to reach orgasm. Perhaps you may find it intimidating, but with the right technique and attitude, you will be a pro in no time. Start by kissing her abdomen and inner thighs and then tease her a bit. Alternate the stimulation between her genitals and other parts of her body to really turn her on. Take in her scent and taste, and let her know that you're enjoying yourself. Use your tongue and lips to stimulate the outer and inner parts which will arouse her fully.Begin with long, slow kisses and licking and gradually increase the speed and intensity as her arousal builds. Don't just lick up and down, since concentrating on only one spot can lead to overstimulation. Move your tongue in different directions. Experiment with speed and pressure, but try to keep a rhythm or steady pattern of movement since short spurts of erratic stimulation are likely to throw her focus off. And don't just use your tongue and lips as well as your fingers, teeth, nose, and breath can also be employed as oral pleasers and teasers. Anus is another sensitive area. You can stimulate it with either your tongue or your fingers, but don't use the same fingers around her vagina without washing first, because bacteria from the anus can be harmful to the vagina. Manual stimulation can be just as much of an art form as oral stimulation. For women who prefer less direct contact, try moving your fingers in a small figure eight around the clitoris, then try making a larger figure eight over the entire length of her vagina. You can also hold her labia open while you use your middle finger to stroke up and down. Many women enjoy having the vaginal opening massaged. If your partner prefers direct pressure on her clitoris, you can tap or rub it constantly with one or two of your fingers. Stay aware of the telltale signs of her enjoyment, such as moaning and heavy breathing. She may squeeze your hand, grip the sheet, or push her pelvis up toward your face. Other physical signs, such as increased vaginal lubrication and swelling of her vulva, will also clue you in to her pleasure. When she is fully aroused, start using your tongue to stimulate her clitoris which is the most sensitive part of a woman's anatomy. While working the clitoris with your mouth, insert one or two fingers into her vagina with a gentle thrusting motion. If you tilt them upward just slightly, you can also massage the G-spot. You will know you have hit it when you feel a spongy bump about one to two inches inside the vagina toward her navel. Done right, clitoral stimulation is the best way to bring a woman to the edge of orgasm and then take her over the edge. This will be the right time for you to enter and artistically finish the beautiful act of love making reaching to the orgasm simultaneously or after hers. But both will be on the cloud 9 thereafter......You love your wife and she loves you so I am sure now you will not be feeling reluctant, and you will enjoy as per the advice of the counselor. Good luck for the good experience between the sheets every night...
after several years of marriage i decided i was ready to start dating again...i soon realized however that i was going to need to offer something extra special in order to compete with all those hot 18 year old girls out there on the market.
after watching several porn videos, i realized i had a lot to learn. i figured i better practice. it sounds like your wife is doing the same thing. take my advice and help her out.
after practicing with my hubby for a few months and watching some excellent instructional videos (i still have them if you would like to borrow them) i was able to perfect the back door technique and hook up with a hot young thing who was so dazzled by my techniques that he would have licked the floor for me afterward if i had asked him to. fortunately, i already have a good carpet cleaner, but we did need a good pool cleaner, and raul was eager to step in (well, move in, actually) and take over...at a very reasonable rate too.
hubby is so pleased that he is paying far below the regular rate for a live-in pool boy.
ah, sweet raul. good help is so hard to find you know? i suggest you do whatever it takes to help your wife as she works to broaden her horizons...she's really only thinking of you. well, sort of.
Getting a sexual equation is always tough, and taking advice from a counselor is always a gamble. The truth is there are probably things that she does for you that she finds gross, and you are now discovering the same. (Personally I hate rimming and cunnilingus although it turns a lot of women on,)
You could discuss this a little more openly with her and pleasure her the way she likes it on some days, and she could do the same for you on others? The novelty of wild sex normally lasts 4-5 months, so I don't know where you are in the course of rediscovering each other, but you can wait it out.
If it's been over 6 months then an honest discussion is in order (and I know, men hate to discuss things!). Just be nice about it and honest and if you love each other it can be worked out.
As the old saying goes. You have to give a little to get a little. If you both shower and are clean, and it does not cause pain any thing should go. Just do it and pretend you do not mind doing it if it get you the sex that you want. I asume you are talking about rimming. That can be hard at first but you can get used to it. The important thing is she must be very clean and also with oral sex. A lot of women do not realy like giving oral to a guy but they do it just to please the guy. Do not think about the act it's self but the pleasure you are giving her. Think about how good it is going to be when you do get around to the actual sex act its self. Think about other thing whild doing what you do not like doing, it will help some. I hope this is of some help. Good Luck.
Give me some advice its important for me? i am house wife my husband is not staying with me any more . i am st?
Give me some advice its important for me?
give me some advice its important for me?
i am house wife my husband is not staying with me any more . i am staying with my parents now we don't our own hose in past 25 years i am 26 . i am working in a company with salary of 5000/- this the only one income for my family, i would like to be an escort, what should i do? give me your advice and also i am from IndiaGive me some advice its important for me? i am house wife my husband is not staying with me any more . i am st?
Whats is the problem with ur husband have u satisfied him or u have any personal problem talk with him personally explain ur position...Give me some advice its important for me? i am house wife my husband is not staying with me any more . i am st?
Many women would like to live the life of an escort. Being young and getting into that line has it's benefits. It also has many drawbacks ! Before you jump into a position like that in the States, you need to do a lot of checking out Companies, and there clientele . There are many negitives to being an escort.
where r u in India? r u interested in earning confirmed 10,000/- rs a week wid all facilities???
You do realize that being an escort is pretty much the same thing as being a prostitute? Is that really what you want to become? Why are you the only one in the house who is working? Who was supporting them, before you moved into their house?
You have many remedies under law. If you want to live together you can file a case of Restitution of Conjugal Rights. Need money for basic amenities apply for Maintenance. Even you can prefer the complaint of cruelty, if any cruelties took place.
I advice you to take the steps for maintenance first under Domestic Violence Act for quick remedy but not under usual process, the same will take time.
And avoid to go in other ways. I require more details for remedy
why dont your parents get off there @ss's and get a job?
Forget the escort crap. Go back to school to further your education, apply for social services help and improve your life.
