I need some advice, I have an opertunity to get a job in another state that pays VERY well. my wife would?

rather stay here and suffer. she knows I hate this state but we both have family here. I can make A LOT of money and be happier moving away, what should I do? I love her but hate living like a pauper. HELP I am also disabled but need to get away from here.I need some advice, I have an opertunity to get a job in another state that pays VERY well. my wife would?
Sometimes money is not everything. I can see the reason you want to move is more because you hate the state than the desire to make more money. You should love what ever state you live in as long as you are with your wife. This opportunity arrived in your life after you married her and were living in that state you say you hate that much, therefore, first things first, your wife comes first and I do not blame her for not wanting to make such drastic move.I need some advice, I have an opertunity to get a job in another state that pays VERY well. my wife would?
My husband was offered a much better job last year, and at first I dug my heels in. I'd already moved for him once, and I'd JUST gotten used to the city we lived in, I was making friends, we had a house, and I had a career. Moving meant leaving all that behind.





It was not an easy decision... but the fact was that we rely on his salary, and there were no opportunities for him where we lived anymore. Also, his new job was AMAZING. It was with a phenomenal company and a true dream job, and for a lot more money.





So, we moved. What helped change my mind was actually visiting the area, and seeing for myself that it wasn't so bad. Having to get used to a new area and make new friends and all of that isn't fun, but my husband is very happy, and we don't intend to move again.





If I'd been the breadwinner and we could have afforded to live on my salary alone, and/or I had been passionate about my job and couldn't move, we may have chosen another option. But that wasn't the case. All in all, his current job has so many perks it's almost absurd, so overall the move was worthwhile, even though it caused some major inconveniences for me.
You guys really need to sit down and discuss the pros's and cons of moving to another state. Write it all down on paper. Listen her her views and tell her your views. When you get this all on paper it might make more sense as to what you two should really do. Seeing it in black in white has helped me make decisions to that I didn't originally like. If that doesn't work then you have to decide what is more important to you. Maybe take the job and see if that makes you more happy now that you have more money ? Maybe, even without her coming with you decide it was or it wasn't worth it. They are tough choices but sometimes you have to do what is best for someone else. Money doesn't always make you happy but living like a pauper can make you miserable also. Communicate and see if you can't come up with something that works for both of you. Maybe she will see that if you have more money she could do more things that she wished she could do, might also mean she could visit family and still enjoy some privacy away from them. These are the questions that can make or break a marriage.. Good Luck
This is something that you should really sit and talk about. You must take everyone in to consideration and do what is best. If you have the opportunity to earn more and want to get away, then maybe you should consider this by moving there and trying this job out while your wife stays at home. If it doesn't work out then you have a place to come back to, if it is really wonderful then your wife should follow you and set up her home with her husband. Family is nice but in this day and age you have to go where the money is best, you can always move back if need be.
So what you are saying (besides the fact that you need spelling lessons) is that the only way you can be happy is to leave your wife and family for money.





If you DO leave your wife and family she can file for divorce under grounds of abandonment of the marriage. So go get away from there. your wife will get half of everything and won't have to put up with you.
Go ahead, take the offer. Make your own decisions. Is not a sin leaving your family or her family here, as long as you take responsibility paying them visit whenever you can.


I believe when the two families see that you lead a happy life without always suffering, they will feel proud of you.
You need to do this for yourself. If you don't you will only resent your wife for holding you back. Leave her if that's what it takes. If she really loved you she would follow but that's not happening, she loves her family/situation more that you! Go...be successful, there are plenty of fish in the sea.
your wife needs to go with you and help you. family comes after your own needs. she's the one who uses family as a crutch, she's the handicapped one, i applaud your independent spirit, go with God.
Learning to spell would be very helpful for you to retain any job.