I have seeked counceling for myself she refuses to go to marriage counseling.The reason for seperating was I was being moody and yelled at her twice.I have told her sorry but she refuses to forgive me saying she can't trust me.She had previouse ex's that was abusive.I love her with all my heart and wish there was something I could do to soften her attitude towards me.I tried begging, pleading,nothing has worked.I wish there was something I could do.Hello! need advice my wife asked me to leave a week ago.Two days after seperating she filed for divorce.?
Buddy....did it ever occur to you that this was an excuse to give you the boot and file for divorce for reasons other than what she's telling you?
Think man. Either she's off her rocker and overly sensitive on top of that or there's a boyfriend in the woodpile.Hello! need advice my wife asked me to leave a week ago.Two days after seperating she filed for divorce.?
You can always contest the divorce.
Then she will have no other option than to see a counselor.
The counselor will give the court their professional opinion of the matter.
If your wife's reasons are valid enough, then the divorce will be processed through.
Keep a lawyer on retainer just in case.
Hunny,she doesnt love you anymore,most likely is sleeping with someone else,and wants out.Give the heffer what she wants and find a real woman.
That sounds lame, there has got to be another reason. Plus she shouldn't compare your relationship to a past one, totally different. Don't beg, go to counseling if not for her for yourself. Let her go if that is what she wants.
You may need to bring in a mediator especially if she doesn't want to go to counseling, bring it to her.
You cant make her stay with you! You need to send her a piece of mail, or try and calmly talk with her and let her know your feelings! Thats all you can do, Good Luck!
Work on getting yourself better and trust in GOD.
If she was in an abusive relationship before that may be why she is acting the way she is.
That just means she has to work on things.
Maybe she meant someone else.
I am not a fortune teller and you are not one either.
Fix yourself.
its more to it than being yelled at twice.its been coming on much longer.she probably already has someone she is eying.you can't make someone love you or stay with you.just learn from it and move on.
I know this is hard to believe, but if someone cannot handle a little bit of anger, then they have issues WAY deeper than what you see on the surface. You aren't the one who is guilty for past mistakes. She needs to take her anger out on her ex, not on you. Maybe letting her go is the best thing that will ever happen in your life. You don't see it now, but if she hasn't the backbone to endure you expressing your feelings, then get out of Dodge before she shoots you dead and claims battered wife syndrome.
She have been planning this for awhile probably you just didn't see the signs. If you really love her and wants to see a possible restoration, you will give her space right now. She is mad and she is thinking this is what she needs to do. If she has a troubled past with abusive men, then she might be thinking she is justified in doing this. Back off for now. Don't loose your cool because then you will be giving her motives to think you have not change. Go to counseling,,Take an anger management course. Do everything to fix your self for you, not for her. Don't call her, don't wait by the phone for her call. Take this time to work on your issues....If this is meant to be, then you will be able to be more successful in making her see the change,,,,good luck.
Does she have any reason not to trust you? Try talking to one of her family members and see if they can talk her into going to counseling with you. If she has had abusive relationships in the past, she could be suffering from PTSD and not even know it. Don't give up if you love her, pray for her heart to be softened, shower her with affection and gratitude. In my opinion, it is NEVER acceptable to yell at someone you love. I have been married for 13 years and my husband and I have never raised our voices at each other. That doesn't mean we haven't had disagreements, but we have never yelled or been critical of one another. Good luck, and I will be praying for her and you.
there is something missing.
if i were you, i'd go to counseling for at least 6 months time. find out all you can about you and your relationship. then figure out what you want, what will be best for you.
if she's been abused to the point she's upset because you yelled at her, she may be suffering post tramatic stress. this is something that can be, and should be, treated.
Unfortunately I sense that theres more to the story than just a simple mood spell. This probably has been in the makng for some time and the yelling just broke the camels back and was all shes going to take. What youre describing now is the desperate attempt of a desperate man to save his marriage when he should have been doing this all along. If her minds made up theres little you can do now to change it but to go along with her wishes and pray God intervenes on your behalf. Sorry, but most men dont learn til its too late, as Ive been there done it too. Youve just found your wifes breaking point and all women have one. Good luck
obviously there is more to a story because she would not divorice you for this......that would not be legit.......
Get a lawyer - she's cheating. And she's got her walls up and won't let you in. Someday she'll regret it but by then you will be so much better! Go forth my man and take it from another guy - it hurts beyond comprehension but you will be living the dream sooN!
She is not divorcing you because you yelled at her, that is a lame excuse. There is something else she is not telling you or you are not telling us.
I don't care how badly she was abused before, you do not get a divorce because someone yelled twice.
Yoda out
People raise their voice from time to time, if she is divorcing you for that WOW she is probably unstable to begin with. move on brother
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