First try to sort out your marital issue.Forget escort thing totally - Necessity is the mother of inventions and not destructions ! There are several other constructive ways to earn and grow creatively.See what you are best suited for in your given scenario and move with faith
Dear Apple Pie, DO NOT go this route, God wants you to say this prayer, He will come into your life and help You. Please trust me and say it right now: (OUT LOUD)
';Lord Jesus, I believe You are the Son of God. Thank You for dying on the cross for my sins. Please forgive my sins and give me the gift of eternal life. I ask You in to my life and heart to be my Lord and Savior. I want to serve You always.'; Amen
Then share the prayer with others whom you know, and tell them to share it with others they know.
God will bless you and them for doing so.
May God help you in many ways! HE Loves You!
5000 a month is a good salary, you won't even make that escorting starting out. However, if that's a year you will make quiet a bit more. If you are trully interested in escorting, contact me at kevinlocke2323@yahoo.com and I can help you out by answering any questions you may have.
Why you want to be an escort?
It is like Professional Prostitution.
You seem to be a nice girl. Dont be too worrysome.
Please write to me personally at - rbjain64@yahoo.com
I may be of great help to you.
Emily ~ is that the only answer u have for all the questions on here??
Anyway........ I suggest u talk that over w/ ur husband.. not really sure why u aren't living 2gether. Why be an escort?? Is that $5000/yr? U can work at McDonald's %26amp; make more than that!!!
Hi Apple Pie,
I would suggest you to first enhance your skills of work. Being an escort is a very easy option. i dont know why you guys separated, but now its your responsibility to come out of it and make your family proud. what do you think, if you become an escort and own a good house, will your parents be happy for the same?i dont think so.
Just learn and earn in life. there are a lot of things you can do with dignity like after learning some cooking, sewing you can start an initial business. you have Mumbai's DABBAWALLAS example in front of you. Start tiffin service, it has good money and dignity. there are a lot of things which can be started with very few money and earn you and your family respect and money too.
Don't think negative and make your parents proud.
Good Luck.
what is more important to you? do you have a goal? would this escort job help you get to your goal or make your goal happen? do you know what a goal is?
escort job may look glamorous but there is a lot of disrespect that comes with that line of work. From others, and yourself. And it is a risky job.
please mail me on this ID aan_singh2003@yahoo.co.in
Hi,
as u hv asked about ur problem from my point of view u r making the big mistakes of ur life whether u got divorce with ur husband or u want to become escort it is one and the same b'coz u r not happy with ur husband %26amp; not even with becomnig escort.So don't ever think to become escort it will spoil ur life. whether u get married or u try to find some other job or try for some business but ofr business uhave to take some risk without risk u cant do anytihng but im sure from this ur life will cahnge y escort there r many other ways to sort out ur problem.u just relax and make ur life better try to find ur life partner. and if u need more help just mail me i'll surely reply u my ID is :kunalsrt@yahoo.com plz plz don't opt for escort again im telling u.
Escort service is a very wild %26amp; cheap service. You are youthful capable of earning and maintaining yourself and your parents, by doing jobs. More over for your biological needs you have not crossed your age for another legal marriage. It may not be proper to choose a wayward path, than living a life in a dignified %26amp; logical way. Thanks.
He's already gone!
move on with your life!
good luck!
Why don't u sue your husband and get alimony money, which will help u tide over a difficult time financially, maybe u can get enough money to buy a house and live a decent life.
give me some advice its important for me?
i am house wife my husband is not staying with me any more . i am staying with my parents now we don't our own hose in past 25 years i am 26 . i am working in a company with salary of 5000/- this the only one income for my family, i would like to be an escort, what should i do? give me your advice and also i am from IndiaGive me some advice its important for me? i am house wife my husband is not staying with me any more . i am st?
Whats is the problem with ur husband have u satisfied him or u have any personal problem talk with him personally explain ur position...Give me some advice its important for me? i am house wife my husband is not staying with me any more . i am st?
Many women would like to live the life of an escort. Being young and getting into that line has it's benefits. It also has many drawbacks ! Before you jump into a position like that in the States, you need to do a lot of checking out Companies, and there clientele . There are many negitives to being an escort.
where r u in India? r u interested in earning confirmed 10,000/- rs a week wid all facilities???
You do realize that being an escort is pretty much the same thing as being a prostitute? Is that really what you want to become? Why are you the only one in the house who is working? Who was supporting them, before you moved into their house?
You have many remedies under law. If you want to live together you can file a case of Restitution of Conjugal Rights. Need money for basic amenities apply for Maintenance. Even you can prefer the complaint of cruelty, if any cruelties took place.
I advice you to take the steps for maintenance first under Domestic Violence Act for quick remedy but not under usual process, the same will take time.
And avoid to go in other ways. I require more details for remedy
why dont your parents get off there @ss's and get a job?
Forget the escort crap. Go back to school to further your education, apply for social services help and improve your life.
First try to sort out your marital issue.Forget escort thing totally - Necessity is the mother of inventions and not destructions ! There are several other constructive ways to earn and grow creatively.See what you are best suited for in your given scenario and move with faith
Dear Apple Pie, DO NOT go this route, God wants you to say this prayer, He will come into your life and help You. Please trust me and say it right now: (OUT LOUD)
';Lord Jesus, I believe You are the Son of God. Thank You for dying on the cross for my sins. Please forgive my sins and give me the gift of eternal life. I ask You in to my life and heart to be my Lord and Savior. I want to serve You always.'; Amen
Then share the prayer with others whom you know, and tell them to share it with others they know.
God will bless you and them for doing so.
May God help you in many ways! HE Loves You!
5000 a month is a good salary, you won't even make that escorting starting out. However, if that's a year you will make quiet a bit more. If you are trully interested in escorting, contact me at kevinlocke2323@yahoo.com and I can help you out by answering any questions you may have.
Why you want to be an escort?
It is like Professional Prostitution.
You seem to be a nice girl. Dont be too worrysome.
Please write to me personally at - rbjain64@yahoo.com
I may be of great help to you.
Emily ~ is that the only answer u have for all the questions on here??
Anyway........ I suggest u talk that over w/ ur husband.. not really sure why u aren't living 2gether. Why be an escort?? Is that $5000/yr? U can work at McDonald's %26amp; make more than that!!!
Hi Apple Pie,
I would suggest you to first enhance your skills of work. Being an escort is a very easy option. i dont know why you guys separated, but now its your responsibility to come out of it and make your family proud. what do you think, if you become an escort and own a good house, will your parents be happy for the same?i dont think so.
