Need advice ! My wife is killing me!?

I love my wife, but we are having strong arguments lately and she already cross the line breaking one computer, my cell phone, hiting our dog to hurt me, calling my family horrible names and what is worst: she has called the police on me and I didint touch her !! just to bother me ... I went to a phsycologist, therapist, EVERYTHING !! I am not an angel and I act aggresively when I loose it but NEVER violence !!! she has throw things to me, even sissors that almost cut me or who knows ... what can I do? she wont leave me and to be honest I am willing to fight for this relationship ... but calling me names and all this violence is killing me inside. Any advice?Need advice ! My wife is killing me!?
It's interesting b/c I think if you were a woman I think every response would be leave the guy, but since you are a guy everyone thinks well you will be fine, but I think you are in a dangerous place with her. People that hurt defenseless animals, what can you say about that....Calling the police when you hadn't touched her seems disturbing. If she loses control too much seems likely %26amp; you could get seriously hurt at some point, what if she had a weapon, or if you had to defend yourself that would be bad too? I think you should probably leave her for your own safety sorry.





If she gets counseling for her violence/anger issues for long-term (I think it would take months) and then you still feel like fighting for the relationship then, do so, but I would only do so AFTER she has had long-term counseling for her anger %26amp; violence problems AND her counselor feels it is safe for you to do so. And if there are children involved I think you should take them with you!!!Need advice ! My wife is killing me!?
I guess you just need to ask yourself how much is enough? Is it really worth it to stay in a relationship that is emotionally damaging not to mention physically.


If she is already calling the police on you, you need to think about the long term ramifications to a (possibly) false police record.


I think if you are truly wanting to fight for this relationship it would be a good idea for the both of you to attend counseling together. Something is broken in this relationship either with one or both of you. I don't think fighting to save this relationship alone is going to help matters.


Good luck and hang in there...whichever you decide.
You may be willing to fight for this relationship, but is it worth fighting for?





If we are to take everything you've told as the God's honest truth, this is one relationship a sane person would RUN from, as fast and as far away as possible. This is not a marriage. This is a boxing ring. You are not a husband. You are a punching bag.





Thank goodness there are no children--I hope????





Please, TAKE THE DOG and take yourself and GET OUT to a safe place. Consult a lawyer IMMEDIATELY about how to Cover Your ***..ets. Don't call her and chat her up, and for God's sake, DON'T go back for ';conjugal visits.';





I'm sure you have family and friends who are waiting for you to see the light. Go to them. Start your life over.





Good luck!
I feel for you,my brother had a wife that did the same things to him,she bellitled every chance she had and was always up his back for thi that and the other thing, when she got mad (24/7) she threw anything and everything at my brother,chairs,phones,kitchen utensils the vcr etc etc! she cursed a blue streak at him and the three children.oh she made the tazmanian devil look like an angel ! he could not take her s**t any more and hre divorced her.shes a beast!
call the cops on her one time. that should chill her violent behavior. if it doesn't you better go because she WILL eventually kill you. violence only gets worse, it never gets better on it's own...
You may not be an angel, but she is a lunatic! She hit your dog to hurt you? I pray she never has kids...RUN, DON'T WALK as fast as you can away from this person. She is abusive and unstable. If you don't, your family may end up on the news crying over you. She needs help, but it is NOT up to you to see she gets it. You say you are willing to fight for this relationship. Are you willing to fight for your life? I hope it never comes to that. Get out, and don't look back. Good luck.
Perhaps some counseling will benefit you both. To learn how to communicate, while controlling anger.
That is so sad to hear, but it sounds like the two of you are really bad for each other. God, I pray there are no children involved. Please try and get help so that you can start a plan of how to get separated from her or maybe get a divorce. No one should have to live that way.
sorry, but you need to get out of there, take your pets with you. You should not have to live in these circumstances. Think of the long term. Can you seriously see your self lining with this woman for the rest of your life? growing old together? No body deserves to be treated like that. Good luck
I know it's not easy living with a person you love so much, and it does seem like the love is coming back to you.I use to be the wife that use to go off on my husband, because i had a lot of bad thing happen to me. And i took them out on him, and I wanted to stop but i was so angery on the inside. It took my husband to sit me down and pour his heart out to me, about how much I hurt him. He cryed and he was so loving and genine, and it took me see the hurt I caused him to see myself. I truly didn't want to hurt him, i didn't want him to hurt like i did.So he work with me , it was like he was my own pesonal counselor. But it take a strong man to do that, and if your not that strong. Then you have to do whats best for you, so you can be happy.
you need to get out of this as soon as possible, this women


is abusive, and that not good. it will only get worst not better


it take both of you trying to make this work. it really sound


lkke you are the only one that once this to work. it might


not be worth fighting for. dont you think.
HOW can this be? Women aren't violent. I've never seen a story on CNN, or Good Morning America, or even on Oprah about violent women, therefore they don't exist.





Why are you telling lies? Why are you denegrating women? You need to turn yourself in to the PC police and apologize.





Women are angels, and VICTIMs, you better get on board, or you're gonna catch hell.
This woman is obviously violent and has no control of her temper whatsoever. She needs to see a therapist, and get anger management counselling.





The other suggestion is what the others said -- marriage counselling.
You admit your not an angel, you see psycologists, therapists and everything. You act aggressively, but are never violent? I think you have totally turned your wife (the love of your life) against you. She reallys hates your presence in the home and I believe you have really gone and done it this time. Violence can come in many forms, maybe you feel you haven't physically attacked her, but you may have threatened her one too many times. It would be better for you to leave the marriage at once, whether you want to or not. Leave and don't ever go back to reconcile, it's not jealousy, it's hatred. She is showing you how she feels around you. Don't you just feel the love?? The odds of her winning a case against you for mental cruelty are great, especially if she didn't show signs of aggravation before she married you or until after your own show of aggression. File for separation (pending divorce) then get some real help for your aggressive / argumentative behavior. Let her sort out her own troubles.
go to a marriage councellor together! theres no point trying if she is not willing!