Need advice about wife and Bipolar?

My wife is young, and exhibits wide and varied mood swings. She is on thyroid meds, which seem to help control them to an extent. She has feelings of sexual urges all the time, and has cheated on me 3 times, though she comes and tells me shameful each time. Recently, due to my weight and blood pressure, I have had huge sexual performance problems. Pills only work about 30% of the time and the sex is very quick. This is causing huge problems in our relationship. Recently, it has manifested in the feeling that she never got to sow her wild oats. She is brimming with energy to go sleep with the world. She has just starting going out with friends from work and drinking all night. She has cheated again, and now due to wants me to let her knowingly take a lover, to fulfill these urges and try something new. We love each other, and don't want to divorce. She feels she needs to do this, while I can't perform. I am afraid it is part of her sickness. what should I do?Need advice about wife and Bipolar?
If your wife is bipolar, she needs to be on meds for bipolar. My son is bipolar. I know EXACTLY what your talking about with the wide and varied mood swings and the sexual activities outside of the marriage. BUT.....I know you love her, but she is your wife and she needs to stand by you weather you can perform sex or not. I do know that when your bipolar 2 that you do things in your life without thinking of anyone else and the consequences for doing it. Usually these things are financial or sexual. There are others, but I can't think of them right at the moment. You wife really needs to go see her doc and get on meds for bipolar. Without it, she will continue to live as she is living. In the end you will not be able to take it anymore. Don't give her permission to have a lover just because you can't perform right now. The state of mind she is in right now, she's going to do what she wants to do, but you don't have to give her permission to rip your heart out. She has to realize even if she is bipolar there is consequences for her behavior. My son doesn't even remember some of the things he does. He goes into a state of mind that is nothing like him. He will say he is sorry and two weeks latter, he will do the same thing. Bipolar is rough. Hard to live with someone who has it. My son refuses to take meds, so his life is a mess. If you haven't researched bipolar online, please do so. It will help you to understand the disease more. It may not help you with the situation, but will help you to understand how bipolar people think and act. Bless you. I feel for you from my heart. I know how it is.................Need advice about wife and Bipolar?
cut and run dude.........dump her! lifes too short to deal with her drama.......
i am a woman that is married and has bipolar disorder. i was just dignosed with it also. i take 600 mg of luthium and 20 mg of celax a day i also have a four year old. it was hard to reach out for help but with my husbands help and understanding it was the greatest thing in the world. go to web md. and you can find info you need
Ok let me say this,,,my sister is bi polar. But she never has an urge to go cheat on her man. Your wife is a nypho,,its plain and simple. Dont let her use that bi polar excuse to sleep around on you. As far as the problems you are having being able to perform,,,that shouldnt matter,,if she loved you she would stay by your side,,and not go out and cheat. There are others ways to please her besides intercourse. I think shes using her illness for an excuse to go out and cheat on you. Please wake up and smell the coffee.
does she like to be slapped around
Well I wouldn't self-diagnosis her. First of all there are many other symptoms that go with being bipolar: in their manic phase: they tend to talk really fast, but incoherently switching subjects constantly. They tend to have feelings of grandiosity, like they can do anything and take on big projects, they get angry easily, many many symptoms. So you should look to see if she has these symptoms. If she does, please take her to a psychiatrist, she needs to be medicated.





As for the cheating, i don't know if you can blame that on bipolar, I knew someone that was, and that's not what they were like. Are you sure you aren't making up excuses for her to justify her cheating so you can be with her??? You both need to get counseling, and make it clear you are not okay with the cheating. She'll keep doing it again and again if you forgive her easily. If it were me, I'd say, its over until you can get your act together.
go to a doctor, tell them ur problems and see if its a mental thing or not. good luck.
you need to get her to a doctor that can help her and give her the meds she needs. Thyroid medicine has nothing to do with how she acts. Synthroid is a maintenance medication that has no side effects, sexual or otherwise. Better take her before it's to late, Sounds a bit strange to me
Is it loving or is it obsessing? Seems to me there is not much love from someone who will not at least try to control their sexual cravings, nor much from someone who will consider facilitating them because he feels failure. Your wife may well be bi-polar, and untreated there is a near insatiable hunger for sex. Women are more affected then are men, and it is often easier for them to have lovers. I am a manic-depressive under treatment for over 30 years and I know some of my early experiences with the illness. There is still a good bit of self-control that a person can exert, although it is understandably harder for someone so young.


I also had hypothyroidism and it can rev you up. The medicine is not always effective for awhile.





It is unfortunate that you have the problems you have, but I doubt that it would make much difference to your wife. If she is so crazed for sex, it shouldn't make any difference to her--she'd at least want to try to be successful with you. I really see all of this as an excuse for her to go and have her fun, come back to your umbrella of yielding love, and for her to avoid her responsibilites to you and your marriage, all without much price. You are just aiding her to be unfaithful now. I had such a young wife who chuckholded me but realized she couldn't get away with it indifinitely. She left me for ';other men.'; It happens to a lot of us.





It would definitely try to get your wife to a psychiatrist for proper and thorough evaluation. Manic-depression (bi-polar illness) is not always easy to diagnose. However, new means to diagnose it are being used with good results. Medications are very effective when they are kept up by the patient. Often they are not. Getting your wife to a doctor might be a trick since many protest that they are okay; in fact, they'll say, it's you who needs a shrink.
there is no excuse(with her illness) for her to tell you these things- i think she knows she can get away with murder and you won't say anything(having another guy) you need to ask yourself if she really loves you -- buy her a vibrator
Her being possibly bi-polar is no reason for cheating. There are other ways to please each other. Seek medical attention.