Just learn and earn in life. there are a lot of things you can do with dignity like after learning some cooking, sewing you can start an initial business. you have Mumbai's DABBAWALLAS example in front of you. Start tiffin service, it has good money and dignity. there are a lot of things which can be started with very few money and earn you and your family respect and money too.
Don't think negative and make your parents proud.
Good Luck.
what is more important to you? do you have a goal? would this escort job help you get to your goal or make your goal happen? do you know what a goal is?
escort job may look glamorous but there is a lot of disrespect that comes with that line of work. From others, and yourself. And it is a risky job.
please mail me on this ID aan_singh2003@yahoo.co.in
Hi,
as u hv asked about ur problem from my point of view u r making the big mistakes of ur life whether u got divorce with ur husband or u want to become escort it is one and the same b'coz u r not happy with ur husband %26amp; not even with becomnig escort.So don't ever think to become escort it will spoil ur life. whether u get married or u try to find some other job or try for some business but ofr business uhave to take some risk without risk u cant do anytihng but im sure from this ur life will cahnge y escort there r many other ways to sort out ur problem.u just relax and make ur life better try to find ur life partner. and if u need more help just mail me i'll surely reply u my ID is :kunalsrt@yahoo.com plz plz don't opt for escort again im telling u.
Escort service is a very wild %26amp; cheap service. You are youthful capable of earning and maintaining yourself and your parents, by doing jobs. More over for your biological needs you have not crossed your age for another legal marriage. It may not be proper to choose a wayward path, than living a life in a dignified %26amp; logical way. Thanks.
He's already gone!
move on with your life!
good luck!
Why don't u sue your husband and get alimony money, which will help u tide over a difficult time financially, maybe u can get enough money to buy a house and live a decent life.
My wife is looking for a new filling for her pie, it must go with custard advice please ?
Tell her to put a creamed horn in a pie,it could become a best seller.And custard goes well with creamed horns.My wife is looking for a new filling for her pie, it must go with custard advice please ?
Apple and Blackberry pie goes extremely well with custard. Try a pinch of Nutmeg or Cinnamon in the custard too, it brings out the flavour.My wife is looking for a new filling for her pie, it must go with custard advice please ?
Custard goes with custard!! There is no substitute for the egg based topping of loveliness !!! Your wife should be ashamed!!!
English gooseberries.I know there are Cape gooseberries.The English ones are lovely,but you need a lot of sugar on them.
Bananas. Nice firm, erect, 8-10 inches long.
Chocolate cream pie
Mustard goes with custard.
cream cheese always goes down well
Cherry pie, YUM!
Blueberry or plum.
hi how about blackberry and apple or rhubarb
Peach goes really well and so does Cinnamon walnut.
cherry
Maybe pumpkin,,,
Dung beatles and kidney
a smelly kipper!
How about some nice warm apples?
i would try banana or cucumber %26amp; make sure that it dosent have bugs or is rotting
What about Peanut butter...
You would have to mix i with cool whip, cream cheese and then freeze it...
Good luck!
spotted dick
Apple and Blackberry pie goes extremely well with custard. Try a pinch of Nutmeg or Cinnamon in the custard too, it brings out the flavour.My wife is looking for a new filling for her pie, it must go with custard advice please ?
Custard goes with custard!! There is no substitute for the egg based topping of loveliness !!! Your wife should be ashamed!!!
English gooseberries.I know there are Cape gooseberries.The English ones are lovely,but you need a lot of sugar on them.
Bananas. Nice firm, erect, 8-10 inches long.
Chocolate cream pie
Mustard goes with custard.
cream cheese always goes down well
Cherry pie, YUM!
Blueberry or plum.
hi how about blackberry and apple or rhubarb
Peach goes really well and so does Cinnamon walnut.
cherry
Maybe pumpkin,,,
Dung beatles and kidney
a smelly kipper!
How about some nice warm apples?
i would try banana or cucumber %26amp; make sure that it dosent have bugs or is rotting
What about Peanut butter...
You would have to mix i with cool whip, cream cheese and then freeze it...
Good luck!
spotted dick
Need advice about wife and bipolar.?
This is a hard one. She is 6 and a half month pregnant with our second. Things started to get strange early July. I thought she was having an afair at work she told me i was crazy! I started to monitor her more closely. We went to marriage counsilor and she suggested we see a doctor about bipolar because od her actions. It all happened pretty fast, she was diagnosed,no meds because of pregnancy. I hacked into her laptop diary yesterday at 5 am and found out that she is sleeping with a guy at work and all she can think about is him abd screwing him. I am devistated to say the least. I confronted her with my evidence today. It did not go well. I know the guy, we all work for the same company, very complicated. I cant get my head around how a man could cheat with a pregant wife of someone he knows? I took my son of 2 and went to my moms. can't sleep with all the thoughts going thru my head. Is it the bipolar? need some kind of help . please how can i be with her again?Need advice about wife and bipolar.?
if you confronted her what did she say? Confront him as well. I know that she could be lying. Remember to get her on meds as soon as she has the baby. I would not leave her right now if you can hold on until after the baby is born. Good luck to you this is a difficult situation that you are in.Need advice about wife and bipolar.?
If you love her, I think you can find it in your heart to forgive her and move past this. She's going to need a lot of help and support and you need to be there for her in the best way you can. She has to be treated IMMEDIATELY after birth by a competent psychiatrist because she could sink into postpartum depression which could result in postpartum psychosis which could result in Andrea Yates....
BTW, I think you had no business reading her diary - sounds like you don't love her and the both of you ought to separate for a time being until she receives treatment.
This is a complicated situation. I work with some bi=polar students at the school I work at, There behavior is sometimes a bit different...and they are medicated. Have you checked amy online informative sites about bi-polar? I think you need to get as much education as possible before you can even begine to deal with the other situation. I am not an expert be far...an dI often see starnge things, but nowhere near what I have been told from the parents.
Now, about the affair.....it is odd I agree, but I have heard of people having an affair when pregnant. I don't understand it either, as when I was pregnant it drew my husband and I closer together...althought during the second pregnancy, my libido was very inactive. Has she had a tendancy to wonder bdfor, even in the extent of looking? I do think that it is very possible that this is an effect of the bi-polor issue. It does not excuse it of course.....what is with this otehr guy though? Your wife may not be in her righy 'mind' so to say, but this other guy...I don't know what to think. Have you asked your wife about her feelings as well as his? I think it was very good of you to move with your child. You need to keep him safe and in a stress fress and emotionally stable home. Good luck buddy, if you need to chat, drop me an email.
