I need some advice. My wife of 10 years is leaving me for another man...?

We have 3 daughters together ages 4, 7 and 8. She has decided to move in with her new boyfriend and things are progressing extremely fast in my opinion with him. She tells me they are in love etc.. She wants me to have primary customer of the children. All of this happened in the past month and no divorce has been filed yet. I am extremely worried about my kids going to see her and meet a new man making the already tough divorce more awkward for them. Am I wrong in thinking she's making a terrible decision for the children's interests by moving in with someone else immediately or is it just my hurt feelings? I feel terrible about the whole situation. My main question however is when is it appropriate for the kids to meet him?I need some advice. My wife of 10 years is leaving me for another man...?
Realize you can't control another person, no matter how stupid they are.





Your wife is making a huge mistake bringing the children into the new relationship this early. At their age, they will be confused and get a ton of mixed signals from everyone.





You can't however stop her any way except legally. Start with a psychoilogist, get depositions, family counselors etc. Have your lawyer present it to the court. Chances are it will be a coin toss.





She's stupid, and there is nothing you can really do about it.I need some advice. My wife of 10 years is leaving me for another man...?
The kids meeting their mother is not up to you.
File for a divorce and get full custody of your children. Ask your lawyer what he would advise you to do about the children going to visit their mother in her home, while she is living with a man they don't even know.





What ever you do, don't try to prevent your children from seeing their mother. They need to have their mother in their lives.
If she's only known him for a few months then i think she's jumping the gun by moving in with him, but you can't stop that happening. She may be looking at a broken heart in a few months time.


Your worry is the children isn't it. Well i don't know how she she can just up and leave them for another man! They will be confused and hurt. She may not be thinking straight but those kids could suffer long term anxiety issues because of her behaviour.


I would suggest that she moves out on her own, not into his place, let the kids deal with that first. Then slowly, in a few months time, not straight away, introduce the kids to this man. He may no longer be around by then. I'd explain to her that you want to protect them from gettinh hurt. Plus she may drive a wedge between herself and the kids by moving in with him, as they'll feel protective towards you.


Good Luck, i do hope i've been some help to you, my husband's first wife behaved in a similar uncaring fashion, and their son now lives with us and has done for 9 years, he rarely sees his mum, and it's a shame.
Move on with your life now and leave her to screw up her life it won,t last long so don,t worry about her, just get on with yours and take good care of your little girls.


My opinion of visiting rights for the girls is not to let her have them when the boyfriend is around, let your girls settle down get over the loss of their mother before you let her introduce them to another man and for gods sake don,t take her back when this relationship fails.It was her choice to leave such young children so keep her out of their life as long as you can. Good luck with your girls mate.
thats really personal its really between u and her but i wish u all the luck to u god bless
It is too bad for the children's sake that she is acting so quickly. You have every right to be hurt and upset about her actions. She is acting extremely selfish. As far as you obtaining custody,do it. You do not know this man and you have daughters to look after. She is acting out of lust at this point, not love.





Keep your head up for those daughters of yours!!!
I think yr wife may be more 'in lust' with this guy, there's a huge difference between love %26amp; lust. Not too many women would ask their ex's to be the primary care-giver of their children? It seems a very selfish %26amp; callous act on her behalf.





IDK what yr situation is as you are the only one that can truly answer the 'real' question. I wouldn't let this guy meet yr girls for an overly long period of time %26amp; then it should be after yr ex %26amp; him have been together for between 4-6 mths %26amp; only during the day time in an open/public space.





You don't know this guy fr Adam how can you trust yr daughters physical %26amp; emotional well-being in his presence? Yr daughters may require some form of counselling as a coping mechanism. Take care it is a very delicate situation, perhaps some counselling for yourself may assist in yr decision making too?
Honestly, Just the fact that your marriage has gone south is tragic in it's self. No matter what, Your kids are going to feel the effects of their parents breaking up. There is not much you can do to sugar coat it but to be honest with them. Don't give them any false hopes, But at the same time, Try to give them all the support and love they need at this horrible moment. Do positive things together.


As for you, Take things one step at a time. Don't argue, Fuss or fight in front of the kids. Try to surround yourself in a positive environment like a church or something like that. If you believe in God, Pray! Not trying to get religious on ya.


Hey man, I feel for ya. Unfortunately, There is not much you can do about what your wife does or how she'll behave. It seems that there will never be an appropriate time for your kids to meet this new figure in their lives. But, Be strong for your self and your kids.





God Bless.
Wow, my wife married me after only like a year or so of divorce being finalized and she kept saying how badly she hated divorce and that she loved me and now she's planning on the same thing with us now that we have a baby on the way. she was married 14 years b4 she met me and now she tells me she doesn't love me and never did and that she still loves her ex but that she wouldn't go back to him because of his abuse and manipulative and controlling and filthy life style, she has two kids by him and doesn't have any custody. Woman are crazy, they love ***-holes, and I'm a sucker for hott woman. But one thing I'll tell ya is ya just never know what kind of guy this guy is.. her ex was worried I'd rape there daughter and I never touched her.. and now they miss me because my wife asked me to leave her, kinda hard when the baby isn't even born yet.. I had to move to my parents house again! yippy!! I think you should wait like atleast 6 months.. it might not last that long.. my marriage hasn't.. she got prego on our honeymoon and brought up divorce after only like a month or so..
Obviously your wife doesn't care what you or the kids think. I would not allow them to go there at all. Talk about screwing up kids lives, what a selfish pig........She wants you to have them and she just up and leaves. I would do everything I could to keep them away from her.
After i separated/divorced my children's father and i started dating again, i did it very privately, and they didn't meet anyone until i knew it was a relationship that had some meeting or i felt was going to last some time.... she probably is rushing it,but we are all different, take the primary custody of the kids,there's nothing you can do about what she is doing, but just be a great dad to you kids, don't bag her to them ever, and just be the bigger person.


Wishing you luck.
Surely your wife will not introduce your children to a new guy during such a painful time. The thing to do now is to talk to her about your concerns in a way that will not cause her to become defensive.