Need Advice: Ex-Wife calling...?

Me and my ex-wife just recently got divorced in December. She was with someone while I was in Korea for a year. I am in the military and joined for her. We have known each other for more than 10 years, dated for 2 years on and off and finally got married. She tells me that she isn't sure about the guy whom shes engaged with. From what she tells me, he treats her pretty badly. We haven't really talked much since the divorce but we spent about 7 hours talking online yesterday. There are alot more details involved in the story. But I need some advice. I don't know if I should continue talking to her or tell her that I think that we shouldn't talk. I love talking to her, I miss her, and I think if everything boiled down right to it, I would take her back. But most of my friends in my hometown saw her always riding around with different guys and she left in me $15,000 in debt. What should I do????Need Advice: Ex-Wife calling...?
She has already shown you her true colors. She can not be faithful to you or anyone, no matter who you are or what you do. If you are seeking more heartbreak and want to go into a lot more debt, by all means, take her back. My guess is that she probably told the guy she is now engaged to that YOU treated her pretty badly as well. She sounds like the type of woman who bounces from man to man, looking to ';trade up'; to someone better each time. She looks for someone who will take care of her and put up with her behavior, looking the other way when she cheats. There is an old saying I'm going to paraphrase here: ';You use me once, shame on you. You use me twice, shame on me.'; Your eyes are open. How much more pain do you want to endure from her?Need Advice: Ex-Wife calling...?
RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN!





If she cheated on you, you can count on her to do it again and again. Wouldn't you wonder all the time about what she was doing and if she was cheating on your again?





Not to mention the fact that she left you $15,000 in debt. Who really does that to someone!?!? This girl sounds selfish and manipulative. Let the new guy have her!





Remember the old saying ';fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me!)
RUN AWAY. Your ex wife is an ex for good reason. Please be kind to yourself and stay away from her. Just because you miss her isn't good enough reason to reconcile. She doesn't deserve you and you deserve much better.
Just keep the hoe for a booty call or dump her. She just wants a shoulder to cry on, you may as well use her back. She can cry and you can get your jollies.
Run. Run very fast in the other direction. She will never be faithful to you so run the other direction as fast as you can. Cut the ties and move on. YOU DESERVE BETTER!
I would cut her off and run.





I wouldn't answer any texts, calls, email, anything. She sounds like trouble and you made the right decision in divorcing her. Let her ruin someone else's life now.
Make her pay off the $15000.00 debt, take her back and live happily ever after. If you don't, the debt will always be an issue.
looks like the grass wasn't greener on the other side, and these guys she's riding around with aren't allowing her to run them into debt, so she wants you back. hello!
In the long run, you are better off, she made her own bed, let her sleep in it. Besides, she comes back to you until she finds another guy she might think would make her happy....
don't take her back!!!


pay off your debt as soon as you can.


do your best to avoid her.


it sounds like she's starting to regret her choice.


once a cheater...
boy grow up, you got lucky you have gotten rid of her amicably so keep it that way and move on


you will find womone that deserve you
Go back and tap it a few more times. But leave the love at home. Revenge sex is good for your ego.
leave the past behind and move on!
Mrs. G has the right of it.
Take Emma's advice. I trust her decision.
No nice way to say this - but if you do not have a child with her, STAY AS FAR AWAY AS YOU CAN!





And don't waste time talking to her - she is just going to tell you how bad her life is now - in the hopes that you will volunteer to help her out. And if you do ';help her out';, she will be back to her old life-style while you were in Korea.





At $15,000 in debt, you have paid very highly for her time and attention.





Sometimes it can be very hard to find the person you match with (match in terms of you love them, and they love you). Sometimes people are looking for love. Sometimes sex. And sometimes, someone they can get things from - like money, free room %26amp; board, etc.





I would suggest the next time on-line, you tell her something like:


After we were together so long, it was obvious we were not going to survive as a couple so we got a divorce. I don't want to stand in your way of finding happiness. I'm sure you'll be able to work things out. You can do it. Good-luck.





And then don't answer her anymore. Time she grew up and stopped expecting you to get her out of trouble that she gets herself into. Way to look at it, is that she can get herself into more trouble than you or anybody else can get her out of.
Sounds to me like she's stringing you along in case she needs money/a home/friendship eventually.


Cut all ties to her, she is a user, and you need to move on.


Good luck.
I may not get a popular vote for this one...





I'm going to play Devil's Advocate here and say that I can see why things happened the way they have. Under the circumstances anyway.


Anyone who has been in a military relationship/marriage can attest to the difficulty of being left behind.


Some relationships have foundations that let them weather it, some don't.


But I don't know if it is the typical cheater you are dealing with and I don't feel it fair to make that call with only what we know here.





My heart hurts for you mate. You sound like you truly love this woman.





First response would be to move on. It would be the only way to be sure she won't be hurting you again. But if you do, you MUST stop talking, period.


While I don't feel it is fair to label her, I will say that the road you are going down at this moment isn't going to fair well for anyone involved.





If she seriously isn't sure about the man she is engaged to, she should be telling him that, not you. I'm sure he would love to know she has second thoughts.


I'd also not really be speaking to a woman who is engaged for 7 hours on the phone.


That is something you do when you are seeing someone.





If you ever question what is going on...put yourself in his shoes.


If he were to leave town for a year...what are the odds she'd be riding around with you?





The debt depends. You can try to get that awarded to you through the courts, but I don't feel you are wanting to do that really. It will depend on what it is from and how it was incurred.





At any rate. Good luck.
hhhmmm, at least you did not cheat on her while in Korea, man when I was in korea, the guys did not know the meaning of the words ';I am married.';


well anyways, she left you and now she is cheating on her guy she is engaged to, seems she either picks guys that will abandon her or she will just cheat, this is a chanc eyou will take if you continue commuicating with her, eventually she will want to go to bed with you and then you have to decide if she wants to come back to her, I guess you enjoy being the other man this time around,eh?
I didn't your your whole paragraph because it got boring but I say you bang her one last time then dump her for good. Sounds like a good idea to me.