Are you thinking that this baby might not be yours? Bipolar people are impossible to live with, specially if they don't realize they are ill or not on meds. I can't believe that all bipolar people have to stop their meds if they become pregnant! Not so.
Look up ';bipolar'; on Google or any search engine and you will find that what she is doing is part of her illness. The other man? Taking advantage of the situation.
By the way, not too many people who are bipolar can stay married....protect your children.
Who has sex with a 6 1/2 month pregant, married, mother? This is very difficult.
I agree with everything tnt said. As to ';how can I be with her again';? beats me!
Take some time to sort out your feelings for her. Pregancy probably exacerbates her mental illnessI. I've read that some bipolars, when in their maniac state, become sex-crazy ... it's a generalization, but that's a possibility also.
Bipolar is TOUGH to live with. I'd suggest you educate yourself about it, and what kind of parent she will make, let alone a life partner. It would take so very much love and understanding to get past this, and you need to look at yourself and y'alls relationship and see if you have enough love to survive this. I know you're hurting so badly right now, and you're angry, and confused. Your needs, and your child(ren)s' needs are vitally important. She's not going to be able to fully care for and look to the little ones' needs until she's balanced out with meds and counselling, and that's a long way down the road. Do you have enough love for her to wait? (and to pick up the slack with kids ? -- you'll have to be both mother and dad to them for a while). I'll keep you in my thoughts and wish you the very best.
i can tell u if she has bipolar diagnosis that is why she is acting irradicatly,many bipolar people have sexual problems and have affairs,of which at the time they think mean something or they dont mean anything at all,she if she will needs help as soon as possible and if you can for give her and want to make things work it will be very difficult believe me i know very well.Good Luck to you..I can also say it is a very serious illness that many people do nopt take seriously.
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RUN!!!!!!! I wouldn't even want to fall asleep around her,you may not wake up!
wow - thats a tough one.
confront her when she is not havig a hi or a low -
get her to comitt to writing that she will get help and take medicine after she gives birth.
be strong with her - tell her these are you conditions
you want to help her.
have her break it off with the other person - no contact
no phone calls nothing!
good luck
if you confronted her what did she say? Confront him as well. I know that she could be lying. Remember to get her on meds as soon as she has the baby. I would not leave her right now if you can hold on until after the baby is born. Good luck to you this is a difficult situation that you are in.Need advice about wife and bipolar.?
If you love her, I think you can find it in your heart to forgive her and move past this. She's going to need a lot of help and support and you need to be there for her in the best way you can. She has to be treated IMMEDIATELY after birth by a competent psychiatrist because she could sink into postpartum depression which could result in postpartum psychosis which could result in Andrea Yates....
BTW, I think you had no business reading her diary - sounds like you don't love her and the both of you ought to separate for a time being until she receives treatment.
This is a complicated situation. I work with some bi=polar students at the school I work at, There behavior is sometimes a bit different...and they are medicated. Have you checked amy online informative sites about bi-polar? I think you need to get as much education as possible before you can even begine to deal with the other situation. I am not an expert be far...an dI often see starnge things, but nowhere near what I have been told from the parents.
Now, about the affair.....it is odd I agree, but I have heard of people having an affair when pregnant. I don't understand it either, as when I was pregnant it drew my husband and I closer together...althought during the second pregnancy, my libido was very inactive. Has she had a tendancy to wonder bdfor, even in the extent of looking? I do think that it is very possible that this is an effect of the bi-polor issue. It does not excuse it of course.....what is with this otehr guy though? Your wife may not be in her righy 'mind' so to say, but this other guy...I don't know what to think. Have you asked your wife about her feelings as well as his? I think it was very good of you to move with your child. You need to keep him safe and in a stress fress and emotionally stable home. Good luck buddy, if you need to chat, drop me an email.
Are you thinking that this baby might not be yours? Bipolar people are impossible to live with, specially if they don't realize they are ill or not on meds. I can't believe that all bipolar people have to stop their meds if they become pregnant! Not so.
Look up ';bipolar'; on Google or any search engine and you will find that what she is doing is part of her illness. The other man? Taking advantage of the situation.
By the way, not too many people who are bipolar can stay married....protect your children.
Who has sex with a 6 1/2 month pregant, married, mother? This is very difficult.
I agree with everything tnt said. As to ';how can I be with her again';? beats me!
Take some time to sort out your feelings for her. Pregancy probably exacerbates her mental illnessI. I've read that some bipolars, when in their maniac state, become sex-crazy ... it's a generalization, but that's a possibility also.
Bipolar is TOUGH to live with. I'd suggest you educate yourself about it, and what kind of parent she will make, let alone a life partner. It would take so very much love and understanding to get past this, and you need to look at yourself and y'alls relationship and see if you have enough love to survive this. I know you're hurting so badly right now, and you're angry, and confused. Your needs, and your child(ren)s' needs are vitally important. She's not going to be able to fully care for and look to the little ones' needs until she's balanced out with meds and counselling, and that's a long way down the road. Do you have enough love for her to wait? (and to pick up the slack with kids ? -- you'll have to be both mother and dad to them for a while). I'll keep you in my thoughts and wish you the very best.
i can tell u if she has bipolar diagnosis that is why she is acting irradicatly,many bipolar people have sexual problems and have affairs,of which at the time they think mean something or they dont mean anything at all,she if she will needs help as soon as possible and if you can for give her and want to make things work it will be very difficult believe me i know very well.Good Luck to you..I can also say it is a very serious illness that many people do nopt take seriously.
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RUN!!!!!!! I wouldn't even want to fall asleep around her,you may not wake up!
wow - thats a tough one.
confront her when she is not havig a hi or a low -
get her to comitt to writing that she will get help and take medicine after she gives birth.
be strong with her - tell her these are you conditions
you want to help her.
have her break it off with the other person - no contact
no phone calls nothing!
good luck
What advice can I get about pleasing my wife in bed?
First of all, your wife is so lucky to have a husband who cares about pleasing her.
What you need to do is to firstly set the mood. Behave for the whole day and treat her really well. Little gestures help, like taking out the trash and doing the dishes.
When it comes right down to it, never ever skip the foreplay. Tease her, women love that. Stroke her everywhere but her erogenous spots, and then when she begs you to, surprise her by sucking/licking/nibbling the said area. Also, her clitoris is the most sensitive spot on her whole body, you should tongue it and finger her at the same time, she'll explode.What advice can I get about pleasing my wife in bed?
