Need some advice on crazy wife?

my wife and i have been seperated now for almost a year but we have seen each other off and on this whole time. and we were supposed to take a trip together just us too and she cancled saying (she thought it would be weird and didnt want to go) so i am at the point of going and getting a divorce although i love her very much and she said to me that she dont know why she is like this and cant figure out why she does these things. should i go ahead with the divorce or keep being patient with her?Need some advice on crazy wife?
Okay I am not trying to be mean but have you totally lost your mind. The two of you have been separated for almost a year, WTF!!! How on earth can you work on a marriage and be separated? I really never understood why couples separate in the first place because nothing can be resolved from a distance. You need to go ahead and get a divorce. You've been patient enough. If she thinks it is weird to go on a trip with her own husband then you should have known right then that it's not going to get any better. You may love her but sometimes that's not enough. I'm sorry you are going through this but it's time to pick up the pieces and move on. Easier said then done yes but do you want to stay unhappy. You have a choice. Need some advice on crazy wife?
First of all.. sounds like you both are trying to hang on to old feelings that are not there anymore. You and her need counseling apart and together. Build new feelings for each other whether it's friendship or a new type of love.But stop building confusing feelings. If she is having a hard time figuring out what she wants in life and with who..then she needs to stop making plans with you until she knows for sure what she wants.
keep being patient. read the book She, about aphrodite. Your wife is still sorting and hasn't lit the lamp.






Cut your loses and move on. I know its way easier said then done, but if she wanted to be with you she would have. not just keep dragging you along.
What do you want to do. I mean do you want to allow yourself the risk of your heart being bounced around like a yo yo. I think you need to come to terms that she isn't going to change over night, if ever. She isn't doing anything to figure out what her issues are. It sounds to me like she keeps you around out of comfort, a security blanket. Sorry, I know that sounds bad, and I sure don't want to hurt your feelings, but if she is doing this to you, then she doesn't respect You enough. When you love someone, you don't hurt them, you make them happy. If she Truly loved you, she'd let you go, if she didn't know what she wanted, but she is keeping you around with false hope. If she is considering her feelings, then she should be seeking some sort of help to figure out her issues. Good luck, I am sorry that you are not being treated very well.