Following the councilors advice, my wife and I opened up about somethings we both wanted in the bedroom?

I was happy at first with getting my requests fulfilled, but I'm having some trouble with hers. Apparently, she has a very sensitive part of her that she wants more attention given to. Let's just say that it's a little lower than were I already knew was a sensitive area.





It was a little fun at first, just because I had always associated it with being naughty, but she is really insisting that I pay attention every time now. And it's starting to disgust me. I really don't think that's a place my tongue and fingers need to be every time I want sex with my wife, and I'm starting to want it less.





We were already having trouble exciting each other, and now I think the councilors advice is going more harm than good. I'm glad my wife is now having sex with me more than once every two months, but this new 'spot' of hers is getting gross fast.





How should I handle this? Does anyone have any similar experiences?Following the councilors advice, my wife and I opened up about somethings we both wanted in the bedroom?
Hmmm, and here I thought at first you were hinting that her feet were ticklish...





I would suggest getting a special toy for use on the area in question - that way, you can make sure it's well-cleaned between uses and not have to place your tongue and fingers into orifices you'd just as soon they not go.Following the councilors advice, my wife and I opened up about somethings we both wanted in the bedroom?
Honesty is the best policy in any marriage. You should probably tell your wife that you prefer tossing your girlfriend's salad and that's why this is so hard for you. Not that you have anything against her but you know you have to leave some things separate (sacred) and special in both relationships.
Haha!


I'm guessing its the anus?


Well, different strokes for different folks...if you're not comfortable with it, you need to tell her but then again, she may say its unfair she's fulfilling your wants and you're not reciprocating. Just do it...I don't think she's liking ALL of yours.


Sometimes we have to compromise...hehe
Golly! I never woulda thought that a puppet's heinous would be so objectionable. Maybe you should get a seamstress to sew her a new one out of some fresh plush material and you can open up her zipper and stuff an air freshener in her if she has room for it.
my husband likes that same spot on me....i dont care for it but i let him do his thing and he lets me do mine....make a compromise....maybe you could do that every other time .....
As the Brits used to tell their daughters on their wedding nights: Just close your eyes and think of Mother England.
So let me get this straight, you want your bread, but you don't want to butter her up to get it? Sounds selfish to me.
Reading your question just made me happy that I am single!
This 'talk' should be with your wife....not the YA board. Do you want someone on here to tell your wife how you feel?
if you dont do it she will find someone else who will
It is not sex but the love making and in love making two loving partners take care of each other's wants and satisfy the same for mutual pleasure. It appears she is interested in oral stimulation for better orgasm. Nothing wrong in doing so for giving and getting the pleasure of love making. A woman loves it when a man pleases her orally. It is often the best way for her to reach orgasm. Perhaps you may find it intimidating, but with the right technique and attitude, you will be a pro in no time. Start by kissing her abdomen and inner thighs and then tease her a bit. Alternate the stimulation between her genitals and other parts of her body to really turn her on. Take in her scent and taste, and let her know that you're enjoying yourself. Use your tongue and lips to stimulate the outer and inner parts which will arouse her fully.Begin with long, slow kisses and licking and gradually increase the speed and intensity as her arousal builds. Don't just lick up and down, since concentrating on only one spot can lead to overstimulation. Move your tongue in different directions. Experiment with speed and pressure, but try to keep a rhythm or steady pattern of movement since short spurts of erratic stimulation are likely to throw her focus off. And don't just use your tongue and lips as well as your fingers, teeth, nose, and breath can also be employed as oral pleasers and teasers. Anus is another sensitive area. You can stimulate it with either your tongue or your fingers, but don't use the same fingers around her vagina without washing first, because bacteria from the anus can be harmful to the vagina. Manual stimulation can be just as much of an art form as oral stimulation. For women who prefer less direct contact, try moving your fingers in a small figure eight around the clitoris, then try making a larger figure eight over the entire length of her vagina. You can also hold her labia open while you use your middle finger to stroke up and down. Many women enjoy having the vaginal opening massaged. If your partner prefers direct pressure on her clitoris, you can tap or rub it constantly with one or two of your fingers. Stay aware of the telltale signs of her enjoyment, such as moaning and heavy breathing. She may squeeze your hand, grip the sheet, or push her pelvis up toward your face. Other physical signs, such as increased vaginal lubrication and swelling of her vulva, will also clue you in to her pleasure. When she is fully aroused, start using your tongue to stimulate her clitoris which is the most sensitive part of a woman's anatomy. While working the clitoris with your mouth, insert one or two fingers into her vagina with a gentle thrusting motion. If you tilt them upward just slightly, you can also massage the G-spot. You will know you have hit it when you feel a spongy bump about one to two inches inside the vagina toward her navel. Done right, clitoral stimulation is the best way to bring a woman to the edge of orgasm and then take her over the edge. This will be the right time for you to enter and artistically finish the beautiful act of love making reaching to the orgasm simultaneously or after hers. But both will be on the cloud 9 thereafter......You love your wife and she loves you so I am sure now you will not be feeling reluctant, and you will enjoy as per the advice of the counselor. Good luck for the good experience between the sheets every night...
after several years of marriage i decided i was ready to start dating again...i soon realized however that i was going to need to offer something extra special in order to compete with all those hot 18 year old girls out there on the market.





after watching several porn videos, i realized i had a lot to learn. i figured i better practice. it sounds like your wife is doing the same thing. take my advice and help her out.





after practicing with my hubby for a few months and watching some excellent instructional videos (i still have them if you would like to borrow them) i was able to perfect the back door technique and hook up with a hot young thing who was so dazzled by my techniques that he would have licked the floor for me afterward if i had asked him to. fortunately, i already have a good carpet cleaner, but we did need a good pool cleaner, and raul was eager to step in (well, move in, actually) and take over...at a very reasonable rate too.





hubby is so pleased that he is paying far below the regular rate for a live-in pool boy.





ah, sweet raul. good help is so hard to find you know? i suggest you do whatever it takes to help your wife as she works to broaden her horizons...she's really only thinking of you. well, sort of.
Getting a sexual equation is always tough, and taking advice from a counselor is always a gamble. The truth is there are probably things that she does for you that she finds gross, and you are now discovering the same. (Personally I hate rimming and cunnilingus although it turns a lot of women on,)





You could discuss this a little more openly with her and pleasure her the way she likes it on some days, and she could do the same for you on others? The novelty of wild sex normally lasts 4-5 months, so I don't know where you are in the course of rediscovering each other, but you can wait it out.





If it's been over 6 months then an honest discussion is in order (and I know, men hate to discuss things!). Just be nice about it and honest and if you love each other it can be worked out.
As the old saying goes. You have to give a little to get a little. If you both shower and are clean, and it does not cause pain any thing should go. Just do it and pretend you do not mind doing it if it get you the sex that you want. I asume you are talking about rimming. That can be hard at first but you can get used to it. The important thing is she must be very clean and also with oral sex. A lot of women do not realy like giving oral to a guy but they do it just to please the guy. Do not think about the act it's self but the pleasure you are giving her. Think about how good it is going to be when you do get around to the actual sex act its self. Think about other thing whild doing what you do not like doing, it will help some. I hope this is of some help. Good Luck.