Hey,
I could say 'ask the guy down the block'. But joking aside ask the wife.
Look up the word cunnilingus and read how to do it GOOD.
Next look at her day. Make sure she isn't over loaded with work, kids, house, etc. Do stuff to clear her evening. Like cook, clean and put the kids to bed.
Tell her you want to have a special night for her and have a special treat to try. Tell her to take a long relaxing bath. Give her a glass of wine. Maybe burn a candle. And if you can find a romance novel get that too.
Give her a good bit of time to just relax. Clean up the bed ooom and even change the sheets. Set the bed up with the pillows for her to lie in the middle. She is the queen and needs to be comfortable. Music is cool too.
Next warm up a few towels in the dryer. Come in and say it is time for your treat. Stand her up, dry her off, lead her to the bed. Lie her back and time to get to work.
Take your time...it is the journey not the destination....kiss your way down....spend time on her breasts...you know you can literally give her an orgasm kissing them.
Eventually get to her vagina...tease a lot with your mouth...then slowly do what you have taught yourself on cunnilinguys. Really invest the time. Take forever.
When she tells you she can't take no more...then make love to her in missionary position. You will enjoy how ready she is for you.
When you are done...tell her she can have the same thing next week.
BCWhat advice can I get about pleasing my wife in bed?
Have you tried putting your penis in her vagina? My wife is pleased when I put mine in hers, then take it back out and put it in again vigorously and repeat until she's satisfied. I know not all women are the same but that's what pleases my wife.
try this site I found last week.
It's done wonders for my marriage.
Every woman wants different things and the best thing for you to do is ask her what SHE WANTS.
I agree. Ask her what she wants. If she doesn't know, try something and she'll let you know if she likes it or not. It really is that easy.makeup artist
What you need to do is to firstly set the mood. Behave for the whole day and treat her really well. Little gestures help, like taking out the trash and doing the dishes.
When it comes right down to it, never ever skip the foreplay. Tease her, women love that. Stroke her everywhere but her erogenous spots, and then when she begs you to, surprise her by sucking/licking/nibbling the said area. Also, her clitoris is the most sensitive spot on her whole body, you should tongue it and finger her at the same time, she'll explode.What advice can I get about pleasing my wife in bed?
Hey,
I could say 'ask the guy down the block'. But joking aside ask the wife.
Look up the word cunnilingus and read how to do it GOOD.
Next look at her day. Make sure she isn't over loaded with work, kids, house, etc. Do stuff to clear her evening. Like cook, clean and put the kids to bed.
Tell her you want to have a special night for her and have a special treat to try. Tell her to take a long relaxing bath. Give her a glass of wine. Maybe burn a candle. And if you can find a romance novel get that too.
Give her a good bit of time to just relax. Clean up the bed ooom and even change the sheets. Set the bed up with the pillows for her to lie in the middle. She is the queen and needs to be comfortable. Music is cool too.
Next warm up a few towels in the dryer. Come in and say it is time for your treat. Stand her up, dry her off, lead her to the bed. Lie her back and time to get to work.
Take your time...it is the journey not the destination....kiss your way down....spend time on her breasts...you know you can literally give her an orgasm kissing them.
Eventually get to her vagina...tease a lot with your mouth...then slowly do what you have taught yourself on cunnilinguys. Really invest the time. Take forever.
When she tells you she can't take no more...then make love to her in missionary position. You will enjoy how ready she is for you.
When you are done...tell her she can have the same thing next week.
BCWhat advice can I get about pleasing my wife in bed?
Have you tried putting your penis in her vagina? My wife is pleased when I put mine in hers, then take it back out and put it in again vigorously and repeat until she's satisfied. I know not all women are the same but that's what pleases my wife.
try this site I found last week.
It's done wonders for my marriage.
Every woman wants different things and the best thing for you to do is ask her what SHE WANTS.
I agree. Ask her what she wants. If she doesn't know, try something and she'll let you know if she likes it or not. It really is that easy.
Advice his wife wont stop?????????????????
i was dating this guy my highschool sweetheart for almost 7 years we took a break for 6 months because he changed schools he came back because he did not like it and we got back together for three months. A girl from the other school that called him too say she was pregnant and he broke up with me to go marry her. Two weeks later i find out i am 2 1/2 months pregnant i told him so he knows i am. Unfortunatley his wife baby has some birth defect something to do with a serious heart problem. He took off and she keeps calling me to ask where he is? i told her i dont know but she keeps calling me!Advice his wife wont stop?????????????????
Change you number or file harassment charges against her. Tell her first though that you would like to know where he is also.Advice his wife wont stop?????????????????
wow if ur for real thats crazy, I would tell her to buzz off you have your own probs.
change your phone number girlie his wife is gonna go on a phycho mode if she dont find his ***....gilr seriously consider changing your phone number
Tell her to step the F off... youre in the position she was in months ago. She keeps calling.. block her #.
If I were you I would just change my phone number. She has no business harrasing you just to try and find him. You dont owe her any explanations, you don't have a realtionship with her ...HE DOES!
Decide what you want and go for it. Have the baby by yourself, find a job, find help and enjoy your life without him.
Wow what a messed up situation! Change your number and only let the people you want , what your new number is! Problem solved!!!
change your phone number get it unlisted he knows where to find you call the police get them to tell her to stop and then if it comes to it get a restraing order cause if something happens to her baby you do not want her to come after you and yours good luck huh and you can email me anytime if you ever need someone to talk to or more advice
Tell her the truth.
You are having his baby as well, do not know where he is and he will have the responsibility to both baby's and if you ever talk to him again, tell him to buy some condoms
wrap it or pay the price, twice in his case
i think respect is done for at this point....tell her quit calling and that if you hear from him you ll tell her....if she keeps up...report to the police about phone harrassment....they eventually tell her too stop.... you could always change your number.....but if you ever call her she might get it from caller i.d..... :(
I feel really bad for you. I'm sure that you are still in love with him and it hurt when he left to go to school, and it really hurt when he did an honorable thing and married the girl he got pregnant. He couldn't have known her for very long if he was gone just six months, but he did the right thing. NOW. He finds out you are pregnant as well, and I suppose he thinks his life is ruined. You guys sound really young, but all is not lost. Your child will have a sibling with the other woman, and sounds like they will be close to the same age. I would try to reason with her and let her know that this was not how you envisioned your life, but now this is what the two of you have to deal with. You didn't mention your parents or his parents and how they are dealing with this, but if I were you I would enlist the help of friends and family right now. And most importantly, when the weight of the world is weighing heavy on your heart, bend down and pray. God bless.
good luck he sounds like a real loser but remember you were the other woman so who better to call
ask you his buddy matt where he is
change phone #, get restraining order, explain to her that you are angry with this guy as well.
