At 52 my wife hates her job and we are considering a move from San Diego to Cary, NC.. Any Advice?

My job will probably let me work from home since most all of it is done on by phone or internet. We owe $340,000 on our San Diego home that will probably sell for $530K. We're looking at property $150k to $300k and will probably put down $100k when buying. Any advice on how to minimize the guilt of leaving family and friends after living in San Diego all of our lives? We have friends in North Carolina who moved from San Diego years ago. I'm all for it but need some thoughts on how to get my wife to get over the guilt.At 52 my wife hates her job and we are considering a move from San Diego to Cary, NC.. Any Advice?
How did your friends handle it? Did they feel guilty? Your wife should take a look at her life according to her, not her life according to family and friends. She's probably accustomed to thinking more about other people than herself, but moving will be trading familiarity for more financial security-- she'll be looking out for the two of you (and whatever kids are involved, if any). And anyway, a plane ticket in either direction isn't all that expensive, so she should be able to visit plenty, or invite your San Diego pals for a visit to NC.





By the way, you do know Cary is the Containment Area for Relocated Yankees, not Californians, right?At 52 my wife hates her job and we are considering a move from San Diego to Cary, NC.. Any Advice?
I did just the opposite. Moved from shadow of NYC to an RFD. I've been in San Diego %26amp; Cary NC years ago that seems like a fine move to me. I do most of all miss friends and family but I enjoy simpler things in life right now. Push the ';wife hates her job'; issue. It seems financially should be no problem for you if wife wants easy work or early retirement, Good Luck...
It depends on how guilty she feels. If she feels absolutely terrible, she should go to short-term therapy.





If she just feels mildly guilty, she should read a high-quality self-help book on the subject. Maybe one of the other respondents knows which books on getting over guilt are good... and which are not.
You can't live your life for family and friends...it has to be for the two of you. You're lucky that you can work anywhere, and if your wife hates her job, she's due for a change. No one would want her to be miserable and around instead of happy and further away-- if they truly care about the two of you. Besides, you can always visit back and forth and keep in great touch by phone, email or IM. I really can't imagine why someone would want to make your wife feel guilty when she's got an opportunity for a happier life. Good luck!!
i dont know about the guilt but she will see Cary is a great town - its very clean - low crime somewhat urban -very close to Raleigh -the suburbs are beautiful --- i dont know if youre a golfer- if not you should take it up because the golfing in this area is great!!!! oh yeah as far as friends goes this is the south most of us are very warm she will have new ones