Tell her ';well He F@cked me and now im pregnant, so blame him';
hang up
Tell his wife that you will call the police if she does not stop calling you and then call the police if she calls again.
well if it pissed me off long enough i would go off on her tell her the truth if that don;t work then don;t worry and just changer your nuimber
Sounds like you both have some choice in men issues.
You've obviously got yourself a real catch there. Gets her pregnant, leaves to go to you, gets you pregnant, leaves to go marry her, finds out you're pregnant, leaves her to come back to you, gets you a place but doesn't stay with you. Yup, sounds like a really stable, commitment oriented guy who any woman would be happy to give up her college education for and have his baby. Wonder if he'll hide from you after he leaves and tell his wife, or new baby's mama, not to tell you where he is?
He can run but he can't hide, unless he never works again, which would be great news for someone who's about to have a child with him. The courts will track him down using his social security number.I hope he's got a really good paying job, so he can pay his wife child support and maintainance and still provide for you and his new baby.
Get back into school, or don't stop going, if you haven't already dropped out. You're going to need to learn to rely on yourself, as a single parent.
Call Jerry springer quick and make some money off of these relationships. Seriously this guy needs to decide who he's going to be with and then be with that person and pay child support to the other person because like it or not he now has 2 babies to support. Once the guy decides and makes it clear to all the situation should even out in time. Good luck.
WHAT'S YOUR QUESTION???
If you know where he is. Tell him that she is harrasing you and you would appreciate if he called her and told her to leave you a lone because he is not with you.
seems like you two could be friends long enough to find his hide out, I mean you both need now, for the children sake!!!
So now this guy is someone you want?
Oh well, just make sure he signs the birth certificate so you can get your share of the child support payments.
This man is a loser for leaving his wife and ill child. I hope the only interaction that you have with him is a child support attorney. You would be stupid to have any other contact with him whether you have his child or not. You and the other Mom need to be helping each other out, not squabbling over some jerk that would do such a thing as leave a baby that HE made, that is sick and if you encourage him to do this you are just as bad.
when she calls explain
i will only speak with you only in a calm rational matter and if you cant do this i will hang up and block your number
id like to explain and or discuss some issuses i have if you are willing to let me speak without being interupted
tell you are infact pregnant as well and then what ever
and if she acts irrational hang up call the police and send her a certified letter telling her not call you again or legal action will be taken
and change your number
Tell her that you are not in the relationship with him and her. Also, tell her that you are pregnant and that you do not deserve the stress. Really, its her problem not yours.
Change you number or file harassment charges against her. Tell her first though that you would like to know where he is also.Advice his wife wont stop?????????????????
wow if ur for real thats crazy, I would tell her to buzz off you have your own probs.
change your phone number girlie his wife is gonna go on a phycho mode if she dont find his ***....gilr seriously consider changing your phone number
Tell her to step the F off... youre in the position she was in months ago. She keeps calling.. block her #.
If I were you I would just change my phone number. She has no business harrasing you just to try and find him. You dont owe her any explanations, you don't have a realtionship with her ...HE DOES!
Decide what you want and go for it. Have the baby by yourself, find a job, find help and enjoy your life without him.
Wow what a messed up situation! Change your number and only let the people you want , what your new number is! Problem solved!!!
change your phone number get it unlisted he knows where to find you call the police get them to tell her to stop and then if it comes to it get a restraing order cause if something happens to her baby you do not want her to come after you and yours good luck huh and you can email me anytime if you ever need someone to talk to or more advice
Tell her the truth.
You are having his baby as well, do not know where he is and he will have the responsibility to both baby's and if you ever talk to him again, tell him to buy some condoms
wrap it or pay the price, twice in his case
i think respect is done for at this point....tell her quit calling and that if you hear from him you ll tell her....if she keeps up...report to the police about phone harrassment....they eventually tell her too stop.... you could always change your number.....but if you ever call her she might get it from caller i.d..... :(
I feel really bad for you. I'm sure that you are still in love with him and it hurt when he left to go to school, and it really hurt when he did an honorable thing and married the girl he got pregnant. He couldn't have known her for very long if he was gone just six months, but he did the right thing. NOW. He finds out you are pregnant as well, and I suppose he thinks his life is ruined. You guys sound really young, but all is not lost. Your child will have a sibling with the other woman, and sounds like they will be close to the same age. I would try to reason with her and let her know that this was not how you envisioned your life, but now this is what the two of you have to deal with. You didn't mention your parents or his parents and how they are dealing with this, but if I were you I would enlist the help of friends and family right now. And most importantly, when the weight of the world is weighing heavy on your heart, bend down and pray. God bless.
good luck he sounds like a real loser but remember you were the other woman so who better to call
ask you his buddy matt where he is
change phone #, get restraining order, explain to her that you are angry with this guy as well.
Tell her ';well He F@cked me and now im pregnant, so blame him';
hang up
Tell his wife that you will call the police if she does not stop calling you and then call the police if she calls again.
well if it pissed me off long enough i would go off on her tell her the truth if that don;t work then don;t worry and just changer your nuimber
Sounds like you both have some choice in men issues.
You've obviously got yourself a real catch there. Gets her pregnant, leaves to go to you, gets you pregnant, leaves to go marry her, finds out you're pregnant, leaves her to come back to you, gets you a place but doesn't stay with you. Yup, sounds like a really stable, commitment oriented guy who any woman would be happy to give up her college education for and have his baby. Wonder if he'll hide from you after he leaves and tell his wife, or new baby's mama, not to tell you where he is?
He can run but he can't hide, unless he never works again, which would be great news for someone who's about to have a child with him. The courts will track him down using his social security number.I hope he's got a really good paying job, so he can pay his wife child support and maintainance and still provide for you and his new baby.
Get back into school, or don't stop going, if you haven't already dropped out. You're going to need to learn to rely on yourself, as a single parent.
Call Jerry springer quick and make some money off of these relationships. Seriously this guy needs to decide who he's going to be with and then be with that person and pay child support to the other person because like it or not he now has 2 babies to support. Once the guy decides and makes it clear to all the situation should even out in time. Good luck.
WHAT'S YOUR QUESTION???
If you know where he is. Tell him that she is harrasing you and you would appreciate if he called her and told her to leave you a lone because he is not with you.
seems like you two could be friends long enough to find his hide out, I mean you both need now, for the children sake!!!
So now this guy is someone you want?
Oh well, just make sure he signs the birth certificate so you can get your share of the child support payments.
This man is a loser for leaving his wife and ill child. I hope the only interaction that you have with him is a child support attorney. You would be stupid to have any other contact with him whether you have his child or not. You and the other Mom need to be helping each other out, not squabbling over some jerk that would do such a thing as leave a baby that HE made, that is sick and if you encourage him to do this you are just as bad.
when she calls explain
i will only speak with you only in a calm rational matter and if you cant do this i will hang up and block your number
id like to explain and or discuss some issuses i have if you are willing to let me speak without being interupted
tell you are infact pregnant as well and then what ever
and if she acts irrational hang up call the police and send her a certified letter telling her not call you again or legal action will be taken
and change your number
Tell her that you are not in the relationship with him and her. Also, tell her that you are pregnant and that you do not deserve the stress. Really, its her problem not yours.
Need advice ! My wife is killing me!?
I love my wife, but we are having strong arguments lately and she already cross the line breaking one computer, my cell phone, hiting our dog to hurt me, calling my family horrible names and what is worst: she has called the police on me and I didint touch her !! just to bother me ... I went to a phsycologist, therapist, EVERYTHING !! I am not an angel and I act aggresively when I loose it but NEVER violence !!! she has throw things to me, even sissors that almost cut me or who knows ... what can I do? she wont leave me and to be honest I am willing to fight for this relationship ... but calling me names and all this violence is killing me inside. Any advice?Need advice ! My wife is killing me!?
It's interesting b/c I think if you were a woman I think every response would be leave the guy, but since you are a guy everyone thinks well you will be fine, but I think you are in a dangerous place with her. People that hurt defenseless animals, what can you say about that....Calling the police when you hadn't touched her seems disturbing. If she loses control too much seems likely %26amp; you could get seriously hurt at some point, what if she had a weapon, or if you had to defend yourself that would be bad too? I think you should probably leave her for your own safety sorry.
If she gets counseling for her violence/anger issues for long-term (I think it would take months) and then you still feel like fighting for the relationship then, do so, but I would only do so AFTER she has had long-term counseling for her anger %26amp; violence problems AND her counselor feels it is safe for you to do so. And if there are children involved I think you should take them with you!!!Need advice ! My wife is killing me!?
I guess you just need to ask yourself how much is enough? Is it really worth it to stay in a relationship that is emotionally damaging not to mention physically.
If she is already calling the police on you, you need to think about the long term ramifications to a (possibly) false police record.
I think if you are truly wanting to fight for this relationship it would be a good idea for the both of you to attend counseling together. Something is broken in this relationship either with one or both of you. I don't think fighting to save this relationship alone is going to help matters.
Good luck and hang in there...whichever you decide.
You may be willing to fight for this relationship, but is it worth fighting for?
If we are to take everything you've told as the God's honest truth, this is one relationship a sane person would RUN from, as fast and as far away as possible. This is not a marriage. This is a boxing ring. You are not a husband. You are a punching bag.
Thank goodness there are no children--I hope????
Please, TAKE THE DOG and take yourself and GET OUT to a safe place. Consult a lawyer IMMEDIATELY about how to Cover Your ***..ets. Don't call her and chat her up, and for God's sake, DON'T go back for ';conjugal visits.';
I'm sure you have family and friends who are waiting for you to see the light. Go to them. Start your life over.
Good luck!
I feel for you,my brother had a wife that did the same things to him,she bellitled every chance she had and was always up his back for thi that and the other thing, when she got mad (24/7) she threw anything and everything at my brother,chairs,phones,kitchen utensils the vcr etc etc! she cursed a blue streak at him and the three children.oh she made the tazmanian devil look like an angel ! he could not take her s**t any more and hre divorced her.shes a beast!
call the cops on her one time. that should chill her violent behavior. if it doesn't you better go because she WILL eventually kill you. violence only gets worse, it never gets better on it's own...
You may not be an angel, but she is a lunatic! She hit your dog to hurt you? I pray she never has kids...RUN, DON'T WALK as fast as you can away from this person. She is abusive and unstable. If you don't, your family may end up on the news crying over you. She needs help, but it is NOT up to you to see she gets it. You say you are willing to fight for this relationship. Are you willing to fight for your life? I hope it never comes to that. Get out, and don't look back. Good luck.
Perhaps some counseling will benefit you both. To learn how to communicate, while controlling anger.
That is so sad to hear, but it sounds like the two of you are really bad for each other. God, I pray there are no children involved. Please try and get help so that you can start a plan of how to get separated from her or maybe get a divorce. No one should have to live that way.
sorry, but you need to get out of there, take your pets with you. You should not have to live in these circumstances. Think of the long term. Can you seriously see your self lining with this woman for the rest of your life? growing old together? No body deserves to be treated like that. Good luck
I know it's not easy living with a person you love so much, and it does seem like the love is coming back to you.I use to be the wife that use to go off on my husband, because i had a lot of bad thing happen to me. And i took them out on him, and I wanted to stop but i was so angery on the inside. It took my husband to sit me down and pour his heart out to me, about how much I hurt him. He cryed and he was so loving and genine, and it took me see the hurt I caused him to see myself. I truly didn't want to hurt him, i didn't want him to hurt like i did.So he work with me , it was like he was my own pesonal counselor. But it take a strong man to do that, and if your not that strong. Then you have to do whats best for you, so you can be happy.
you need to get out of this as soon as possible, this women
is abusive, and that not good. it will only get worst not better
it take both of you trying to make this work. it really sound
lkke you are the only one that once this to work. it might
not be worth fighting for. dont you think.
HOW can this be? Women aren't violent. I've never seen a story on CNN, or Good Morning America, or even on Oprah about violent women, therefore they don't exist.
Why are you telling lies? Why are you denegrating women? You need to turn yourself in to the PC police and apologize.
Women are angels, and VICTIMs, you better get on board, or you're gonna catch hell.
This woman is obviously violent and has no control of her temper whatsoever. She needs to see a therapist, and get anger management counselling.
The other suggestion is what the others said -- marriage counselling.
You admit your not an angel, you see psycologists, therapists and everything. You act aggressively, but are never violent? I think you have totally turned your wife (the love of your life) against you. She reallys hates your presence in the home and I believe you have really gone and done it this time. Violence can come in many forms, maybe you feel you haven't physically attacked her, but you may have threatened her one too many times. It would be better for you to leave the marriage at once, whether you want to or not. Leave and don't ever go back to reconcile, it's not jealousy, it's hatred. She is showing you how she feels around you. Don't you just feel the love?? The odds of her winning a case against you for mental cruelty are great, especially if she didn't show signs of aggravation before she married you or until after your own show of aggression. File for separation (pending divorce) then get some real help for your aggressive / argumentative behavior. Let her sort out her own troubles.
go to a marriage councellor together! theres no point trying if she is not willing!
It's interesting b/c I think if you were a woman I think every response would be leave the guy, but since you are a guy everyone thinks well you will be fine, but I think you are in a dangerous place with her. People that hurt defenseless animals, what can you say about that....Calling the police when you hadn't touched her seems disturbing. If she loses control too much seems likely %26amp; you could get seriously hurt at some point, what if she had a weapon, or if you had to defend yourself that would be bad too? I think you should probably leave her for your own safety sorry.
If she gets counseling for her violence/anger issues for long-term (I think it would take months) and then you still feel like fighting for the relationship then, do so, but I would only do so AFTER she has had long-term counseling for her anger %26amp; violence problems AND her counselor feels it is safe for you to do so. And if there are children involved I think you should take them with you!!!Need advice ! My wife is killing me!?
I guess you just need to ask yourself how much is enough? Is it really worth it to stay in a relationship that is emotionally damaging not to mention physically.
If she is already calling the police on you, you need to think about the long term ramifications to a (possibly) false police record.
I think if you are truly wanting to fight for this relationship it would be a good idea for the both of you to attend counseling together. Something is broken in this relationship either with one or both of you. I don't think fighting to save this relationship alone is going to help matters.
Good luck and hang in there...whichever you decide.
You may be willing to fight for this relationship, but is it worth fighting for?
If we are to take everything you've told as the God's honest truth, this is one relationship a sane person would RUN from, as fast and as far away as possible. This is not a marriage. This is a boxing ring. You are not a husband. You are a punching bag.
Thank goodness there are no children--I hope????
Please, TAKE THE DOG and take yourself and GET OUT to a safe place. Consult a lawyer IMMEDIATELY about how to Cover Your ***..ets. Don't call her and chat her up, and for God's sake, DON'T go back for ';conjugal visits.';
I'm sure you have family and friends who are waiting for you to see the light. Go to them. Start your life over.
Good luck!
I feel for you,my brother had a wife that did the same things to him,she bellitled every chance she had and was always up his back for thi that and the other thing, when she got mad (24/7) she threw anything and everything at my brother,chairs,phones,kitchen utensils the vcr etc etc! she cursed a blue streak at him and the three children.oh she made the tazmanian devil look like an angel ! he could not take her s**t any more and hre divorced her.shes a beast!
call the cops on her one time. that should chill her violent behavior. if it doesn't you better go because she WILL eventually kill you. violence only gets worse, it never gets better on it's own...
You may not be an angel, but she is a lunatic! She hit your dog to hurt you? I pray she never has kids...RUN, DON'T WALK as fast as you can away from this person. She is abusive and unstable. If you don't, your family may end up on the news crying over you. She needs help, but it is NOT up to you to see she gets it. You say you are willing to fight for this relationship. Are you willing to fight for your life? I hope it never comes to that. Get out, and don't look back. Good luck.
Perhaps some counseling will benefit you both. To learn how to communicate, while controlling anger.
That is so sad to hear, but it sounds like the two of you are really bad for each other. God, I pray there are no children involved. Please try and get help so that you can start a plan of how to get separated from her or maybe get a divorce. No one should have to live that way.
sorry, but you need to get out of there, take your pets with you. You should not have to live in these circumstances. Think of the long term. Can you seriously see your self lining with this woman for the rest of your life? growing old together? No body deserves to be treated like that. Good luck
I know it's not easy living with a person you love so much, and it does seem like the love is coming back to you.I use to be the wife that use to go off on my husband, because i had a lot of bad thing happen to me. And i took them out on him, and I wanted to stop but i was so angery on the inside. It took my husband to sit me down and pour his heart out to me, about how much I hurt him. He cryed and he was so loving and genine, and it took me see the hurt I caused him to see myself. I truly didn't want to hurt him, i didn't want him to hurt like i did.So he work with me , it was like he was my own pesonal counselor. But it take a strong man to do that, and if your not that strong. Then you have to do whats best for you, so you can be happy.
you need to get out of this as soon as possible, this women
is abusive, and that not good. it will only get worst not better
it take both of you trying to make this work. it really sound
lkke you are the only one that once this to work. it might
not be worth fighting for. dont you think.
HOW can this be? Women aren't violent. I've never seen a story on CNN, or Good Morning America, or even on Oprah about violent women, therefore they don't exist.
Why are you telling lies? Why are you denegrating women? You need to turn yourself in to the PC police and apologize.
Women are angels, and VICTIMs, you better get on board, or you're gonna catch hell.
This woman is obviously violent and has no control of her temper whatsoever. She needs to see a therapist, and get anger management counselling.
The other suggestion is what the others said -- marriage counselling.
You admit your not an angel, you see psycologists, therapists and everything. You act aggressively, but are never violent? I think you have totally turned your wife (the love of your life) against you. She reallys hates your presence in the home and I believe you have really gone and done it this time. Violence can come in many forms, maybe you feel you haven't physically attacked her, but you may have threatened her one too many times. It would be better for you to leave the marriage at once, whether you want to or not. Leave and don't ever go back to reconcile, it's not jealousy, it's hatred. She is showing you how she feels around you. Don't you just feel the love?? The odds of her winning a case against you for mental cruelty are great, especially if she didn't show signs of aggravation before she married you or until after your own show of aggression. File for separation (pending divorce) then get some real help for your aggressive / argumentative behavior. Let her sort out her own troubles.
go to a marriage councellor together! theres no point trying if she is not willing!
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